Anonymous
Post 03/07/2024 12:31     Subject: Should I “let” my husband buy this car?
Anonymous wrote:Why do we think it’s your job to tell your husband what he is allowed to value? So you’re not a car person, fine, move on. Do you want him to tell you what you’re allowed to value and spend money on? No? Didn’t think so! As for the, “you cant afford it” posters, suck my lilly white *ss!
Apart from the last sentence, I agree with you 100%.
Anonymous
Post 03/07/2024 12:31     Subject: Should I “let” my husband buy this car?
You have 6 million. Why be a jerk about it?
Anonymous
Post 03/07/2024 12:30     Subject: Should I “let” my husband buy this car?
Anonymous wrote:He wants a Porsche Boxster. With the options he wants, it’s around 110k. He makes > 500k.

We “technically” have a net worth over 6 million BUT 750k is money earmarked for kids’ educations, ~ 500k is our house, and ~ 300 is in illiquid investments.

Liquid investments excluding the 529s is probably around 4.5 million.

No debt.

He already has an expensive car (SUV) so idk why he needs another one. But I feel bad saying no since we can technically afford it.

Can you think of reasons to say no?


No, I cannot think of any reasons to deny your husband a well earned passion.
Anonymous
Post 03/07/2024 12:29     Subject: Should I “let” my husband buy this car?
Anonymous wrote:You have a net worth over $6 million and your husband makes over $500k a year and you're going to pick this hill to die on?

How much do you make OP?

They are DCUM poors.
Anonymous
Post 03/07/2024 12:28     Subject: Should I “let” my husband buy this car?
No offense, honestly, but I don't understand why you have a say in this. But given that you do, be excited for him and amp him up about it. Why be a drag?
Anonymous
Post 03/07/2024 12:25     Subject: Should I “let” my husband buy this car?
sell the suv and Get tesla x performance
Anonymous
Post 03/07/2024 12:25     Subject: Should I “let” my husband buy this car?
OP. together you have a net worth of over 6 million, and your spouse makes over $500k a year. You need to reframe this. He could also come to you next month and say "I can't sustain this anymore, and I don't have any enjoyment. I'm stepping back to a $300k a year job." You do see how absurd it would be for you to ask if you should "let" him do that, right?
Anonymous
Post 03/07/2024 12:24     Subject: Should I “let” my husband buy this car?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Everyone I know who gets the Boxster or even the Carrera rarely drives it. Plus, when I see a middle aged guy driving one I instantly think midlife crisis.

If he wants a Porsche why not trade in the SUV for the Cayenne. Or get the Cayman and make it a family car.

Or if he is feeling the itch, get the new SUV Rivian. Though who knows how long they'll be in business. That is a super cool car.


SUVs are in no way a replacement for a mid-engined convertible! jesus.

But really I think the whole point IS a midlife crisis. Yeah, OPs husband wants an expensive shiny toy, a little bit of automotive joy. And she can probably easily talk him out of it. But then what? Maybe he then tries to fix that lack of adrenaline rush by going to the gym a lot more, and gets distracted by an expensive bit of feminine excitement instead. Yeah, ok, the car is going to lose money just being driven off the lot, and maybe he decides to sell it in a few years at a loss. The man earns more than 500k a year. Let him have his toy and take joy in it. Also go for rides with him and try to share his enjoyment.


This made me smile. Such passion! I'm the PP you are responding to. The Rivian SUV is a new version of the midlife crisis car, but not nearly as obvious. They are fun to drive. In my affluent neighborhood, I am surrounded Porches (I drive the Cayman), Maseratis, Lamborghinis, Tesla Xs, Bentleys, you name it, and plenty of people with drivers. And the vehicle that everyone is talking about that only 2 people have right now is the Rivian SUV. (Though in one case just one of 6 cars.) So it was just a thought for something different.
Anonymous
Post 03/07/2024 12:10     Subject: Should I “let” my husband buy this car?
You have a net worth over $6 million and your husband makes over $500k a year and you're going to pick this hill to die on?

How much do you make OP?
Anonymous
Post 03/07/2024 12:09     Subject: Should I “let” my husband buy this car?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What a waste of money


+1


+2. I’d allow one nice car per driver, not two. And even then, I’m talking $60k, not $110k.
Anonymous
Post 03/07/2024 12:07     Subject: Should I “let” my husband buy this car?
I didn't evem know they make the boxster anymore. I never see them. Do you have a three car garage or will this toy be sitting on the street? Yes, I would "let" him if you have the space for it.
Anonymous
Post 03/07/2024 12:06     Subject: Should I “let” my husband buy this car?
He can afford it.
Anonymous
Post 03/07/2024 12:04     Subject: Should I “let” my husband buy this car?
Anonymous wrote:Porsche is for douchebags, get a Tesla performance


When 0-60 is the only metric that matters
Anonymous
Post 03/07/2024 11:56     Subject: Should I “let” my husband buy this car?
Porsche is for douchebags, get a Tesla performance
Anonymous
Post 03/07/2024 11:47     Subject: Should I “let” my husband buy this car?
Anonymous wrote:Why not get one that's used? This one is basically brand new for $68K: https://www.cars.com/vehicledetail/a99dd3dc-2ab0-462d-b7b3-1132ceab2f42/

2022, 10K miles, CPO for significantly less than your $110K stated above.

This is what I would do. Get one that’s 1-2 years old. It saves SO much money.