He’s annoying. I don’t want to hear anything else about this relationship. Please end it

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I should add he doesn't like condoms and I wasn't on BC when we met. He has been fine with unprotected sex and doesn't like pulling out. I had to take plan b and now I started the pill even though I hate the hormones. I said if I got pregnant that I would want an abortion since it's so early, he says he would be happy with me having his baby.
Just makes me more suspicious that he could be careless like this with another woman, since he seems to want a baby and doesn't care about waiting too much first. That's why it wouldn't surprise me if he needed the test for another woman.

😳 OMG OP. Get STD tested now!

What?! You “had to use plan B” because he didn’t want to use a condom or pull out, but that was just A-OK because he was fine with you having his baby?!?! And this is only 2 months in. And you don’t react well to the hormones of BCP but you had no choice because…dude doesn’t like condoms.

OP, I’m concerned that you are not using good judgment, especially after what you’ve been through in the past. This guy sounds terrible.

This guy sounds like a loser.

1) Already has a kid/is not with the mother/unfazed by the idea of new pregnancy accident

2) Unaware of contents of his house when hosting a new gf. Pregnancy tests aren't a particularly logical fit for setting near the bed.

3) Looking in his drawers with intent to find evidence is a bit invasive but at my house I wouldn't consider bathroom drawers off-limits to a partner. It's not a pile of mail, a checkbook, or a computer. My bathroom doesn't contain anything private...only supplies like soap, toilet paper, first aid, OTC meds. I wouldn't consider it off limits because a partner might need a bandaid, more toilet paper, etc. Even if I had sensitive meds because I believe health issues should be disclosed.

Dump this guy already.

Anonymous wrote:1. First sex should have been at his place: why was it always at yours or hotels? It does seem from that he was sleeping with other woman and deciding between you two.
2. He’s extremely careless - I would worry for STDs big time. Are you crazy, OP? Not using protection first sex, did he show you the std test including genital herpes?

I wouldn’t trust him either and in fact I would run from this guy who doesn’t like condoms asap

Fun fact: there is no screening test for genital herpes. You can get a lesion swabbed and know you have it, but there is no way to prove that you don’t.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I should add he doesn't like condoms and I wasn't on BC when we met. He has been fine with unprotected sex and doesn't like pulling out. I had to take plan b and now I started the pill even though I hate the hormones. I said if I got pregnant that I would want an abortion since it's so early, he says he would be happy with me having his baby.
Just makes me more suspicious that he could be careless like this with another woman, since he seems to want a baby and doesn't care about waiting too much first. That's why it wouldn't surprise me if he needed the test for another woman.

You’re an idiot. Don’t take birth control if you don’t like the side effects. Tell him he can use condoms or he can choose not to have sex with you. And it’s dangerous std wise to have condom less sex, especially only two months in

You sound like a complete idiot OP. Literally no words. Whatever nonsense you posted about in your first post is the least of your problems.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I should add he doesn't like condoms and I wasn't on BC when we met. He has been fine with unprotected sex and doesn't like pulling out. I had to take plan b and now I started the pill even though I hate the hormones. I said if I got pregnant that I would want an abortion since it's so early, he says he would be happy with me having his baby.
Just makes me more suspicious that he could be careless like this with another woman, since he seems to want a baby and doesn't care about waiting too much first. That's why it wouldn't surprise me if he needed the test for another woman.

This is so trashy, I can't even...

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I should add he doesn't like condoms and I wasn't on BC when we met. He has been fine with unprotected sex and doesn't like pulling out. I had to take plan b and now I started the pill even though I hate the hormones. I said if I got pregnant that I would want an abortion since it's so early, he says he would be happy with me having his baby.
Just makes me more suspicious that he could be careless like this with another woman, since he seems to want a baby and doesn't care about waiting too much first. That's why it wouldn't surprise me if he needed the test for another woman.

You’re an idiot. Don’t take birth control if you don’t like the side effects. Tell him he can use condoms or he can choose not to have sex with you. And it’s dangerous std wise to have condom less sex, especially only two months in

Do not tie yourself to this man for the next several decades by having a child with him, and do not let him give you AIDS or whatever he's got percolating. You are not going to have a healthy relationship so if he doesn't end it, you should.

I’m a woman and you sound really young OP. I agree that you’re not exempt from blame given you’re a willing participant. I advise you to please cut your losses and find a guy who will respect that condoms or a form of birth control is important until you choose to have a child. You need to stand up for yourself and be adamant that condoms are a must and sex will not be had until then. Even then, look into other forms as condoms are not 100% effective.

I don’t agree with looking through his personal items, but his explanation doesn’t really add up. I would not trust him. Please get tested for stds. If he won’t use a condom, I would be very weary of him possibly having something. I also do not believe he is exclusive with you.

I advise you to work on yourself and your trust issues. You will never be able to have a healthy relationship unless you move past your trust issues.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. He also said he doesn't know if he wants to be with someone who would go through his stuff like that and not trust him. He said it's making him question my morals. My ex cheated on me and I told him from the start that I have trust issues. This isn't the first thing I haven't trusted. He's getting tired of it.

Gaslighting. He’s gaslighting you to make you feel like the bad person and question your sanity.

+1

He sounds manipulative.

Anonymous wrote:i don't like condoms. i don't like pulling out.

well, i don't like being pregnant, man-baby!

It’s not only on him. OP is a consensual party engaging in reckless behavior. As a woman ( so am I), she needs to be proactive and in charge of her choices and body. She can’t play victim when she gets pregnant because she is an active participant in the sexual act.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I should add he doesn't like condoms and I wasn't on BC when we met. He has been fine with unprotected sex and doesn't like pulling out. I had to take plan b and now I started the pill even though I hate the hormones. I said if I got pregnant that I would want an abortion since it's so early, he says he would be happy with me having his baby.
Just makes me more suspicious that he could be careless like this with another woman, since he seems to want a baby and doesn't care about waiting too much first. That's why it wouldn't surprise me if he needed the test for another woman.

Hello !!!! Biggest red flags ever waving!!! Please run far away from this man.

Don't waste time figuring out this man or his random pregnancy tests - RUN!!!!

TBh, you need to do a little work on yourself. Why are you having sex with a guy who "doesn't like condoms" and is OK with unprotected sex. That is unsafe for you! Please get some therapy and work on healthy relationship behaviors.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I should add he doesn't like condoms and I wasn't on BC when we met. He has been fine with unprotected sex and doesn't like pulling out. I had to take plan b and now I started the pill even though I hate the hormones. I said if I got pregnant that I would want an abortion since it's so early, he says he would be happy with me having his baby.
Just makes me more suspicious that he could be careless like this with another woman, since he seems to want a baby and doesn't care about waiting too much first. That's why it wouldn't surprise me if he needed the test for another woman.

You’re not exempt from blame. Why are you having unprotected sex with someone you barely know? That’s incredibly irresponsible. Not to mention the risk of std/stis. You need to get therapy for your trust issues and become more mature before entering another relationship.

I don’t understand what is going on with people these days. So careless and reckless with decisions that can create human life. So careless with the potential to spread stds. I pray for the youth these days but I have little faith in them.

i don't like condoms. i don't like pulling out.

well, i don't like being pregnant, man-baby!