Anonymous
Post 04/09/2024 08:12     Subject: Since everyone is discussing tryouts
When kids are looking over at parents during practice and games for approval or signs of disappointment, that kid is not focused on what they should be.
Anonymous
Post 04/08/2024 09:46     Subject: Since everyone is discussing tryouts
And which categorize to you fit into?



Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Aside from tryouts, I definitely recommend watching the coach closely at practice. Not al coaches are awesome at being a coach. This is a service we are paying a lot for in a competitive market. I think half the families on our team are drop-off and go parents and the other half are stay and watch parents. It all depends what you want for your child, I'd watch if you can. But if they don't allow parents to watch, then so be it.


Car mechanics watching an Electrician and passing judgment


I am a travel coach, (I don't coach my own kid, but there are plenty of coaches I wouldn't want my kid playing for)...seriously, the coaches the clubs hire, in terms of quality is all over the map. Some have little experience and are learning on the fly with your kids, some over coach, over joy-stick the kids, some are lazy and scrimmage constantly, some try new drills every week and nothing works out... must kids won't notice this stuff. But compared to quality coaches where everything is clicking and you hear what the coach is talking about to the kids, then you can determine what your getting for the next 10 months for the money.

It's just like with school, either you're involved or you're not.

And hopefully, the coach is fine to great and you can just enjoy watching you kid play soccer.
Anonymous
Post 04/08/2024 09:45     Subject: Since everyone is discussing tryouts
What age group? We have snobby coaches. Their rule is 'we do not talk to parents, we talk to players'.


Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
NEVER has a coach came to talk to the parents to tell us about their plans next year. NEVER!


Anonymous wrote:Often the coaches come over and talk to parents before the first tryout so you learn about them and their plans for the next year.


Really? Our coach does every year. He says mostly the same thing so I honestly think he's trying to ID the cray cray parents in advance. Some that are new to the club (and seemingly soccer) ask off the wall questions.
Anonymous
Post 04/07/2024 23:09     Subject: Since everyone is discussing tryouts
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Aside from tryouts, I definitely recommend watching the coach closely at practice. Not al coaches are awesome at being a coach. This is a service we are paying a lot for in a competitive market. I think half the families on our team are drop-off and go parents and the other half are stay and watch parents. It all depends what you want for your child, I'd watch if you can. But if they don't allow parents to watch, then so be it.


Car mechanics watching an Electrician and passing judgment


I am a travel coach, (I don't coach my own kid, but there are plenty of coaches I wouldn't want my kid playing for)...seriously, the coaches the clubs hire, in terms of quality is all over the map. Some have little experience and are learning on the fly with your kids, some over coach, over joy-stick the kids, some are lazy and scrimmage constantly, some try new drills every week and nothing works out... must kids won't notice this stuff. But compared to quality coaches where everything is clicking and you hear what the coach is talking about to the kids, then you can determine what your getting for the next 10 months for the money.

It's just like with school, either you're involved or you're not.

And hopefully, the coach is fine to great and you can just enjoy watching you kid play soccer.


Said no real coach ever
Anonymous
Post 04/07/2024 19:53     Subject: Since everyone is discussing tryouts
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Aside from tryouts, I definitely recommend watching the coach closely at practice. Not al coaches are awesome at being a coach. This is a service we are paying a lot for in a competitive market. I think half the families on our team are drop-off and go parents and the other half are stay and watch parents. It all depends what you want for your child, I'd watch if you can. But if they don't allow parents to watch, then so be it.


Car mechanics watching an Electrician and passing judgment


I am a travel coach, (I don't coach my own kid, but there are plenty of coaches I wouldn't want my kid playing for)...seriously, the coaches the clubs hire, in terms of quality is all over the map. Some have little experience and are learning on the fly with your kids, some over coach, over joy-stick the kids, some are lazy and scrimmage constantly, some try new drills every week and nothing works out... must kids won't notice this stuff. But compared to quality coaches where everything is clicking and you hear what the coach is talking about to the kids, then you can determine what your getting for the next 10 months for the money.

