Anonymous
Post 03/19/2024 18:53     Subject: Yikes! Kids are expensive!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP, what are you envisioning here. Your daughter can't repeat a bathing suit during spring break? She can't even wear the same rash guard twice? Athleta girl has some very cute two pieces that are actually reversible -- two suits in one.

The fact that you can afford it is irrelevant -- this is just being dumb with money and also teaching your daughter to be dumb with money. She's goign to be a 25 yr old blowing her entire paycheck on clothes because no one ever taught her how to budget properly (while still getting cute things she likes! there's very little sacrifice here).

Kids ARE expensive, but I assumed this post was going to be about the cost of braces, a special needs therapy for which no one takes insurance, or having to buy a new wardrobe for a kid who shot up 3 inches in a year or something. If you are experiencing sticker shock here, just wait until you actually HAVE to spend money on your kid for something a lot less fun than a new swimsuit for vacation.


Please - you've never indulged your kids in some frivolous way? I doubt that very much. These will be what she wears for the next two or three summers. I'm happy for her to have options she's chosen. She's sacrificed plenty in the name of not being financially wasteful, and I am not worried about her being careful with money as an adult.


I've indulged my kids in lots of frivolous ways. What I don't then do is go on the internet to complain about how expensive "kids" are because I spent $80 at a fancy ice cream place or bought my DD a ridiculously cute but expensive Easter dress from Maisonette. I get these are choices I make because I do like to indulge my kids from time to time, and not just how much things cost.

(By the way, after spending over $100 on an incredibly cute Easter dress for DD last year, this year she picked out a dress for $15 from TJ Max because she was obsessed with the matching hat and purse -- she obviously doesn't really need a new dress because last year's still fits, but it is making her SO happy I couldn't resist. So indulging your kids does not always mean buying them the absolute most expensive version of something, and buying a ton of it. I could "afford" to buy her a bunch of dresses at this price point but... why?)


It seems this is a misunderstanding. I was not complaining. As I've said, we can afford this. It was more marveling. I don't regularly spend this much on the girls. Sorry you all took it in a negative way.


I can’t believe you are digging in and buying FIVE swimsuits. Literally everyone on the thread says this is stupid, and DCUM so rarely has consensus!
Anonymous
Post 03/19/2024 18:52     Subject: Yikes! Kids are expensive!
OP, you thought you were starting a cute little conversation, but, as usual, the DCUM harpies smelled blood and attacked.

You should consider asking that this thread be taken down.
Anonymous
Post 03/19/2024 18:51     Subject: Yikes! Kids are expensive!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP, what are you envisioning here. Your daughter can't repeat a bathing suit during spring break? She can't even wear the same rash guard twice? Athleta girl has some very cute two pieces that are actually reversible -- two suits in one.

The fact that you can afford it is irrelevant -- this is just being dumb with money and also teaching your daughter to be dumb with money. She's goign to be a 25 yr old blowing her entire paycheck on clothes because no one ever taught her how to budget properly (while still getting cute things she likes! there's very little sacrifice here).

Kids ARE expensive, but I assumed this post was going to be about the cost of braces, a special needs therapy for which no one takes insurance, or having to buy a new wardrobe for a kid who shot up 3 inches in a year or something. If you are experiencing sticker shock here, just wait until you actually HAVE to spend money on your kid for something a lot less fun than a new swimsuit for vacation.


Please - you've never indulged your kids in some frivolous way? I doubt that very much. These will be what she wears for the next two or three summers. I'm happy for her to have options she's chosen. She's sacrificed plenty in the name of not being financially wasteful, and I am not worried about her being careful with money as an adult.


I've indulged my kids in lots of frivolous ways. What I don't then do is go on the internet to complain about how expensive "kids" are because I spent $80 at a fancy ice cream place or bought my DD a ridiculously cute but expensive Easter dress from Maisonette. I get these are choices I make because I do like to indulge my kids from time to time, and not just how much things cost.

