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Anonymous wrote:At age 11 I think he’s borderline too old for a sleepover. Age 11 most kids are starting puberty.

What does puberty have to do with it? My high schooler still loves a sleepover.

lol, I’m sure he does

So you believe that sleepovers between teenagers are inherently sexual? I’m sorry for whoever hurt you and that a normal, joyful sleepover experience was ruined for you.

Yeah 18 year old boys are known for their old-fashioned pillow fights at 10 and fruit smoothies at 11!

It’s weird that you haven’t heard of teenagers enjoying movies or video games.

I am a fifth grade teacher. Students do not do sleepovers at this age. They will hang out and attend one another’s games or events but not sleepover. I think it’s a bit old.

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Anonymous wrote:At age 11 I think he’s borderline too old for a sleepover. Age 11 most kids are starting puberty.

What does puberty have to do with it? My high schooler still loves a sleepover.

lol, I’m sure he does

So you believe that sleepovers between teenagers are inherently sexual? I’m sorry for whoever hurt you and that a normal, joyful sleepover experience was ruined for you.

Yeah 18 year old boys are known for their old-fashioned pillow fights at 10 and fruit smoothies at 11!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:At age 11 I think he’s borderline too old for a sleepover. Age 11 most kids are starting puberty.

What does puberty have to do with it? My high schooler still loves a sleepover.

lol, I’m sure he does

So you believe that sleepovers between teenagers are inherently sexual? I’m sorry for whoever hurt you and that a normal, joyful sleepover experience was ruined for you.

Tell me you’ve never talked to a teenage boy about…literally…anything, without telling me. You should get to know your kid, darlin!

We don’t do them at all. I did growing up and remember some really fun times and a few really uncomfortable occasions. My husband is from a culture that doesn’t do non-family sleepovers and he is completely opposed to them, so we just have a blanket no sleepover rule. So far my kids have survived and are not social outcasts or anything.

Taking away the devices (yes they will sneak them in) helps with sleep. And saying no. I have stopped hosting except for special occasions, so has another family. It cuts down a lot on invites because it's people reciprocating.

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Anonymous wrote:At age 11 I think he’s borderline too old for a sleepover. Age 11 most kids are starting puberty.

What does puberty have to do with it? My high schooler still loves a sleepover.

I also feel like 10 — 15 is peak sleepover age. 11 is just getting started!

When kids are younger it’s not as fun. Late elementary through middle school and early high school is prime sleepover time.

Anonymous wrote:At age 11 I think he’s borderline too old for a sleepover. Age 11 most kids are starting puberty.

There's no such thing as being too old for a sleepover.

Anonymous wrote:Sleepovers are an absolutely terrible idea. Have you not read the news about the Oregon creep dad who drugged his twelve year old daughter’s friends. Yeah , sleepovers are a big no!

Do you know why it made the news? Because it's unusual.

I HATE sleepovers. I told my kid that we'd do one every other month or so if invited. The stay up all night, and it takes everyone days and days to recuperate. And we only host on special occasions. I have not backed down on that. What's special about it if you do it every weekend?

I think it’s a balance between letting your kid have fun with friends based on what is socially popular while keeping it from undermining your kid’s sleep and other weekend priorities. My wife has said that she was literally sleeping over at her friends house almost every weekend for most of high school. But I remember it being a rare special occasion like OP described. We both ended up happy so I guess either way can be ok. My wife and I also find that our kids have very different attitudes. Our oldest would prefer never sleepover because they likes her bed and hates feeling tired the next day. While our youngest would keep the party going all weekend every weekend if they could. I think you’ve got a try to let your kids join in on their social circle matters which matters more and more to their happiness as they become teenagers. But if they’re an absolute nightmare, the next day, you might have to moderate and allow it to happen, but less often.

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Anonymous wrote:At age 11 I think he’s borderline too old for a sleepover. Age 11 most kids are starting puberty.

What does puberty have to do with it? My high schooler still loves a sleepover.

lol, I’m sure he does

So you believe that sleepovers between teenagers are inherently sexual? I’m sorry for whoever hurt you and that a normal, joyful sleepover experience was ruined for you.

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Anonymous wrote:Sleepovers are an absolutely terrible idea. Have you not read the news about the Oregon creep dad who drugged his twelve year old daughter’s friends. Yeah , sleepovers are a big no!

And you feel like this happens often enough that no sleepovers are the way to go? Guessing you’re also not driving in cars, swimming in pools, or engaging in any activity that is a million times more likely than a dad drugging his daughters’ friends. Makes sense. Safety first.

*a million times more likely to cause harm than the possibility of a dad drugging his daughter’s friends*

Anonymous wrote:At age 11 I think he’s borderline too old for a sleepover. Age 11 most kids are starting puberty.

This is such a bizarre comment. Why would puberty affect a sleepover

Anonymous wrote:Sleepovers are an absolutely terrible idea. Have you not read the news about the Oregon creep dad who drugged his twelve year old daughter’s friends. Yeah , sleepovers are a big no!

And you feel like this happens often enough that no sleepovers are the way to go? Guessing you’re also not driving in cars, swimming in pools, or engaging in any activity that is a million times more likely than a dad drugging his daughters’ friends. Makes sense. Safety first.