Anonymous wrote:I'm a man. I've done this. And further, I've met my future subordinates for coffee prior to landing so I could hit the ground running. In both cases - upward and downward - the meetings paid dividends.

It's baffling to me all of the people pushing back on this.

Subordinates being the key word.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh, I would actually like this! It shows initiative and interest. I would love to hear that someone reached out to their new boss at my firm!

- CEO of a small consulting firm

The higher ranking person should do the reaching out.

This.

Can someone explain why? I feel like I don't get all these "the higher person should..." rules. Because it is similar to giving a gift?

I will do you one better. My new job had an all hands meeting two weeks before my start date. I not only went, they paid my transportation and hotel and went out to drinks and dinner my new boss.

Offers can be rescinded so no up side.

That set your boss is a women and your are a women seems normal.

My bosses would be 100% fine with this!

I do think you should wait until you start, but otherwise, grabbing coffee with workmates or using it as networking is totally normal. I feel like there are a lot of people on here without real jobs?

I'm a man. I've done this. And further, I've met my future subordinates for coffee prior to landing so I could hit the ground running. In both cases - upward and downward - the meetings paid dividends.

It's baffling to me all of the people pushing back on this.

Anonymous wrote:Wait until closer to the start date. It's totally fine to ask if they would like to grab coffee. Go somewhere convenient for them.

Tbh most managers would like this in an environment with remote employees. It's tough to build relationships and engagement.

I agree with this advice. I don’t understand the “no” chorus because their reasoning seems overly dramatic and illogical. Be sincere OP and I think you’ll be fine. No future boss is waiting to judge you and think your request is strange. I really cannot imagine a boss turning down this suggestion or thinking it’s strange. But if meeting doesn’t work for them for some reason, I’m sure they’ll say no tactfully.

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Anonymous wrote:Get to know the culture first, OP.

I think this is probably correct.

This.

Wait until closer to the start date. It's totally fine to ask if they would like to grab coffee. Go somewhere convenient for them.

Tbh most managers would like this in an environment with remote employees. It's tough to build relationships and engagement.

Anonymous wrote:Get to know the culture first, OP.

I think this is probably correct.

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Anonymous wrote:baffled by the quick and blunt "no" chorus.

It’s the only right answer which is why it’s quick and blunt.

No, it's not. Apparently no one remembers work life in 2019.

No, don't do that

It is fine unless they didn’t tell you they were in your city and you just figured that out on your own. It might make them wonder if you’re going to bail on your offer though.

The interviews were all virtual. Why would think that her boss would want to grab coffee before she starts?
On top of that, no employee should be asking their boss this who isn’t working yet.

Get to know the culture first, OP.