(By the way, after spending over $100 on an incredibly cute Easter dress for DD last year, this year she picked out a dress for $15 from TJ Max because she was obsessed with the matching hat and purse -- she obviously doesn't really need a new dress because last year's still fits, but it is making her SO happy I couldn't resist. So indulging your kids does not always mean buying them the absolute most expensive version of something, and buying a ton of it. I could "afford" to buy her a bunch of dresses at this price point but... why?)


It seems this is a misunderstanding. I was not complaining. As I've said, we can afford this. It was more marveling. I don't regularly spend this much on the girls. Sorry you all took it in a negative way.
Anonymous
Post 03/19/2024 18:48     Subject: Yikes! Kids are expensive!
Anonymous wrote:
You need, AT MOST, two swimsuits, in the event one of them doesn't dry in time for the next day. You rinse swimsuits after each use, to get bleach or salt out, but you don't need to wash them with detergent. You hang them to dry (hence why you need two unless you dry them in the sun).

Also, OP, state college is $30K a year today, total cost of attendance. My son's private uni is $85K a year. Costs are only going to go up. Other costs, haphazardly: $90/lesson for music lessons or tutoring (which went up to $200/hr for AP and SAT/ACT test prep for my kid in high school). You can also get a cheap online tutor from a lower COL state, if you want, just like you can buy two swimsuits. Public school is free with taxes, private can go up to 70K a year, with donations and fees.

It's all relative



All of this. We have an only and are doting and I absolutely indulge my kid. But even with plenty of money and only one kid to buy for, we are strategic and think big picture.

Also, if you get in the habit of going overboard like this all the time, it absolutely will start losing its charm for your kid and will simply become an expectation. You will wind up with the kid (or kids) who complain because you're going on vacation and even though their old swimsuits all still fit, you are not purchasing a brand new "swim wardrobe" for them. Being more strategic and limited with indulgences will help your kid see them as the treat they are, and not just the way the world works. Good luck with that.
Anonymous
Post 03/19/2024 18:45     Subject: Yikes! Kids are expensive!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP, what are you envisioning here. Your daughter can't repeat a bathing suit during spring break? She can't even wear the same rash guard twice? Athleta girl has some very cute two pieces that are actually reversible -- two suits in one.

The fact that you can afford it is irrelevant -- this is just being dumb with money and also teaching your daughter to be dumb with money. She's goign to be a 25 yr old blowing her entire paycheck on clothes because no one ever taught her how to budget properly (while still getting cute things she likes! there's very little sacrifice here).

Kids ARE expensive, but I assumed this post was going to be about the cost of braces, a special needs therapy for which no one takes insurance, or having to buy a new wardrobe for a kid who shot up 3 inches in a year or something. If you are experiencing sticker shock here, just wait until you actually HAVE to spend money on your kid for something a lot less fun than a new swimsuit for vacation.


Please - you've never indulged your kids in some frivolous way? I doubt that very much. These will be what she wears for the next two or three summers. I'm happy for her to have options she's chosen. She's sacrificed plenty in the name of not being financially wasteful, and I am not worried about her being careful with money as an adult.


You sound simple. No, I have never indulged my kids or self with $350 in swimwear. Gross.


If she's not already, OP will soon be one of those people who complain about "having" to buy her kid a bunch of Drunk Elephant skin care at Sephora or put $60 a week on a Starbucks card for her because... reasons.
Anonymous
Post 03/19/2024 18:45     Subject: Yikes! Kids are expensive!

You need, AT MOST, two swimsuits, in the event one of them doesn't dry in time for the next day. You rinse swimsuits after each use, to get bleach or salt out, but you don't need to wash them with detergent. You hang them to dry (hence why you need two unless you dry them in the sun).

Also, OP, state college is $30K a year today, total cost of attendance. My son's private uni is $85K a year. Costs are only going to go up. Other costs, haphazardly: $90/lesson for music lessons or tutoring (which went up to $200/hr for AP and SAT/ACT test prep for my kid in high school). You can also get a cheap online tutor from a lower COL state, if you want, just like you can buy two swimsuits. Public school is free with taxes, private can go up to 70K a year, with donations and fees.

