Anonymous
Post 03/10/2024 10:45     Subject: BF is my height
OP. I love him immensely. He keeps being emotionally perfect for me. And I’m intensely attracted to him in a way that I think will last. We kiss a lot though, which I love but it’s why I’ve stopped wearing taller heels—don’t want to bend down to kiss him.
Anonymous
Post 03/09/2024 20:29     Subject: BF is my height
Anonymous wrote:Which makes me taller than him in heels. Neither of us is short but would this bother you? Would it bother him? Would you stop wearing heels because of it? Right now I’m limiting myself to 1 heels and it’s annoying me.


I personally don't think I can have romantic feelings toward a shorter man. I have tried, and couldn't. I sort of ended up considering the guy as a little brother. But since he already is your boyfriend, it seems to be working for you.
Anonymous
Post 03/09/2024 20:24     Subject: Re:BF is my height
It would be a dealbreaker for me, sorry. But I’m tall and I need a man to dominate me with his size.
Anonymous
Post 03/09/2024 20:11     Subject: BF is my height
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I’m a 6’2 male and would prefer a date / partner not wear heals around me, regardless of whether she is 5’0 or 6’0. In my college fraternity, we had to wear high heels for several days as a test and I will never ever get over how uncomfortable they are (or were for me). Anytime my date wears heals, I die a little inside.

My partner can wear heals all she wants when she’s not around me (and when she’s around me so long as she understands it is a distraction for me).


So you don’t think your part is smart enough to decide for herself whether heels are comfortable?

Everyone is not you. I find heels uncomfortable but I have a friend who wears them like breathing. Respect your partners’ ability to dress themselves, please. If you fuss about how uncomfortable it makes YOU to see her in heels, you’re an ass.

So if your male partner does something that makes you uncomfortable, you keep your mouth shut about it? And if you do something that makes your partner uncomfortable, you’d prefer that they not tell you? That sounds like a recipe for a wonderful marriage.
Anonymous
Post 03/09/2024 20:08     Subject: BF is my height
Anonymous wrote:I’m a 6’2 male and would prefer a date / partner not wear heals around me, regardless of whether she is 5’0 or 6’0. In my college fraternity, we had to wear high heels for several days as a test and I will never ever get over how uncomfortable they are (or were for me). Anytime my date wears heals, I die a little inside.

My partner can wear heals all she wants when she’s not around me (and when she’s around me so long as she understands it is a distraction for me).


So you don’t think your part is smart enough to decide for herself whether heels are comfortable?

Everyone is not you. I find heels uncomfortable but I have a friend who wears them like breathing. Respect your partners’ ability to dress themselves, please. If you fuss about how uncomfortable it makes YOU to see her in heels, you’re an ass.
Anonymous
Post 03/09/2024 19:50     Subject: BF is my height
I’m a 6’2 male and would prefer a date / partner not wear heals around me, regardless of whether she is 5’0 or 6’0. In my college fraternity, we had to wear high heels for several days as a test and I will never ever get over how uncomfortable they are (or were for me). Anytime my date wears heals, I die a little inside.

My partner can wear heals all she wants when she’s not around me (and when she’s around me so long as she understands it is a distraction for me).
Anonymous
Post 03/09/2024 19:35     Subject: BF is my height
Anonymous wrote:OP - wear higher heels. If it bothers him, have a honest discussion about why he believes women should be shorter than their male partners. If his reasons don't fit with your values then you aren't a good match.


Why are trying to instigate by telling her to wear higher heels? Your an ass.
Anonymous
Post 03/09/2024 19:33     Subject: BF is my height
OP - wear higher heels. If it bothers him, have a honest discussion about why he believes women should be shorter than their male partners. If his reasons don't fit with your values then you aren't a good match.
Anonymous
Post 03/09/2024 19:11     Subject: Re:BF is my height
Huh, can't imagine why women have a terrible track record of picking mates when they're worried about other people's approval of their BF's height.
Anonymous
Post 03/09/2024 19:07     Subject: BF is my height
Did he ask you not to wear your heels?

Wear your damn heels! If he has a problem with it he's not for you.

If his height bothers you, he's not for you.

Don't make life more complicated than it has to be
Anonymous
Post 03/09/2024 19:05     Subject: Re:BF is my height
Anonymous wrote:So your boyfriend needs to meet 100% of your requirements to continue dating?



Not op, but yes he does, otherwise we're wasting each other's time
Anonymous
Post 03/09/2024 18:33     Subject: BF is my height
Anonymous wrote:Which makes me taller than him in heels. Neither of us is short but would this bother you? Would it bother him? Would you stop wearing heels because of it? Right now I’m limiting myself to 1 heels and it’s annoying me.


You've answered your question yourself. You are shallow, not in love and not ready for a serious long term relationship.
Anonymous
Post 03/09/2024 18:04     Subject: BF is my height
I dated a guy who was my height (5'3") and he didn't care when I wore heels. He also didn't care about dating women taller than him, his only qualm was he was fine dating a taller girl, but taller girls weren't interested in dating him lol.
Anonymous
Post 03/09/2024 17:41     Subject: BF is my height
I’ve always admired the confidence of the short man/tall women couples, honestly
Anonymous
Post 03/09/2024 17:38     Subject: BF is my height
I'm 5' 7" and my DH is 5' 6 1/2". I wear tall heels without thinking about it at all. It's fine. He's his height, and I'm my height. It matters for naught. He doesn't care and neither do I.