Slow your roll, Lady.

I wouldn’t bring it up again.

Instead, I would stop reaching out. Let him ping you…or not.

If he calls or texts, don’t respond right away.

Don’t be so available.

Move on sis. He's hiding something.

When is he putting it on DND? And why don’t you just call twice so it goes through the DND?

Anonymous wrote:I would listen to my gut on this & assume that he is seeing other people.

Most telling is that he is telling you he will change - yet still continues the behavior.

This. Sorry, OP.

Anonymous wrote:I would listen to my gut on this & assume that he is seeing other people.

Most telling is that he is telling you he will change - yet still continues the behavior.

OP here. My gut tells me he is faithful, likes me, and just isn’t tied to his phone. but my brain tells me, don’t be a fool.

The clash is unsettling, so I’m just going to end it. It was just hard to arrive at that decision because I really enjoy the relationship outside of this, and it feels like finding a match at this stage in life is nearly impossible.

I would listen to my gut on this & assume that he is seeing other people.

Most telling is that he is telling you he will change - yet still continues the behavior.

Only let it slide if you want more of it, including being told stuff like "well, you didn't call me out on it for a bit, so I assumed it was fine"

Anonymous wrote:Can't stand women who need me to be available to them 24/7. They seem to not understand what my life is like--kids, challenging job, lots to do.

If your boundary is "I'm unavailable at these times" that's one thing. But a quick "hey, I'm busy. Can I call you tomorrow" is very different from airplane mode w/o prior communication.

And if you were told it looked shady and agreed to stop, then kept doing it, it's because you're shady, not busy. Nobody is that busy for the things that are important to them.

Anonymous wrote:I think you know the answer to this. Either he isn't divorced, or he is not "exclusive" at all.

Yes. And he’s not that into you.