It's all relative

Anonymous
Post 03/19/2024 18:43     Subject: Yikes! Kids are expensive!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP, what are you envisioning here. Your daughter can't repeat a bathing suit during spring break? She can't even wear the same rash guard twice? Athleta girl has some very cute two pieces that are actually reversible -- two suits in one.

The fact that you can afford it is irrelevant -- this is just being dumb with money and also teaching your daughter to be dumb with money. She's goign to be a 25 yr old blowing her entire paycheck on clothes because no one ever taught her how to budget properly (while still getting cute things she likes! there's very little sacrifice here).

Kids ARE expensive, but I assumed this post was going to be about the cost of braces, a special needs therapy for which no one takes insurance, or having to buy a new wardrobe for a kid who shot up 3 inches in a year or something. If you are experiencing sticker shock here, just wait until you actually HAVE to spend money on your kid for something a lot less fun than a new swimsuit for vacation.


Please - you've never indulged your kids in some frivolous way? I doubt that very much. These will be what she wears for the next two or three summers. I'm happy for her to have options she's chosen. She's sacrificed plenty in the name of not being financially wasteful, and I am not worried about her being careful with money as an adult.


I've indulged my kids in lots of frivolous ways. What I don't then do is go on the internet to complain about how expensive "kids" are because I spent $80 at a fancy ice cream place or bought my DD a ridiculously cute but expensive Easter dress from Maisonette. I get these are choices I make because I do like to indulge my kids from time to time, and not just how much things cost.

(By the way, after spending over $100 on an incredibly cute Easter dress for DD last year, this year she picked out a dress for $15 from TJ Max because she was obsessed with the matching hat and purse -- she obviously doesn't really need a new dress because last year's still fits, but it is making her SO happy I couldn't resist. So indulging your kids does not always mean buying them the absolute most expensive version of something, and buying a ton of it. I could "afford" to buy her a bunch of dresses at this price point but... why?)
Anonymous
Post 03/19/2024 18:42     Subject: Yikes! Kids are expensive!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP, what are you envisioning here. Your daughter can't repeat a bathing suit during spring break? She can't even wear the same rash guard twice? Athleta girl has some very cute two pieces that are actually reversible -- two suits in one.

The fact that you can afford it is irrelevant -- this is just being dumb with money and also teaching your daughter to be dumb with money. She's goign to be a 25 yr old blowing her entire paycheck on clothes because no one ever taught her how to budget properly (while still getting cute things she likes! there's very little sacrifice here).

Kids ARE expensive, but I assumed this post was going to be about the cost of braces, a special needs therapy for which no one takes insurance, or having to buy a new wardrobe for a kid who shot up 3 inches in a year or something. If you are experiencing sticker shock here, just wait until you actually HAVE to spend money on your kid for something a lot less fun than a new swimsuit for vacation.


Please - you've never indulged your kids in some frivolous way? I doubt that very much. These will be what she wears for the next two or three summers. I'm happy for her to have options she's chosen. She's sacrificed plenty in the name of not being financially wasteful, and I am not worried about her being careful with money as an adult.


You sound simple. No, I have never indulged my kids or self with $350 in swimwear. Gross.
Anonymous
Post 03/19/2024 18:38     Subject: Yikes! Kids are expensive!
Anonymous wrote:OP, what are you envisioning here. Your daughter can't repeat a bathing suit during spring break? She can't even wear the same rash guard twice? Athleta girl has some very cute two pieces that are actually reversible -- two suits in one.

The fact that you can afford it is irrelevant -- this is just being dumb with money and also teaching your daughter to be dumb with money. She's goign to be a 25 yr old blowing her entire paycheck on clothes because no one ever taught her how to budget properly (while still getting cute things she likes! there's very little sacrifice here).

