Anonymous
Post 02/23/2024 12:47     Subject: Re:What to wear to meet boyfriend's parents?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The reality is that nobody cares what you wear. What do you wear to dinner with your parents?


It sounds like OP's family is way less formal/posh than her boyfriend's family. That's why she's having issues.


Okay but the reality is she is overthinking it.

If they are a-holes it doesn't matter what she wears and if they are nice it doesn't matter what she wears.

Besides, ask your boyfriend, they are dating right?

You think she can't figure out if she should wear gym shorts or business casual?


I think she is asking for guidance because she's nervous, feels out of her element, and wants to make a good impression. I can't see why you find this confounding or offensive. Good for you if you've never once in your life been nervous about an event, even a teeny tiny one.


Of course I have been nervous about an event, speaking engagements, etc.

But the advice I had was, your overthinking it, you know the subject, relax.

Not OMG YALE AND MIT, YOURE SCREWED MAKE SURE YOU WEAR THE PERFECT OUTFIT.

It must be flats, if you don't wear flats he will definitely break up with you. oh if they see your shoulders call it quits. You all are crazy.

If she takes advice here she will look like a 50 year old women from the 90's anyway.

Yall don't know any MIT or Yale people me thinks.
Anonymous
Post 02/23/2024 12:44     Subject: What to wear to meet boyfriend's parents?
Anonymous wrote:Yes I think Yale Club has a dress code or at least used to, and the parents will be used to that. I'd also dress like I'm going to church, but with a dress, not pants.


This.
Anonymous
Post 02/23/2024 12:43     Subject: What to wear to meet boyfriend's parents?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What is your boyfriend wearing? Jacket and tie?


I don't know - he'll probably decide the morning of. He comes from preppy, classy people. I come from dirtbag people. So this is no big deal to him while it's a huge stress to me. One time, he got invited to the opera last minute and went. He literally had like three hours notice, and just whipped up an outfit. I wouldn't even know what a person wears to an opera.

People show up in jeans at the opera.


You know who does that? Either people who don't know any better - or people so wealthy and secure they don't have to care what anyone thinks of them. That's slob privilege.
Anonymous
Post 02/23/2024 12:43     Subject: Re:What to wear to meet boyfriend's parents?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The reality is that nobody cares what you wear. What do you wear to dinner with your parents?


It sounds like OP's family is way less formal/posh than her boyfriend's family. That's why she's having issues.


Okay but the reality is she is overthinking it.

If they are a-holes it doesn't matter what she wears and if they are nice it doesn't matter what she wears.

Besides, ask your boyfriend, they are dating right?

You think she can't figure out if she should wear gym shorts or business casual?


I think she is asking for guidance because she's nervous, feels out of her element, and wants to make a good impression. I can't see why you find this confounding or offensive. Good for you if you've never once in your life been nervous about an event, even a teeny tiny one.
Anonymous
Post 02/23/2024 12:42     Subject: Re:What to wear to meet boyfriend's parents?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The reality is that nobody cares what you wear. What do you wear to dinner with your parents?


It's just my mother, and we consider Olive Garden fancy and I'd wear whatever I was wearing that day - joggers and a hoodie/tshirt or jeans. We're more diner people, but we don't actually go to dinner. We went out with a group of friends the day I graduated from HS - I think that was the last time we went to dinner.


You don't work, you don't understand how to dress in different situations? Do you wear swim clothes to play basketball.

Are you for real?
Anonymous
Post 02/23/2024 12:41     Subject: What to wear to meet boyfriend's parents?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What is your boyfriend wearing? Jacket and tie?


I don't know - he'll probably decide the morning of. He comes from preppy, classy people. I come from dirtbag people. So this is no big deal to him while it's a huge stress to me. One time, he got invited to the opera last minute and went. He literally had like three hours notice, and just whipped up an outfit. I wouldn't even know what a person wears to an opera.

People show up in jeans at the opera.
Anonymous
Post 02/23/2024 12:40     Subject: Re:What to wear to meet boyfriend's parents?
Anonymous wrote:The reality is that nobody cares what you wear. What do you wear to dinner with your parents?


It's just my mother, and we consider Olive Garden fancy and I'd wear whatever I was wearing that day - joggers and a hoodie/tshirt or jeans. We're more diner people, but we don't actually go to dinner. We went out with a group of friends the day I graduated from HS - I think that was the last time we went to dinner.
Anonymous
Post 02/23/2024 12:40     Subject: Re:What to wear to meet boyfriend's parents?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The reality is that nobody cares what you wear. What do you wear to dinner with your parents?


