Anonymous wrote:It is beyond stupid and extraordinarily selfish. Widowed and divorced women are not single moms because they still have an ex or family. Also, do not think that children of single women do not suffer socially.

So, now we are defining single mom to not include widows?

Are single moms with families included?

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s not so hard to be a single mom by choice if you have enough money. Add in some family support and you’re golden. One child is like a pet. It’s not hard to have one child and spend enough time on them.

I wouldn’t recommend single moms by choice to have 3 kids. Not enough hours in the day.

My cousin wanted to do this and she was a nut job. Relied 100% on my Aunt for free childcare. It felt abusive.

Anonymous wrote:13 years being a single mom by choice. Wouldn’t change a thing. Between my friends and paying for help at times I’ve figured out all the logistics. I love it and have an amazing little family.

Plus 1- but 10 years

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Anonymous wrote:It is beyond stupid and extraordinarily selfish. Widowed and divorced women are not single moms because they still have an ex or family. Also, do not think that children of single women do not suffer socially.

Right. Why didn’t I leave that kid in the cocaine den instead of adopting them and raising them in a joyful, tension-free, rich single mom home where they had nannies, world-wife travel, and the best education for 18 years. The nerve of me!

Bless you. Lady Bountiful!

Money, time, and relationships

I would think the child care part would be really hard. When they're little and get sick you're going to burn a ton of leave on sick days and not have a partner to trade off with. And it's not just the vacation time it's straight up keeping up with your work. Then elementary school which seems to be closed one day every other week for random holidays the working world doesn't recognize.

Not getting a break would suck too. You're always going to be on, you can never relax and let the other parent watch the kid. Or if you feel sick you can't switch off and have coverage.

But you said she has money meaning rich and doesn't have to work or just has a good job? Also, maybe some of this goes away with family support...maybe...I guess if you have a family member that doesn't work and is available somewhat on demand for sick days.

*world-wide, lol.

Anonymous wrote:It is beyond stupid and extraordinarily selfish. Widowed and divorced women are not single moms because they still have an ex or family. Also, do not think that children of single women do not suffer socially.

Right. Why didn’t I leave that kid in the cocaine den instead of adopting them and raising them in a joyful, tension-free, rich single mom home where they had nannies, world-wife travel, and the best education for 18 years. The nerve of me!

It is beyond stupid and extraordinarily selfish. Widowed and divorced women are not single moms because they still have an ex or family. Also, do not think that children of single women do not suffer socially.

Always being the bad guy and hoping they don't hate you when older because of it.

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Anonymous wrote:Studies have been done on this topic and all report that children living with both biological parents report a higher levels of life satisfaction than those in single parent homes. One of these studies was conducted in 36 industrialized countries.

I would be interested in reading these studies. I’m assuming the only difference was having a second parent in the home. Income levels were the same, ability to do activities were the same, no one had a sibling with SN or grandparents that needed care.

It's a different experience, double the adult attention. I feel like every child deserves 2 parents. But that's just me...

Anonymous wrote:I was trying to tell my friend that being a single mom is NOT a good idea! I know because I am one lol.

For me is mostly financially challenging, and she has money so she doesn't feel that resonates.

I think also though if you don't have a partner to help with the balance (yin/yang energies) you feel depleted energetically trying for multiple roles, all on your own.

I think women who 'choose' to be a single mother have no idea what they're getting into, but clearly I am biased.

What do you think?

I think you are an idiot and have no idea what you are talking about.

There are a ton of people who were brought up by single mothers they are as successful or more so than mothers who stay in horrible marriages

OP here, the question is directed towards single moms. Not your opinion of what families you think are better.

Also I'm not trying to talk her out of it, just giving her a well rounded idea of what they're getting into, and also curious if other moms' experiences.

It's one thing to have a close uncle to model masculine behavior, it's another to have an actual dad in the house everyday. Of course no one is perfect but that is one aspect that I wish I had for my child.

Anonymous wrote:The hardest thing is still thinking about and the abuse ex they put us through. Wish they never existed. All else is easy.
We do have money and lots of family help.

Agree. The emotional aspect takes so many years... But it is better than having them around.

The hardest thing is still thinking about and the abuse ex they put us through. Wish they never existed. All else is easy.
We do have money and lots of family help.