Kids ARE expensive, but I assumed this post was going to be about the cost of braces, a special needs therapy for which no one takes insurance, or having to buy a new wardrobe for a kid who shot up 3 inches in a year or something. If you are experiencing sticker shock here, just wait until you actually HAVE to spend money on your kid for something a lot less fun than a new swimsuit for vacation.


Please - you've never indulged your kids in some frivolous way? I doubt that very much. These will be what she wears for the next two or three summers. I'm happy for her to have options she's chosen. She's sacrificed plenty in the name of not being financially wasteful, and I am not worried about her being careful with money as an adult.
Anonymous
Post 03/19/2024 18:37     Subject: Yikes! Kids are expensive!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Did you not look at the price tags?


I just put things in the cart that caught her eye and then looked at the total. We can go back and remove things if it's too much. Again, swinging the price isn't a problem - I'm just surprised as I've never purchased these before.


So why do you need 5? Have her pick her favorite 2.


Lol, it's strategic - she's the oldest of three girls.


Maybe buy them each their own swimsuit?
Anonymous
Post 03/19/2024 18:37     Subject: Yikes! Kids are expensive!
You don’t need expensive swimsuit. I hand wash speedo and tyr swimsuit but some still started to stretch out after less than a year ( 1-2 swim practice weekly). You can get Speedo at Costco for less than $20. Tyr was for swim team so it’s bit more pricy but not super expensive, around $60.
Anonymous
Post 03/19/2024 18:34     Subject: Yikes! Kids are expensive!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Did you not look at the price tags?


I just put things in the cart that caught her eye and then looked at the total. We can go back and remove things if it's too much. Again, swinging the price isn't a problem - I'm just surprised as I've never purchased these before.


So why do you need 5? Have her pick her favorite 2.


Lol, it's strategic - she's the oldest of three girls.


So you are rewarding her with a silly number of expensive swimsuits because you feel so bad she's only ever worn hand-me-downs, but also your younger daughters will have to wear her hand-me-downs that she picked out because, after all, what other possible option do you have than spending $400 on swimsuits for an 8 year old.

This has to be a troll. Is anyone actually this obtuse?


IKR? The mom is making sure her younger kids never get the opportunity to get their own. Ridiculous.
Anonymous
Post 03/19/2024 18:29     Subject: Yikes! Kids are expensive!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Did you not look at the price tags?


I just put things in the cart that caught her eye and then looked at the total. We can go back and remove things if it's too much. Again, swinging the price isn't a problem - I'm just surprised as I've never purchased these before.


So why do you need 5? Have her pick her favorite 2.


Lol, it's strategic - she's the oldest of three girls.


So you are rewarding her with a silly number of expensive swimsuits because you feel so bad she's only ever worn hand-me-downs, but also your younger daughters will have to wear her hand-me-downs that she picked out because, after all, what other possible option do you have than spending $400 on swimsuits for an 8 year old.

This has to be a troll. Is anyone actually this obtuse?
Anonymous
Post 03/19/2024 18:27     Subject: Yikes! Kids are expensive!
OP, what are you envisioning here. Your daughter can't repeat a bathing suit during spring break? She can't even wear the same rash guard twice? Athleta girl has some very cute two pieces that are actually reversible -- two suits in one.

The fact that you can afford it is irrelevant -- this is just being dumb with money and also teaching your daughter to be dumb with money. She's goign to be a 25 yr old blowing her entire paycheck on clothes because no one ever taught her how to budget properly (while still getting cute things she likes! there's very little sacrifice here).

Kids ARE expensive, but I assumed this post was going to be about the cost of braces, a special needs therapy for which no one takes insurance, or having to buy a new wardrobe for a kid who shot up 3 inches in a year or something. If you are experiencing sticker shock here, just wait until you actually HAVE to spend money on your kid for something a lot less fun than a new swimsuit for vacation.
Anonymous
Post 03/19/2024 18:26     Subject: Yikes! Kids are expensive!
“My kid has never had steak before. So I went to Ruth’s Chris and a tomahawk caught her eye. OMG, kids are so expensive!”