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Anonymous wrote:I am a woman and I pay for a premium membership to tinder. The reason for this is bc it allows me to “hide” my profile from people unless I have liked them. So I don’t just show up in everyone and anyone’s stack of potential matches, Im only seen by people I like.

The reason I do this is twofold: first, if you are an attractive woman and you don’t do so, you will get overwhelmed with likes to sort through. Second, you are bound to see people you know: coworkers, neighbors, people you know socially, ex boyfriends, etc. This way, they don’t see me unless I like them. Thus avoiding potential awkwardness.

So if both paid for premium, they will never see each other then

There can be legit reasons for women to not have their profile visible until they swipe right on someone. (Beyond the reason of not being able to get over themselves if a friend or colleague sees them on their, which is a joke at this point).

Men who hide their profile are, 99% of the time, married.

Anonymous wrote:I am a woman and I pay for a premium membership to tinder. The reason for this is bc it allows me to “hide” my profile from people unless I have liked them. So I don’t just show up in everyone and anyone’s stack of potential matches, Im only seen by people I like.

The reason I do this is twofold: first, if you are an attractive woman and you don’t do so, you will get overwhelmed with likes to sort through. Second, you are bound to see people you know: coworkers, neighbors, people you know socially, ex boyfriends, etc. This way, they don’t see me unless I like them. Thus avoiding potential awkwardness.

So if both paid for premium, they will never see each other then

You are a woman and OLD Apps are built to please you. You will be able to pick and choose as you please.

Anonymous wrote:Did he only see you after you swiped right on him? I thought people appear in your feed once they swiped right.
In any case, how much did you pay? Its $60/month now and I don't want to spend the money based on the guys I see for free but would reconsider if Bumble is holding back on me

Yes, he only saw me after I swiped. He wouldn’t have seen me at all if I hadn’t because I paid to be incognito, or whatever the term is. Men only saw me after I swiped.

I can’t remember. It was more than. I was expecting, but it was worth it. Absolutely exhausting reviewing each profile with 8 out of every 10 having one of my dealbreakers. I feel like I would have never even seen 3/4 of the guys meeting my filters unless I was swiping constantly day after day.

I found my husband on the League. This was a while ago and I think the filters they use have changed now, but at the time I thought that, of all the apps, it had the most men who had what I was looking for.

Anonymous wrote:None of them. They're designed to keep you on there and gate keep the good matches for premium memberships.

And if you’re a woman, Godspeed. The options are AWFUL in DC.

All I see are horny lawyers. Any other type?

Did he only see you after you swiped right on him? I thought people appear in your feed once they swiped right.
In any case, how much did you pay? Its $60/month now and I don't want to spend the money based on the guys I see for free but would reconsider if Bumble is holding back on me

I used bumble. Paid for it for a month for the same reasons mentioned, but also to be able to use more filters. I had dealbreakers (location, age, politics, religion) and didn’t want to sort through men that had them. Anyone I “liked” / swiped on I used the superlike feature.

I probably swiped about eight men. Chatted with five went out on three first dates, two second dates, and one third date. I’ve been with the man I went on the third date with ever since.

I was on the app for a month. My boyfriend showed up close to the end of that month.

I think bumble holds some profiles back, because by the second week I really didn’t have more than four or five new profiles in my stack show every few days, and he’d been on since I’d been. He hit all my filters and hadn’t changed them, so he really should have been seen in the first week.

Hinge allows voice recordings. I like hearing how people sound. Not everyone uses that feature.

Anonymous wrote:I am a woman and I pay for a premium membership to tinder. The reason for this is bc it allows me to “hide” my profile from people unless I have liked them. So I don’t just show up in everyone and anyone’s stack of potential matches, Im only seen by people I like.

The reason I do this is twofold: first, if you are an attractive woman and you don’t do so, you will get overwhelmed with likes to sort through. Second, you are bound to see people you know: coworkers, neighbors, people you know socially, ex boyfriends, etc. This way, they don’t see me unless I like them. Thus avoiding potential awkwardness.

My Dh found me on Match, fwiw.

His profile never came up for me.

I think the best site/app is the one with the most people on it, and the best chance is putting yourself out there. I wouldn’t care if my friend, exes etc. knew I was on OLD.