Looks like I’m in the knitters club too. DH and I talk with people at parties but I’d consider something that is clearly flirting to cross a line. DH doesn’t really know how to flirt so I don’t worry about him but I’d feel horrible if I was flirting and DH was either also in the conversation or entered the conversation. If I saw someone I knew to be married who was clearly flirting as OP described, not merely enjoying a conversation, I’d be surprised too. Although if there were two women at the same time it seems less sketchy bc the chances that he truly expected to get both their numbers together was minimal and more likely that he was trying to be interesting and engaging.

I’m getting the sense that you are another one of many women on this site who think every man that may smile, nod or hold the door is hitting on you.
Let’s pick this apart a little bit, you mention him flirting with multiple women at once, just going by an average demographic of who posts here and who your likely peer group would be I somehow doubt that an average 40+ man is flirting and trying to score at one of these super lame (read dry) functions

And just like the rest of the women on this site who see hidden sexual meaning in every single interaction I’ll bet my left incisor that you will not tell us exactly what this man said, how he said it, his facial expressions or if any touch was used in his interactions with these women.


So, Carol…..let’s have it, in the same excruciating detail like you’re in a congressional inquiry.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’d be kind of impressed if my DH flirted with one woman, let alone two.

This. I'm French, H is American and you guys can't flirt at all. AT all. It's either clutching pearls or crude pick up, nothing in between.

I’m American and this is spot on.

I’m sure she knows.

Anonymous wrote:I’d be kind of impressed if my DH flirted with one woman, let alone two.

This. I'm French, H is American and you guys can't flirt at all. AT all. It's either clutching pearls or crude pick up, nothing in between.

Stay out their business

I find it harmless, personally. I’m married, not dead. Husband and I talk about who we find attractive.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP go read your bible and knit something. This is not a big deal.

No kidding. Flirting is a way to know that you still have a pulse and enjoyment of other people.

Plus you have no idea what their relationship is like. My husband does this and comes home to tell me about it in good fun. It’s healthy.

Bizarre that someone would need to flirt to know they still have a pulse and enjoy the company of others.

Anonymous wrote:Who are you people posting "it's no big deal?" Flirting with others isn't a big deal if your spouse is aware and consents. If not, if you're hiding/doing it behind your spouse's back and would be embarrassed/ashamed/lie if caught, it's cheating and on the way to an EA.

I suspect the "nbd" types are either cheaters themselves and related to the guy OP caught, or only okay with it b/c it's OP's friend's partner (and you're assuming that's not your man).

There is a distinct line between friendly and flirty. If you're flirting with no intention of following through, you're leading someone on. Don't be a dick.

Holy snowflake Batman. Does your husband get unchained from the radiator very often?
And leading someone on with a little flirt? It’s not a marriage proposal. Jeez.

If he was flirting with his pants on, it’s a non-issue.

Anonymous wrote:OP go read your bible and knit something. This is not a big deal.

No kidding. Flirting is a way to know that you still have a pulse and enjoyment of other people.

Plus you have no idea what their relationship is like. My husband does this and comes home to tell me about it in good fun. It’s healthy.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who are you people posting "it's no big deal?" Flirting with others isn't a big deal if your spouse is aware and consents. If not, if you're hiding/doing it behind your spouse's back and would be embarrassed/ashamed/lie if caught, it's cheating and on the way to an EA.

I suspect the "nbd" types are either cheaters themselves and related to the guy OP caught, or only okay with it b/c it's OP's friend's partner (and you're assuming that's not your man).

There is a distinct line between friendly and flirty. If you're flirting with no intention of following through, you're leading someone on. Don't be a dick.

You can join the knitters club.

And you can stay in the cheaters club.

I would hope my spouse is “flirting” and hitting it off with others at a social event. Do you want to be married to a droopy sad-sack empty suit that is ignored by every woman (or man) in the place?

Anonymous wrote:Both my husband and I are very outgoing, friendly and conversational in other words good party people. I’m sure some people might say that we are flirting at times but we’re not. If we are at the same event, afterwards we like to compare notes on the interesting…or boring….people we have met. Thankfully, mostly interesting.

Same with us.

Both my husband and I are very outgoing, friendly and conversational in other words good party people. I’m sure some people might say that we are flirting at times but we’re not. If we are at the same event, afterwards we like to compare notes on the interesting…or boring….people we have met. Thankfully, mostly interesting.