It sounds like OP's family is way less formal/posh than her boyfriend's family. That's why she's having issues.


Okay but the reality is she is overthinking it.

If they are a-holes it doesn't matter what she wears and if they are nice it doesn't matter what she wears.

Besides, ask your boyfriend, they are dating right?

You think she can't figure out if she should wear gym shorts or business casual?
Anonymous
Post 02/23/2024 12:38     Subject: Re:What to wear to meet boyfriend's parents?
Anonymous wrote:The reality is that nobody cares what you wear. What do you wear to dinner with your parents?


It sounds like OP's family is way less formal/posh than her boyfriend's family. That's why she's having issues.
Anonymous
Post 02/23/2024 12:37     Subject: What to wear to meet boyfriend's parents?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I would do a blazer. I don't think the rest of the look matters that much as long as it's clean and follows the rules PP posted.

A blazer does a lot for women. It's a much bigger bang for your buck than any cardigan or sweater. It's powerful, stylish and also simple to wear. You can go with any style that suits you - be it oversized, fitted, colorful or neutral. You can dress it down with a tee or sweater and jeans or dress it up with a blouse or dress. You can accessorize it with a pin or brooch. It will allow you to immediately feel more powerful when faced with intimidating people.

For a March brunch I think you can go with navy. What's your height and size, and everyday style? I can make some more specific recs.


Thanks, I would really love specific recs! I've never gone to church. I'm 5'7" and either a 2 or 4 depending on the brand. A coworker told me once that my style is Rory Gilmore?


How old are you? At your size I think basically anything is going to look good on you, OP - you have that going for you!

I'd probably pick up a nice simple jumpsuit - if you wear leather, a nice leather jacket with it.
Anonymous
Post 02/23/2024 12:36     Subject: Re:What to wear to meet boyfriend's parents?
The reality is that nobody cares what you wear. What do you wear to dinner with your parents?
Anonymous
Post 02/23/2024 12:33     Subject: What to wear to meet boyfriend's parents?
Anonymous wrote:I would do a blazer. I don't think the rest of the look matters that much as long as it's clean and follows the rules PP posted.

A blazer does a lot for women. It's a much bigger bang for your buck than any cardigan or sweater. It's powerful, stylish and also simple to wear. You can go with any style that suits you - be it oversized, fitted, colorful or neutral. You can dress it down with a tee or sweater and jeans or dress it up with a blouse or dress. You can accessorize it with a pin or brooch. It will allow you to immediately feel more powerful when faced with intimidating people.

For a March brunch I think you can go with navy. What's your height and size, and everyday style? I can make some more specific recs.


Thanks, I would really love specific recs! I've never gone to church. I'm 5'7" and either a 2 or 4 depending on the brand. A coworker told me once that my style is Rory Gilmore?
Anonymous
Post 02/23/2024 12:30     Subject: What to wear to meet boyfriend's parents?
Anonymous wrote:What is your boyfriend wearing? Jacket and tie?


I don't know - he'll probably decide the morning of. He comes from preppy, classy people. I come from dirtbag people. So this is no big deal to him while it's a huge stress to me. One time, he got invited to the opera last minute and went. He literally had like three hours notice, and just whipped up an outfit. I wouldn't even know what a person wears to an opera.
Anonymous
Post 02/23/2024 11:51     Subject: What to wear to meet boyfriend's parents?
OP, give us your approx age and size and what type of clothes you wear to work, and we can suggest some things.
Anonymous
Post 02/23/2024 11:46     Subject: What to wear to meet boyfriend's parents?
I would do a blazer. I don't think the rest of the look matters that much as long as it's clean and follows the rules PP posted.

A blazer does a lot for women. It's a much bigger bang for your buck than any cardigan or sweater. It's powerful, stylish and also simple to wear. You can go with any style that suits you - be it oversized, fitted, colorful or neutral. You can dress it down with a tee or sweater and jeans or dress it up with a blouse or dress. You can accessorize it with a pin or brooch. It will allow you to immediately feel more powerful when faced with intimidating people.

For a March brunch I think you can go with navy. What's your height and size, and everyday style? I can make some more specific recs.