Even though as mortals everyone is but people over 60 really are on borrowed time, you never know.

I was 21 when my oldest was born. She was 29 when she had her first. Assuming her first gets married at 25, which obviously is young, I’d be 75 at the wedding.

So it can’t be all that often that grandparents are at their kids weddings, can it be?

My dad had me when he was 45, so I’m honestly so so grateful for every year he gets to spend with my kids. It was always a secret terror of mine that he wouldn’t get to meet them — I’ve always wanted kids and thought was a wonderful grandfather he was to my niece. My mother is now 73 and volunteering to babysit oftener than I take her up in it. If my kids choose to have kids I hope I get to meet them but I’m not unduly concerned with the situation although I guess that may change as my children grow up. My sister is pretty upset my niece has no desire for kids of her own even though she loves and supports her daughter.

I am a grandparent in my 60s whose oldest grandchild is 7. I have significant health issues and if I live another 10 GOOD years my oldest grandchild will be 17. The youngest will be 10. I do everything I can to stay healthy and want to cherish every moment I have with them.
Grandkids are the best thing that ever happened to me.

It's such a toss-up. I lost both grandfathers before I was 10, but have one grandmother still living (I'm in my 40s) and had multiple great grandmothers alive during my teens. You could be healthy at 80, or dead in a car accident tomorrow.

I will say, having an aging parent who needs care, who is still caring for *his* elderly parent, is challenging.

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Anonymous wrote:If my kids have kids at 40 I’ll be 72, so I’ll have about 18 years with grand children

How do you know you will live to be 90? And even if you do, that you will be healthy enough to interact with them, and not just bed ridden with dementia?

I'll be lucky to die at 90, my family lives into their late 90's. My mom was at a Mexican restaurant drinking margarita's the week before she died.

I'd drink more but i'm irish so that won't do it.

Besides grandkids don't care so much after they are teens so I'd be good with 0-15.

Anonymous wrote:If my kids have kids at 40 I’ll be 72, so I’ll have about 18 years with grand children

How do you know you will live to be 90? And even if you do, that you will be healthy enough to interact with them, and not just bed ridden with dementia?

Anonymous wrote:With young people postponing marriages and parenting, how many people in their 50's or 60's can now expect to see their grandchildren before cancer or dementia catches up?

We have 3+ generations of having kids at age 30-35 and all met our grandparents and grandkids whilst still cognizant.

I hope so! I only have one child and I was in my late 30s when he was born. I’ve had cancer and have a chronic disease so I don’t know how my life will unfold but I am doing all I can to stay healthy and fit in large part for this goal - I of course realize no guarantees.

I got married at 31 and had my baby at 33. My parents are early 60s and in good health.

I doubt I would be alive or active in my 70's. Just being there doesn't mean much, in fact creats problems for sandwich parents taking care of both kids and grandparents.

If my kids have kids at 40 I’ll be 72, so I’ll have about 18 years with grand children

Anonymous wrote:Why is it always about "meeting your grandkids"?

I'd rather my children be well adjusted and have their own children when they are ready. Not when they are 22 just so I get to spend more time with them.

This is the trade off I made as well. I grew up in a dysfunctional family and my parents have met all their grandkids but I don't know the this is the victory OP seems to think it is.

Anonymous wrote:Why is it always about "meeting your grandkids"?

I'd rather my children be well adjusted and have their own children when they are ready. Not when they are 22 just so I get to spend more time with them.

You just be GenX not a boomer

My grandma had my dad at 40. He had me at 27. She died when I was 30. Not bad at all.