Thanks for posting, Taylor!

Anonymous wrote:Personally, I think for women, the ideal situation is to be attractive/pretty, but not gorgeous/stunning.

+1 I'd like to be an 8. I'm more of a 6 1/2.

Anonymous wrote:I have a friend who is gorgeous. She's always with men who never see her as longterm commitment material. A lot of them are much older and are very wealthy. She'll be with them for several months or several years with lots of fancy trips, dinners and gifts. She's 45 and this has been going on for 25+ years. I think if she weren't so gorgeous she would likely have been in healthier relationships.

No, it is because she is dating men who are too old for her and she is after their money.
What do you expect?

Anonymous wrote:Once we are done empathizing with the truly gorgeous, and we move on to the misfortunes of the profoundly wealthy?

Let's just skip straight to gorgeous and wealthy. Take a moment to shed a tear for the Hadids of the world. Can you imagine the burden of the noblesse oblige?

Once we are done empathizing with the truly gorgeous, and we move on to the misfortunes of the profoundly wealthy?

My mother is still beautiful at 71, and when she was young she was just an otherworldly, effortless sort of beauty. I’d say she still had “it” well into her 50s, even.

But she’s nuts, and made so many bad choices as a result of mental illness that all the pretty privilege in the world wasn’t going to save her. I’ve done much better just being regular pretty and sane. I’m also happy that my looks seem maintainable, like I haven’t had a major health issue or stressor ruining my appearance and things haven’t totally fallen apart by 40 and I’m so grateful and happy for that. I’d rather be a “6” for 20 years than have a dramatic fall.

I guess my point is to run your own race and be happy with what you have. I’m sure so many people looked at my mother and thought she won the genetic lottery when she actually lost, big time.

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Anonymous wrote:Personally, I think for women, the ideal situation is to be attractive/pretty, but not gorgeous/stunning.

I am pretty but not gorgeous and I need two hands to count how many times I’ve been sexually assaulted. Men (and women) take one look at me and think I’m approachable.

I’ve also been told in interviews that I’m qualified for work but not hire-able because I ‘ look like a risk’. I’ve never mentioned the work assaults.

This tracks to me, as a man. There is an "unobtainium" quality about the truly gorgeous 10s that you don't bother with. But the pretty girls seem to take more flack from every schmoe that thinks that maybe this is the one time a pretty girl will respond to his artless efforts.

In my experience good guys are afraid to approach gorgeous women mostly a-holes, abusers, narcissists will.

Well that is an unfortunate sorting pattern...

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Anonymous wrote:Personally, I think for women, the ideal situation is to be attractive/pretty, but not gorgeous/stunning.

I am pretty but not gorgeous and I need two hands to count how many times I’ve been sexually assaulted. Men (and women) take one look at me and think I’m approachable.

I’ve also been told in interviews that I’m qualified for work but not hire-able because I ‘ look like a risk’. I’ve never mentioned the work assaults.

This tracks to me, as a man. There is an "unobtainium" quality about the truly gorgeous 10s that you don't bother with. But the pretty girls seem to take more flack from every schmoe that thinks that maybe this is the one time a pretty girl will respond to his artless efforts.

In my experience good guys are afraid to approach gorgeous women mostly a-holes, abusers, narcissists will.

Anonymous wrote:Personally, I think for women, the ideal situation is to be attractive/pretty, but not gorgeous/stunning.

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Anonymous wrote:Personally, I think for women, the ideal situation is to be attractive/pretty, but not gorgeous/stunning.

I am pretty but not gorgeous and I need two hands to count how many times I’ve been sexually assaulted. Men (and women) take one look at me and think I’m approachable.

I’ve also been told in interviews that I’m qualified for work but not hire-able because I ‘ look like a risk’. I’ve never mentioned the work assaults.

This tracks to me, as a man. There is an "unobtainium" quality about the truly gorgeous 10s that you don't bother with. But the pretty girls seem to take more flack from every schmoe that thinks that maybe this is the one time a pretty girl will respond to his artless efforts.

Anonymous wrote:Personally, I think for women, the ideal situation is to be attractive/pretty, but not gorgeous/stunning.

I am pretty but not gorgeous and I need two hands to count how many times I’ve been sexually assaulted. Men (and women) take one look at me and think I’m approachable.

I’ve also been told in interviews that I’m qualified for work but not hire-able because I ‘ look like a risk’. I’ve never mentioned the work assaults.

Anonymous wrote:Personally, I think for women, the ideal situation is to be attractive/pretty, but not gorgeous/stunning.

I agree. Gorgeous/stunning women attract too many men to sort through, including really terrible ones. It's nice to be attractive/pretty, but not so much so that people can't see past your looks and determine if they connect with you for who you are.

I had a truly gorgeous girlfriend just after college. Think Jessica Simpson! But she had always coasted through everything on her looks and had never accomplished anything and she just expected that the cards would fall in her favor. She was a great GF for a year but she wasn’t right for me. When we broke up my brothers thought I was an idiot. I did marry a beautiful girl who has been perfect for me. My ex has been married at least twice and maybe three times I’m sure to wealthy guys.

Anonymous wrote:Ugly duckling is where it's at, from the man's perspective. That way you get the character, bookishness, and wit formed in stage 1, and the gorgeous looks in stage 2.

Dowdy, overweight childhood with coke bottle glasses and then BAM! Smoking hot at 22.

Story of my wife.

Lol, you put your name on the list for a Winnie Cooper!

Anonymous wrote:Ugly duckling is where it's at, from the man's perspective. That way you get the character, bookishness, and wit formed in stage 1, and the gorgeous looks in stage 2.

Dowdy, overweight childhood with coke bottle glasses and then BAM! Smoking hot at 22.

Story of my wife.

This was my sister, bit the bam didn't happen until she was 40 and started dressing for her figure.