Anonymous
Post 03/02/2024 18:31     Subject: Walking dates complaints
Are you for real? Walking date? Nope
Anonymous
Post 03/02/2024 18:26     Subject: Walking dates complaints
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My girlfriend and I met via online dating and we are deeply in love. However, we have an ongoing debate about walking dates as a first date and I would like to hear some opinions.

She believes it is a sign of disrespect and that the man who invites her on a walking date just doesn't want to spend any money.

I on the other hand believe it is just fine as a first date, as you get to know someone in a casual way.


What was your first date with her, OP? Is this a conflict about her thinking you were disrespectful, or is she observing something in general, such that this is really a very stupid thing to debate about?


We went for coffee which we both enjoyed. If you have not got anything better to do than post nasty comments,then do t even bother posting.


If you had a nice first date with her that met both of your needs, why are you discussing other men's "disrespectful" first date strategies? If she thinks those dates were disrespectful, fine. I wouldn't. You clearly don't. But she is her own person with her own needs. It sounds like her main complaint is that she found a lot of the men she met online did not want to put any effort into getting to know her or going on real dates. She does not seem to have that complaint with you. Problem solved.


The problem is not solved, because she still feels bitter about it and is sometimes even angry about it


She's angry and bitter about a first date that she agreed to? You need to let this one go. I don't care how much you currently "love" her this is not someone you want as a wife or mother.
Anonymous
Post 03/02/2024 18:21     Subject: Re:Walking dates complaints
Anonymous wrote:Lol.
That’s one way to eliminate the fatties and women who only want to overdress and wear high heels. Walking date! 3 mile minimums. No drinks afterwards, just cut and run.


+1

Bingo.
Anonymous
Post 03/02/2024 18:20     Subject: Walking dates complaints
I think this depends. Do you tell your date up front so she doesn't show up in a pretty dress and heels?
Anonymous
Post 03/02/2024 18:16     Subject: Walking dates complaints
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My girlfriend and I met via online dating and we are deeply in love. However, we have an ongoing debate about walking dates as a first date and I would like to hear some opinions.

She believes it is a sign of disrespect and that the man who invites her on a walking date just doesn't want to spend any money.

I on the other hand believe it is just fine as a first date, as you get to know someone in a casual way.


What was your first date with her, OP? Is this a conflict about her thinking you were disrespectful, or is she observing something in general, such that this is really a very stupid thing to debate about?


We went for coffee which we both enjoyed. If you have not got anything better to do than post nasty comments,then do t even bother posting.


If you had a nice first date with her that met both of your needs, why are you discussing other men's "disrespectful" first date strategies? If she thinks those dates were disrespectful, fine. I wouldn't. You clearly don't. But she is her own person with her own needs. It sounds like her main complaint is that she found a lot of the men she met online did not want to put any effort into getting to know her or going on real dates. She does not seem to have that complaint with you. Problem solved.


The problem is not solved, because she still feels bitter about it and is sometimes even angry about it
Anonymous
Post 03/02/2024 18:10     Subject: Walking dates complaints
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My girlfriend and I met via online dating and we are deeply in love. However, we have an ongoing debate about walking dates as a first date and I would like to hear some opinions.

She believes it is a sign of disrespect and that the man who invites her on a walking date just doesn't want to spend any money.

I on the other hand believe it is just fine as a first date, as you get to know someone in a casual way.


What was your first date with her, OP? Is this a conflict about her thinking you were disrespectful, or is she observing something in general, such that this is really a very stupid thing to debate about?


We went for coffee which we both enjoyed. If you have not got anything better to do than post nasty comments,then do t even bother posting.


If you had a nice first date with her that met both of your needs, why are you discussing other men's "disrespectful" first date strategies? If she thinks those dates were disrespectful, fine. I wouldn't. You clearly don't. But she is her own person with her own needs. It sounds like her main complaint is that she found a lot of the men she met online did not want to put any effort into getting to know her or going on real dates. She does not seem to have that complaint with you. Problem solved.
Anonymous
Post 03/02/2024 18:08     Subject: Walking dates complaints
My wife and I went for a walk in Rock Creek Park on our first date. A proposed 30 minute walk turned into 3 hours together. We were exclusive after three dates and moved in together after a year.

Going for a walk allows the date to wind down quickly or easily extend to something longer if you hit it off.
Anonymous
Post 03/02/2024 18:08     Subject: Walking dates complaints
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:She sounds very entitled, I would not have the patience for someone like that.

Explain how it is entitled to want to go to Starbucks for a $3 coffee. The men on online dating even refused to do that for her. She would have even paid for her own.


You met her online. Did you refuse to go on a real date with her? If you are so in love, why are you even discussing what other men do on OLD?
Anonymous
Post 03/02/2024 18:07     Subject: Walking dates complaints
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My girlfriend and I met via online dating and we are deeply in love. However, we have an ongoing debate about walking dates as a first date and I would like to hear some opinions.

She believes it is a sign of disrespect and that the man who invites her on a walking date just doesn't want to spend any money.

I on the other hand believe it is just fine as a first date, as you get to know someone in a casual way.


What was your first date with her, OP? Is this a conflict about her thinking you were disrespectful, or is she observing something in general, such that this is really a very stupid thing to debate about?



We went for coffee which we both enjoyed. If you have not got anything better to do than post nasty comments,then do t even bother posting.
Anonymous
Post 03/02/2024 18:05     Subject: Walking dates complaints
Anonymous wrote:She sounds very entitled, I would not have the patience for someone like that.

Explain how it is entitled to want to go to Starbucks for a $3 coffee. The men on online dating even refused to do that for her. She would have even paid for her own.
Anonymous
Post 03/02/2024 18:04     Subject: Walking dates complaints
Anonymous wrote:My girlfriend and I met via online dating and we are deeply in love. However, we have an ongoing debate about walking dates as a first date and I would like to hear some opinions.

She believes it is a sign of disrespect and that the man who invites her on a walking date just doesn't want to spend any money.

I on the other hand believe it is just fine as a first date, as you get to know someone in a casual way.


What was your first date with her, OP? Is this a conflict about her thinking you were disrespectful, or is she observing something in general, such that this is really a very stupid thing to debate about?
Anonymous
Post 03/02/2024 18:04     Subject: Walking dates complaints
Anonymous wrote:You both sound exhausting and the fact that neither of you can't let this simple crap go does not bode well for your future.

What might be simple for some of you might not be simple for others. My gf is very upset over it and would benefit from alternative perspectives
Anonymous
Post 03/02/2024 17:59     Subject: Walking dates complaints
You both sound exhausting and the fact that neither of you can't let this simple crap go does not bode well for your future.
Anonymous
Post 03/02/2024 17:51     Subject: Walking dates complaints
Anonymous wrote:Pay peanuts, get monkeys.


This. Dating is an investment of time and resources. You're telling stories about yourself with your choices and actions, not just your words. You don't need to go overboard (that's just the opposite side of this problem), but you shouldn't skimp, either.
Anonymous
Post 03/02/2024 17:50     Subject: Re:Walking dates complaints
Anonymous wrote:Lol.
That’s one way to eliminate the fatties and women who only want to overdress and wear high heels. Walking date! 3 mile minimums. No drinks afterwards, just cut and run.


At least we know why you'll die single