Anonymous wrote:I suggest he leans into his job, makes (a lot) more money, and you hire a lot more help to do all the household management stuff or allow you to go to part-time.
Anonymous wrote:Even the Dads I know who work a ton do dropoff some. They may not make it home for dinner or evening stuff but they can go in late. He needs to take some mornings. You are doing too much.
Can you cut back on activities? Hire more help for evenings?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:A friend of mine is a partner in big law. When his kids were young, he had a hard stop in the office at 5pm. From 5-8pm, he was unavailable. He would get online at 8pm and finish whatever work he needed to do. He clearly communicated his boundaries, people understood and respected them.
It's unfortunate this isn't the norm.
It can be the norm, but men have to step up and set the boundaries and not just expect their spouses to do everything.
OP, in terms of practical advice - given the lack of load your husband is carrying at home, working out every morning is a luxury. Could he shift workouts to Tues/Thurs and then also grab exercise time on the weekend?
Anonymous wrote:I suggest he leans into his job, makes (a lot) more money, and you hire a lot more help to do all the household management stuff or allow you to go to part-time.
Anonymous wrote:A friend of mine is a partner in big law. When his kids were young, he had a hard stop in the office at 5pm. From 5-8pm, he was unavailable. He would get online at 8pm and finish whatever work he needed to do. He clearly communicated his boundaries, people understood and respected them.
Anonymous wrote:I was in your position and it turned out my now ex was fully exploiting me and taking advantage of my obvious and understandable distraction. But it was all my fault of course!
Then he cheated and I divorced him. Not what he wanted or expected.
This current situation is full of red flags. Start looking at your finances now.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:A friend of mine is a partner in big law. When his kids were young, he had a hard stop in the office at 5pm. From 5-8pm, he was unavailable. He would get online at 8pm and finish whatever work he needed to do. He clearly communicated his boundaries, people understood and respected them.
It's unfortunate this isn't the norm.