Anonymous wrote:It's never an issue with my thin hot gf who is 30 years younger than me.

The 57 year old man, I mean woman, who emails you online for more money.

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Anonymous wrote:I think often a more sexy partner would make ED less of an issue and a less sexy partner would make it more of an issue, but that's only part of the story. Very individual.

Needless to say, the hotter the partner, ED is less of a problem.

I think this is true, though it is painful for many women to hear.

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Hot woman who has never encountered this issue

What’s the oldest person you’ve been with?

Anonymous wrote:DH cannot perform if he is stressed or tired. He also developed ED from watching too much porn. Now he no longer uses porn and has to “save it” for me. He is 44.

That is quite young to develop ED.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think often a more sexy partner would make ED less of an issue and a less sexy partner would make it more of an issue, but that's only part of the story. Very individual.

Needless to say, the hotter the partner, ED is less of a problem.

I think this is true, though it is painful for many women to hear.

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Hot woman who has never encountered this issue

Anonymous wrote:OP here. He could get hard on his own but not with me. He has a new girlfriend and I can’t help wondering if it’s different with her. I 100% know this is my own insecurity talking.

He's having sex with someone else at the same time as he's dating you? You should have a problem with that, not with his ED.

Anonymous wrote:I think often a more sexy partner would make ED less of an issue and a less sexy partner would make it more of an issue, but that's only part of the story. Very individual.

Needless to say, the hotter the partner, ED is less of a problem.

Anonymous wrote:Psychologically based? Only some.

Depends on the psychological issue. If he was abused in childhood and thus has lifelong anxiety, depression, and low self-esteem, he will have ED issues with every woman.

Porn addiction, being overweight and having high blood pressure are also huge issues. He needs to see a dr.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. He could get hard on his own but not with me. He has a new girlfriend and I can’t help wondering if it’s different with her. I 100% know this is my own insecurity talking.

It's not you, it's him. Men don't have issues with erections unless they have ED. But they are in total denial.

Tell me you don't understand men without saying it outright.

Anonymous wrote:With my husband I know that if I’m not really into it he can have a problem. The solution has been agreeing in the morning that we will have fun that night and that gives me the chance to get get psyched up. When my mind is in the right place my body really follows. If I’m “energetic” he never has a problem.

This truth would put some pharma companies out-of-business. This simple idea would save quite a few relationships.

OP hope you know this is in no way a reflection on you. I know that is way easier said than done.

Current BF (40s) sometimes has ED issues. Especially when stressed, dealing with work stuff or family issues. It always makes for an awkward moment when he can't keep it up. I have to remind myself it is part of the intimacy roller coaster.

Anonymous wrote:I asked the same question a month ago! People flamed me. I struggle sometimes with my current GF but I didn't have any problems in recent relationships with younger women. Even now I can get aroused just talking on the phone with some other women.

Why are you getting aroused talking on the phone to "other women" who are not your GF?

Anonymous wrote:It's never an issue with my thin hot gf who is 30 years younger than me.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. He could get hard on his own but not with me. He has a new girlfriend and I can’t help wondering if it’s different with her. I 100% know this is my own insecurity talking.

It's not you, it's him. Men don't have issues with erections unless they have ED. But they are in total denial.

Once you reach a certain age if a woman is just going through the motions ED can be an issue. Plenty of women, like plenty of men, are lousy in bed.