Anonymous
Post 02/24/2024 16:08     Subject: A DCUM how would you react
I would be bummed but not angry. I would 100% know that their solution (somebody gets to go and everybody gets to try it in some fashion) was well-meant and I would tell them so but I’d ask them to plan to do something else instead please bc I would be so jealous and my spouse would for sure understand and just go eat lunch elsewhere that day.
Anonymous
Post 02/24/2024 16:02     Subject: A DCUM how would you react
Story of my life. Dh, through work lunches, always ends up trying new places I want to go to, months before I get to. I am jealous while happy he gets to go and a bit sad he never enjoys them because he has a picky basic palate. These are not strong emotions that stick around more than a moment though so I doubt your spouse A is stewing on anything
Anonymous
Post 02/24/2024 15:57     Subject: Re:A DCUM how would you react
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Is spouse A job so critically important to humanity’s survival that they can’t take a 90 minute break for lunch or start workday a few hours earlier to free up early eve?


Leaving your snotty tone to the side, Spouse A is working out of town for a week so it is reasonable yo think s/he cannot control is schedule that week.


Point still stands. Spouse B is awfully defensive.
Anonymous
Post 02/24/2024 15:56     Subject: A DCUM how would you react
Sounds like OP is Spouse B.
Anonymous
Post 02/24/2024 15:53     Subject: A DCUM how would you react
Anonymous wrote:OP here. Spouse A didn't care. Most of coworkers shared they'd be mad and I was honestly surprised. Spouse A doesn't play games so they were genuinely not upset. Unfortunately we had both just taken a week and a half off so Spouse A had a ton of meetings and work to catch up on and a 90 min lunch at 215 really wasn't possible. Spouse B works full time but the hours are very flexible. They had done all their hours and work for the week in the 3 days leading up to the trip.


Are you Spouse A or B?

Anonymous
Post 02/24/2024 15:30     Subject: A DCUM how would you react
OP here. Spouse A didn't care. Most of coworkers shared they'd be mad and I was honestly surprised. Spouse A doesn't play games so they were genuinely not upset. Unfortunately we had both just taken a week and a half off so Spouse A had a ton of meetings and work to catch up on and a 90 min lunch at 215 really wasn't possible. Spouse B works full time but the hours are very flexible. They had done all their hours and work for the week in the 3 days leading up to the trip.
Anonymous
Post 02/24/2024 14:54     Subject: Re:A DCUM how would you react
Anonymous wrote:Is spouse A job so critically important to humanity’s survival that they can’t take a 90 minute break for lunch or start workday a few hours earlier to free up early eve?


Leaving your snotty tone to the side, Spouse A is working out of town for a week so it is reasonable yo think s/he cannot control is schedule that week.
Anonymous
Post 02/24/2024 14:53     Subject: A DCUM how would you react
I’d be mad/sad. I think it would feel like a bait and switch - you weren’t interested, couldn’t get resos with me, but now want to go and exclude me? No way jose! At least I’d never do that to my spouse.
Anonymous
Post 02/24/2024 14:53     Subject: A DCUM how would you react
I would be mad.
Anonymous
Post 02/24/2024 14:51     Subject: Re:A DCUM how would you react
Is spouse A job so critically important to humanity’s survival that they can’t take a 90 minute break for lunch or start workday a few hours earlier to free up early eve?
Anonymous
Post 02/24/2024 14:48     Subject: A DCUM how would you react
As the person who is often Spouse B, I wouldn't have gone to the restaurant under those circumstances. I would have suggested we all get carry out for dinner together.
Anonymous
Post 02/24/2024 14:39     Subject: A DCUM how would you react
I'd be envious that they get to go but glad for them and glad I at least get some takeaway from there.
Anonymous
Post 02/24/2024 14:38     Subject: A DCUM how would you react
Why is spouse b trying to get a reservation when they don’t care about it in the first place and taking one when they know their spouse can’t join? It seems like they are setting up for spouse a to be annoyed.
Anonymous
Post 02/24/2024 14:26     Subject: A DCUM how would you react
I would be furious.
Anonymous
Post 02/24/2024 14:19     Subject: A DCUM how would you react
Anonymous wrote:Glad they're going and excited that I'm going to get a taste, even though I know the table experience would be better!

Can't relate to the other answers, honestly.


Same here. And I would have done my best to rearrange my schedule and see if they could squeeze in a 3rd. Or pay my kid off to get him to go walk around a museum for 2 hours.