Your daughter can say: "My parents have asked how to reach me if there is an emergency while we're on vacation. Can you please provide the name of the property and a phone number just in case?"

That's not weird, that's just common sense.

Anonymous wrote:She’s probably going to Lyford Cay or Mill Reef, it will be fine.

Ha that’s exactly what I thought!

Omg - OP, I get where you’re coming from and will probably feel the same way when my kids are older, but also that would have driven me absolutely bananas at DD’s age. I took a similar trip in HS w a friend’s family, spent part of a summer with another friend etc and seriously I think my mom bought the plane tickets and that’s about it. In college I also traveled a lot with friends, and obviously made my own travel plans. I would tell my mom what country/state I was going to, and she’d ask when I’d be back, and that would be about it. Is there a reason you don’t trust your DD?

She's 20, not 16 so you should not expect to know details, not from the parents. It's not necessarily more interesting because it's "high-profile" as you describe. How others live, their relationships, and how they communicate may not be what others prefer. A hands offs approach, for this age, is reasonable. Guard against thinking this-is-a-big-deal. No good will come of that.

I was also coming here to post, like a PP, that I spent my 20YO summer touring around Europe and sometimes even I didn’t really know where I was, let alone my parents. I did get into some risky positions but had the wherewithal to figure it out. Try to think back on your own abilities at that age and realize your daughter will be fine with the amount of info you have right now.

I can’t imagine why you think the parents should be reaching out to you. That’s crazy.

Anonymous wrote:OP, At age 20 it would not be normal for friends parents to reach out to you about travel plans. Honestly, it would be weird and belittling.

Have your daughter ask the name of the place they will be staying.

+1

Yeah…the only reason you are being a little nuts is because your kid is still in college and you feel like you still have control.

In two years, imagine your kid could easily just go on a trip like this and you might not even know it happened until after the fact.

BTW…funny how you mention famous and Big Law…unless your friend’s parent is Judge Judy or on the Supreme Court…or is the Morgan & Morgan guy on TV…there is no famous BigLaw person.

Seriously, you need to let go. At this age I spent the summer traveling through Europe by train, staying in hostels and my parents had no way of reaching me or knowing where I was the whole time. I’m guessing that you already track your daughter’s phone so you will know where she is. But yes, the week before departure, it would be appropriate for your daughter to ask for contact info for her family in case of emergency.

Just ask her to share her location on her phone with you. And stop being such a creepy wannabe. It would have been insane for the parents to have contacted you.

It isn’t a helicopter thing to ask the address where they will be staying. Safety first!

My son also likes to be vague on travel plans (and they involve things like caving). I usually ask who I should contact if he does not return which gets me something.

She’s probably going to Lyford Cay or Mill Reef, it will be fine.

Anonymous wrote:OP, At age 20 it would not be normal for friends parents to reach out to you about travel plans. Honestly, it would be weird and belittling.

Have your daughter ask the name of the place they will be staying.

This. And your daughter is picking up on your weird social climbing vibe.

So many details were unnecessary. And slightly cringe.

OP, At age 20 it would not be normal for friends parents to reach out to you about travel plans. Honestly, it would be weird and belittling.

Have your daughter ask the name of the place they will be staying.