We ALL do that, people. Not just men. We all overlook certain faults because we find our significant other's positive attributes outweigh the bad. Often when we're young, the positive attributes are physical.

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Anonymous wrote:Wondering. I was hurt and cheated on by my last bf and he had told someone that he had stayed with me because of my looks which really hurt me. I was ride or die with him until he cheated. The relationship should have ended years before it did actually. I do like my personal space however and this bothered him. He wanted someone around him all the time. So now that I'm seeing/talking to someone new I worry about the same thing.

Most educated men wouldn't marry a high school drop out no matter how attractive she is.

It seems like the older and richer the man, the less he cares about a woman's education.

Anonymous wrote:Men often use the 20 rule:
body, face, + personality = at least 20
A 10 body and a 10 face will get you there

WTF does this even mean?

Man here - everybody has qualities or traits that are not ideal because no one is perfect so the answer is yes. But, if those traits are really annoying you will bail out no matter how attractive she is. If someone becomes a PITA it’s not worth sticking around. I once had a gorgeous girlfriend but she became a whining princess and drove me nuts.

Nope. Sorry you dated someone shallow.

I see it all the time, not just romantically but also professionally. Less attractive women have to work harder to prove themselves. I remember one attractive but pretty mediocre coworker (in terms of productivity/value) -- my employer went through many hoops to sponsor her visa...
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I disagree with abusive relationship comment though. A lot of people in abusive relationships simply have low self-esteem or grew up abused, and therefore normalized such behavior.

Anonymous wrote:Wondering. I was hurt and cheated on by my last bf and he had told someone that he had stayed with me because of my looks which really hurt me. I was ride or die with him until he cheated. The relationship should have ended years before it did actually. I do like my personal space however and this bothered him. He wanted someone around him all the time. So now that I'm seeing/talking to someone new I worry about the same thing.

Most educated men wouldn't marry a high school drop out no matter how attractive she is.

Of course. Men and women are both willing to overlook flaws and stay together with peopel when they shouldn't.

Look at how many women stay together with their abusers. It's not logical, is it?

Anonymous wrote:Sex will blind most anyone to personality disorders, come on!

100%

We need a thread on this topic and how one gets past the blindness/fog!

I have known many amazing and beautiful women (probably men too, but they don’t confide in me as much) who are with partners (boyfriends, husbands) who are clearly cheaters, liars, idiots, or simply self-centered and yet they stay. They come to ask for advice, but they never take it.

My advice is always some version of “listen to yourself, what would you advise me if I were telling you what you are saying to me right now? You need to leave the schmuck and find a proper man,” but it rarely if ever works. “Yes, I know you’re right, but I love him” is usually the response. And I’ve seen this with high school friends 25+ years ago to now, in mid-life, and these are (otherwise) intelligent women…

Currently dating someone who’s imperfect but extremely attractive (to me). He also has incredible positive qualities that make the imperfections worth it.

Sex will blind most anyone to personality disorders, come on!

Of course a man would be willing to put up with traits for a woman he found attractive and good in bed together.

I also think these men end up not marrying these women.