I am in my mid-40s. One child - who will be graduating high school this year. I can't imagine having a child at 40. Child rearing is a lot of work. I look forward to getting to know my child during this next phase of her life and how our relationship will evolve.

Plus, I will have more energy/time to focus on my career, take up a new hobby, and spend more time with my husband.

Yes, 44. Has been great and DH and I both say it has kept us young.

That was my biggest nightmare through my entire 40s. I had three kids before I turned 30, almost empty nester at 48 (my youngest will be heading to college this year). I don't know about our marriage, but I would not be able to handle a new baby at 40s.

SMbC here; only child at 45. She has been my workout coach since her birth-- walking/ running each day, and now my running partner at 15 with her on her track team. She has kept my spirits high and optimistic even as I turned 60.

Anonymous wrote:I'm 40 hubby is 39 we are pregnant I wasn't on birth control.

No, you are pregnant. You’re husband is not going through any physical or emotional changes with carrying a baby. Don’t ever be disrespectful of women and what they go through to give birth.

Anonymous wrote:I'm 40 hubby is 39 we are pregnant I wasn't on birth control.

Your husband is pregnant?

I'm 40 hubby is 39 we are pregnant I wasn't on birth control.

Anonymous wrote:This is us! Eldest kids are 9 and 7, little one is 1 this month (DH is 42, I’m 38). Totally happy.

Did you not read the title? 38 is not last 40.

Anonymous wrote:This is us! Eldest kids are 9 and 7, little one is 1 this month (DH is 42, I’m 38). Totally happy.

37 is not late.

This is us! Eldest kids are 9 and 7, little one is 1 this month (DH is 42, I’m 38). Totally happy.

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Anonymous wrote:Most of my friends had first kids 40-43.

My great grandma had my grandma at 42 in the 1930s


Friend had accident twins at 45

Or donor egg they didn’t disclose.

No, she thought she was in menopause. They were committed to one and done.

Anonymous wrote:This sounds like a nightmare to me. Have fun not enjoying a retirement. Ever.

Np, 46, and this is my definition of a nightmare, too. I can't imagine having another kid right now.

This sounds like a nightmare to me. Have fun not enjoying a retirement. Ever.

Anonymous wrote:Unwanted pregnancy here at 44 about to turn 45. I couldn't believe it. We opted to terminate immediately. Already have 3 children in HS/MS. Could not imagine having a child at 45 plus have some medical concerns that would've made it very high risk.

I have zero regrets about the decision and was so relieved.

I also terminated, but I was 42 and had 3 kids under the age of 5. The early years w/the kids were tough on our marriage, and it wasn’t going to get easier w/another baby. Also, we planned on 3 kids and our family felt complete. No regrets at all about terminating.

Anonymous wrote:Most of my friends had first kids 40-43.

My great grandma had my grandma at 42 in the 1930s


Friend had accident twins at 45

Or donor egg they didn’t disclose.