Anonymous
Post 03/15/2024 12:05     Subject: Men who are almost 50
Anonymous wrote:How do you feel about dating divorced women with kids in their 40s?


Are you in your 40s or are your kids in their 40s?
Anonymous
Post 03/15/2024 11:57     Subject: Men who are almost 50
Anonymous wrote:Women in their 40s with kids. Assume the guy had no kids of his own.


Speaking as a divorced woman in her 40s w kids, the lifestyle difference is pretty significant btw someone in the thick of child rearing and someone who never had kids. When I first divorced, I thought a man w no kids/college aged kids would be ideal. I quickly realized that these men and I are just not in the same place in life at all. Even the men w kids out of the house who “remember what it was like”, that was years ago.
Anonymous
Post 03/15/2024 11:54     Subject: Men who are almost 50
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Depends on the woman's personality, attitude, and overall relationship with her kids and ex. I'm divorced in my 40s and I've been dating women in the early to mid 30s. But, that's who's available. I have met a few divorced soccer moms I'd like to get to know better. But, in general they are too busy with family and work to focus on a relationship. I will say this, I'll never date a woman in their 40s with kids who is seeking a money grab. Meaning, they want an easy life so just marry a man who's got money already so she can go back to being a SAHM. I've been introduced to at least 20-25 of those in the last two years by friends and acquaintances.



That pretty much sums up most of the divorced women in their 40s posting on DCUM.


The guy above probably has nothing to offer to divorced women in their 40s.

Singed 45 yo empty nester; NW $4,5mm make 400K/year own my home and car, travel internationally at least once a year
Anonymous
Post 03/15/2024 11:53     Subject: Men who are almost 50
Anonymous wrote:Better question is how do you feel about dating someone so maladjusted they're single at 50?


Um... she's an older single person, too...
Anonymous
Post 03/15/2024 11:53     Subject: Men who are almost 50
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Women in their 40s with kids. Assume the guy had no kids of his own.


What if he says he wants to get married soon? Never married before.


He has likely been saying this to every woman he dated for the past 30+ years. If he wanted to be married, he would have made it happen by now.
Anonymous
Post 03/15/2024 11:52     Subject: Men who are almost 50
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Depends on the woman's personality, attitude, and overall relationship with her kids and ex. I'm divorced in my 40s and I've been dating women in the early to mid 30s. But, that's who's available. I have met a few divorced soccer moms I'd like to get to know better. But, in general they are too busy with family and work to focus on a relationship. I will say this, I'll never date a woman in their 40s with kids who is seeking a money grab. Meaning, they want an easy life so just marry a man who's got money already so she can go back to being a SAHM. I've been introduced to at least 20-25 of those in the last two years by friends and acquaintances.



That pretty much sums up most of the divorced women in their 40s posting on DCUM.


Not me! Divorced woman in my 40s just looking for a companion. I have my own career/income/etc. And I do fairly well in the dating game as a result 😀
Anonymous
Post 03/15/2024 11:50     Subject: Men who are almost 50
Anonymous wrote:My brother is in his early 40s and on the spectrum so he's not a ladies man and does not have much luck dating never married women in their 30s-40s. I have suggested dating a divorced woman several times now.

To anyone reading this, he's somewhat attractive and works in big law. He is incredibly effing weird and neurotic though.


I wonder if I had a date with him. Very close description: does he drive?
Anonymous
Post 03/15/2024 11:47     Subject: Men who are almost 50
Anonymous wrote:Depends on the woman's personality, attitude, and overall relationship with her kids and ex. I'm divorced in my 40s and I've been dating women in the early to mid 30s. But, that's who's available. I have met a few divorced soccer moms I'd like to get to know better. But, in general they are too busy with family and work to focus on a relationship. I will say this, I'll never date a woman in their 40s with kids who is seeking a money grab. Meaning, they want an easy life so just marry a man who's got money already so she can go back to being a SAHM. I've been introduced to at least 20-25 of those in the last two years by friends and acquaintances.


Have you met any women who were financially stable after divorce in their 40s with older kids? Surprise you didn't. In their 40s people are usually more established in their careers, and have assets brought in from prior marriage if they divorced and worked
Anonymous
Post 03/15/2024 11:18     Subject: Men who are almost 50
Anonymous wrote:Having to deal with their teens and ex can be a headache.


All of whom are going to positively HATE you, as the next wife.
Anonymous
Post 03/15/2024 11:01     Subject: Men who are almost 50
I’m 52 and widowed (from cancer) now over 7 years. My two children are grown and on their own. I’m relatively wealthy (NW>$15M) and very active especially outdoors. I would definitely date divorced women in their 40s. I do have a pretty gold digger radar so I prefer women who are financially independent themselves.
Anonymous
Post 03/15/2024 10:56     Subject: Men who are almost 50
Anonymous wrote:Depends on the woman's personality, attitude, and overall relationship with her kids and ex. I'm divorced in my 40s and I've been dating women in the early to mid 30s. But, that's who's available. I have met a few divorced soccer moms I'd like to get to know better. But, in general they are too busy with family and work to focus on a relationship. I will say this, I'll never date a woman in their 40s with kids who is seeking a money grab. Meaning, they want an easy life so just marry a man who's got money already so she can go back to being a SAHM. I've been introduced to at least 20-25 of those in the last two years by friends and acquaintances.



Is that because you do not have money?
Anonymous
Post 03/15/2024 10:42     Subject: Men who are almost 50
My brother is in his early 40s and on the spectrum so he's not a ladies man and does not have much luck dating never married women in their 30s-40s. I have suggested dating a divorced woman several times now.

To anyone reading this, he's somewhat attractive and works in big law. He is incredibly effing weird and neurotic though.
Anonymous
Post 03/15/2024 10:39     Subject: Men who are almost 50
Anonymous wrote:Women in their 40s with kids. Assume the guy had no kids of his own.


What if he says he wants to get married soon? Never married before.
Anonymous
Post 03/15/2024 10:28     Subject: Men who are almost 50
Anonymous wrote:The men On these relationships posts do not represent their species well.


Funny I was thinking the same thing for the women who post here.
Anonymous
Post 03/15/2024 10:23     Subject: Men who are almost 50
Also gents make sure you can’t get trapped by one of these women. If you have kids and don’t plan on having any more or have preserved your sperm, get yourself “fixed”.