Anonymous
03/23/2024 19:10
Subject: Freaking out - cooked with a decent amount of wine at 12w
It’s too late. The kid is screwed and will almost certainly have fetal alcohol spectrum disorder Have an abortion and try again next time.
Seriously you’re 100% fine and so is your baby. Call a doctor or nurse hotline for reassurance if you need to.
Seriously you’re 100% fine and so is your baby. Call a doctor or nurse hotline for reassurance if you need to.
Anonymous
03/21/2024 19:33
Subject: Freaking out - cooked with a decent amount of wine at 12w
Oh my God, this country has gone right off the beam.
OP: there is nothing wrong or harmful about this. NOTHING. You are experiencing a pregnancy-directed form of scrupulosity. It’s a kind of OCD, which is an anxiety disorder. Get treatment. You don’t have to live like this.
OP: there is nothing wrong or harmful about this. NOTHING. You are experiencing a pregnancy-directed form of scrupulosity. It’s a kind of OCD, which is an anxiety disorder. Get treatment. You don’t have to live like this.
Anonymous
03/19/2024 10:44
Subject: Freaking out - cooked with a decent amount of wine at 12w
Anonymous wrote:These are the meanest and least helpful responses I’ve ever seen.
OP, I would feel exactly the same as you. I did not drink at all during pregnancy for this reason. That said, once baby was here, I found many, MANY ways to screw up and be a suboptimal parent. Yes, you consumed a tiny bit of alcohol. No one can say it’s definitely fine but it’s very very likely to be fine. It’s time to start working on channeling this anxiety into how you can do better next time and then mentally totally moving on. Dwelling on guilt of mistakes is toxic to parenting. I know this from experience. You cannot do anything about this now, so you MUST forget about it and move on. You’ll need this skill once baby is born and you make terrible mistakes much more regularly.
Most helpful response here.
OP, I took didn't drink at all during either of my pregnancies. But I can almost guarantee you that you have not caused any harm to your child. And, that once your kids are born, you will not be perfect (like this PP, I tried very hard to optimize their outcome when I was pregnant, but now as a mother I understand that I'm just doing my best, and will sometimes slip.)
Manage your anxiety, forgive yourself, wake up and do your best every day, don't dwell on what has passed.
Anonymous
03/19/2024 10:31
Subject: Freaking out - cooked with a decent amount of wine at 12w
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:On the other hand OP are you still driving? Documented negative outcomes to mother and baby abound.
One has to drive around to get to places, you moron.
To the doctor sure. Other than that if you’re really fixated on minimizing risk you should not be traveling in motor vehicles as they have the single largest adverse impact on fetal outcome.
But if you only care about shaming women that won’t bother you.
Only care about shaming you for being an idiot.
And yet, still more able to read statistics than you.
Anonymous
03/19/2024 09:51
Subject: Freaking out - cooked with a decent amount of wine at 12w
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:On the other hand OP are you still driving? Documented negative outcomes to mother and baby abound.
One has to drive around to get to places, you moron.
To the doctor sure. Other than that if you’re really fixated on minimizing risk you should not be traveling in motor vehicles as they have the single largest adverse impact on fetal outcome.
But if you only care about shaming women that won’t bother you.
Only care about shaming you for being an idiot.
Anonymous
03/19/2024 09:49
Subject: Freaking out - cooked with a decent amount of wine at 12w
At one point the thinking was early on (and I don't know if 12 weeks counts) that even if you had enough to make you totally wasted it was either "All" (e.g., miscarriage) or nothing. BUt I am older than you.
ON the other hand, Id be shocked if this even matter theoretically. Good luck!
ON the other hand, Id be shocked if this even matter theoretically. Good luck!
Anonymous
03/19/2024 09:44
Subject: Freaking out - cooked with a decent amount of wine at 12w
Anonymous wrote:There is not a single documented instance of an adverse effect on a fetus from alcohol cooked in food at the levels you discuss. Nor is there a single documented instance of an adverse outcome of a mother drinking a total of 4oz of wine one time in pregnancy.
This.
Anonymous
03/19/2024 09:39
Subject: Freaking out - cooked with a decent amount of wine at 12w
Anonymous wrote:These are the meanest and least helpful responses I’ve ever seen.
OP, I would feel exactly the same as you. I did not drink at all during pregnancy for this reason. That said, once baby was here, I found many, MANY ways to screw up and be a suboptimal parent. Yes, you consumed a tiny bit of alcohol. No one can say it’s definitely fine but it’s very very likely to be fine. It’s time to start working on channeling this anxiety into how you can do better next time and then mentally totally moving on. Dwelling on guilt of mistakes is toxic to parenting. I know this from experience. You cannot do anything about this now, so you MUST forget about it and move on. You’ll need this skill once baby is born and you make terrible mistakes much more regularly.
No one can say there is nothing wrong with the pregnancy of course, but I think it definitely be said that even if something does end up off, it wasn't a result of this. One cup cooked and spread across 3-4 servings is a non event. Your physical symptoms were like the result of eating a very warm dish or your anxiety. Chill out.
Anonymous
03/18/2024 21:15
Subject: Freaking out - cooked with a decent amount of wine at 12w
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:On the other hand OP are you still driving? Documented negative outcomes to mother and baby abound.
One has to drive around to get to places, you moron.
To the doctor sure. Other than that if you’re really fixated on minimizing risk you should not be traveling in motor vehicles as they have the single largest adverse impact on fetal outcome.
But if you only care about shaming women that won’t bother you.
Anonymous
03/18/2024 15:58
Subject: Freaking out - cooked with a decent amount of wine at 12w
Anonymous wrote:On the other hand OP are you still driving? Documented negative outcomes to mother and baby abound.
One has to drive around to get to places, you moron.
Anonymous
03/18/2024 15:41
Subject: Freaking out - cooked with a decent amount of wine at 12w
On the other hand OP are you still driving? Documented negative outcomes to mother and baby abound.
Anonymous
03/18/2024 15:40
Subject: Freaking out - cooked with a decent amount of wine at 12w
There is not a single documented instance of an adverse effect on a fetus from alcohol cooked in food at the levels you discuss. Nor is there a single documented instance of an adverse outcome of a mother drinking a total of 4oz of wine one time in pregnancy.
Anonymous
03/16/2024 14:57
Subject: Freaking out - cooked with a decent amount of wine at 12w
Can't do anything about it now, OP. Try to calm down and do things differently going forward. Everything will be fine.