Anonymous wrote:I did not want a ring, we did decide to get married together (no proposal) and then we did. I did not want a wedding ring, I have never worn jewelry. My mom bought us rings, they cost less than $100. I lost mine on the honeymoon, he lost his a few months later.

We also had a small, inexpensive wedding. For both of us it was not about rings and it was not about the wedding, it was about the marriage.

We stayed married for 25 years.

Why aren’t you married anymore? Did he die?

If he gave you a paper ring, sound that be enough OP?

Really shouldn’t it be like that though? A decision that is made together. Why does the man have to propose? Why does there have to be a ring?

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Anonymous wrote:Because to them it's acceptable. If none of the parties care about rings and proposals why should they go ahead with it? It sounds like you are the one with the problem.

I know they find it acceptable. That's the point. It's sad they're ok with it.

Why do you think it's sad for someone else to have feelings or morals different than yours?

Who do you think you are to judge what someone else does within their own relationship?

We got engaged without a ring. He asked, I said yes. When sharing the news with friends and family, one asked about my ring (25 years ago, no FaceTime). I then realized I didn't have one. Asked about this, and he said, "you don't think I'd pick out a ring for you to wear everyday forever without your input, do you?"

Like I said, 25 years ago. We are still married, and I still wear the ring we picked out together

Because they don’t like rings and have better things to do with the money? The important part of engagement/marriage is the commitment not what if any physical object being used to symbolize it.

Assuming you are not a troll, OP I would be less concerned about the ring and other trappings of the wedding and more concerned about how stable and long-term the guy seems to be. When I used to follow Babycenter a few years ago, I was shocked by the plethora of women who had multiple kids with their “fiance” or kids with multiple fathers. Opened my eyes to a different way of life. You don’t want your sister to join those ranks so make sure she thinks the guy will stick around.

Diamond engagement rings are a consumer product created in the 20th century- congrats OP, you’re a brainwashed materialist!

Some of us think about bigger things and haven’t spent our whole lives obsessing over a piece of jewelry or our one day as princess of the world. We aren’t any less deep or committed than you - in fact, people with the simplest weddings statistically have the longest lasting marriages whilst many who get a big ring and have a huge wedding are relatively quickly divorced.

Why don’t you mind your own business?

We already had a kid and together so I relationship collateral lol.

He proposed with a very nice ring several years after we were married. This was 17 year ago and still happily married .

It’s what THEY want. Who does it hurt by not getting an engagement ring? That’s the problem with most people. Just because someone does something different than what others do, holy F. MYOB

A family member earns millions a year. His wife does not have an engagement ring.

They are completely unnecessary.

I did not want a ring, we did decide to get married together (no proposal) and then we did. I did not want a wedding ring, I have never worn jewelry. My mom bought us rings, they cost less than $100. I lost mine on the honeymoon, he lost his a few months later.

We also had a small, inexpensive wedding. For both of us it was not about rings and it was not about the wedding, it was about the marriage.

We stayed married for 25 years.

I hate jewelry. Absolutely hate it, it’s ugly, makes me break out in hives and causes me to feel nauseous. Not everyone likes jewelry some people despise it.

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Anonymous wrote:Because to them it's acceptable. If none of the parties care about rings and proposals why should they go ahead with it? It sounds like you are the one with the problem.

I know they find it acceptable. That's the point. It's sad they're ok with it.

I think it’s sad you need a ring. 🤷‍♀️

Why do some women think that it's acceptable to stick their noses in other people's weddings?