It's just like with school, either you're involved or you're not.

And hopefully, the coach is fine to great and you can just enjoy watching you kid play soccer.
Anonymous
Post 04/07/2024 18:07     Subject: Since everyone is discussing tryouts
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
NEVER has a coach came to talk to the parents to tell us about their plans next year. NEVER!


Anonymous wrote:Often the coaches come over and talk to parents before the first tryout so you learn about them and their plans for the next year.


Really? Our coach does every year. He says mostly the same thing so I honestly think he's trying to ID the cray cray parents in advance. Some that are new to the club (and seemingly soccer) ask off the wall questions.


I've seen coaches sign up cray cray parents just for that 1 kid. Making deals with the devil i say; this makes it a long year and the coach ends up losing kids for the 1 kid who comes with baggage.
Anonymous
Post 04/07/2024 16:13     Subject: Since everyone is discussing tryouts
Anonymous wrote:
NEVER has a coach came to talk to the parents to tell us about their plans next year. NEVER!


Anonymous wrote:Often the coaches come over and talk to parents before the first tryout so you learn about them and their plans for the next year.


Really? Our coach does every year. He says mostly the same thing so I honestly think he's trying to ID the cray cray parents in advance. Some that are new to the club (and seemingly soccer) ask off the wall questions.
Anonymous
Post 04/06/2024 11:53     Subject: Since everyone is discussing tryouts
Anonymous wrote:Aside from tryouts, I definitely recommend watching the coach closely at practice. Not al coaches are awesome at being a coach. This is a service we are paying a lot for in a competitive market. I think half the families on our team are drop-off and go parents and the other half are stay and watch parents. It all depends what you want for your child, I'd watch if you can. But if they don't allow parents to watch, then so be it.


Car mechanics watching an Electrician and passing judgment
Anonymous
Post 04/06/2024 10:53     Subject: Since everyone is discussing tryouts
Anonymous wrote:Control freaks


Insecure Control Freaks

then they harass the poor kid in the car on the way home
Anonymous
Post 04/06/2024 10:39     Subject: Since everyone is discussing tryouts
Aside from tryouts, I definitely recommend watching the coach closely at practice. Not al coaches are awesome at being a coach. This is a service we are paying a lot for in a competitive market. I think half the families on our team are drop-off and go parents and the other half are stay and watch parents. It all depends what you want for your child, I'd watch if you can. But if they don't allow parents to watch, then so be it.
Anonymous
Post 04/06/2024 09:46     Subject: Since everyone is discussing tryouts
What difference does it make to you if other parents stay and watch? Just let people live, sheesh.
Anonymous
Post 04/06/2024 09:40     Subject: Re:Since everyone is discussing tryouts
People sometimes it’s just logistics. Some families drive a good distance to a tryout or practice. That was the case with my kid. Even dropping him and going to a Starbucks wasn’t an option due to rush hour traffic. So I hung out at the field - chatted with parents, watched a bit. Lots of parents walked loops around the school track.
Anonymous
Post 04/06/2024 08:04     Subject: Since everyone is discussing tryouts
If coach tells parents not to watch club practices you've been warned. No reason for that if parents are well behaved. Unless coach has something to hide. Would not let me child play at those clubs.
As coach it annoyed me parents did not watch. Would explain a lot to parents come game results and playing time.
Anonymous
Post 04/06/2024 07:55     Subject: Since everyone is discussing tryouts
I think the perspective that should matter is: Does it help the kid for the parent to be watching? Maybe it gives some re-assurance if they see you. If you really know the game and the circumstances are just right, maybe you are able to give some recommendations that matter in a subsequent session. But, generally, it probably isn’t helpful for the kid.
Anonymous
Post 04/06/2024 07:44     Subject: Since everyone is discussing tryouts
Anonymous wrote:I wonder if all the parents watching would have wanted their own parents hovering when they were teens?


loved to have had my parents watching, thanks. why hovering to you?