How old are you both?


Is this your first serious relationship?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have you been together for several year and she is worried about her biological clock? Is she into drinking or drugs or facing some illness?

OP here. We have been together for 2 years. No drugs or drinking. We don’t plan on having kids.

Of course not she's a permanent child.

Anonymous wrote:This seems a lot like LW2 of Ask Amy today:

https://www.washingtonpost.com/advice/2024/04/02/ask-amy-close-kids-husband-annoyed/

OP here. My girlfriend name isn’t Amy.

Anonymous wrote:Have you been together for several year and she is worried about her biological clock? Is she into drinking or drugs or facing some illness?

OP here. We have been together for 2 years. No drugs or drinking. We don’t plan on having kids.

Anonymous wrote:What's going on with her, she doesn't want to work, doesn't want to go back to school, doesn't want to stay with you if you don't agree. Is she depressed?

OP here. She isn’t depressed. She deals with some chronic pain issues stemming from am injury. She likes her career but it is a demanding job. She wanted to advance her degree and has decided it’s too much for her. I think she should get a less labor intensive job.

This seems a lot like LW2 of Ask Amy today:

https://www.washingtonpost.com/advice/2024/04/02/ask-amy-close-kids-husband-annoyed/

Bad idea when you will not marry her.

Advise her to talk to a career counselor to sort herself out and have a concrete plan before quitting.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Where are her parents? Why can't they support her? As far as you supporting her, only if you've been with her for more than three years, intend to marry her and only for an agreed upon period shorter than three months.

OP here. Her parents are retired and live in another state. We are both grown adults. She’s 30.

I did intend to marry her but this has made me question if she’s the right partner for me.

You are in the driver's seat here, OP. The good news is she showed you who she. Now, believe her.

Anonymous wrote:If she ‘needs a break’ at 30 with no kids then she’s going to be a serious liability when life actually gets tough.

Agree with this.

30? Clearly 1st choice career is not working out for her and now back to school to try again?
Most responsible adults take on 2nd degrees while maintaining usu work schedule and income. In fact, many employers will pay some portion of tuition.
Lots of alarms going off

Anonymous wrote:Dump her she’s using you.

+1

OP, this is unacceptable. She needs to work or go to school in order to get a degree is something she prefers so she can go back to work.

She doesn't want to work. You are her ticket. I'm thinking there might be an imbalance of power here, with her having more--for whatever reason.

I'm glad you didn't handle it well. She needs to know out of the gate that she isn't getting a free ride.

Anonymous wrote:Don’t marry her unless you’re ready to marry her, have a baby and want her to be a SAHM. She’s looking for a sugar daddy, if that’s what you want then go for it. Nothing wrong with that. Otherwise run before she gets knocked up.

We don't know that. Don't jump to conclusions.

If she ‘needs a break’ at 30 with no kids then she’s going to be a serious liability when life actually gets tough.