Anonymous
Post 02/22/2024 08:22     Subject: 2-part breakup
Anonymous wrote:If you gave him a lecture and he sat through it, you should probably do the same for him. Use a public space like a park bench.

You both sound awful though. Like the kind of people who do exit interviews.


She wants it to happen now so that she can come back here and complain about him to strangers on the internet. He can do that same about her on his gaming twitch stream.
Anonymous
Post 02/22/2024 08:19     Subject: 2-part breakup
Anonymous wrote:If you gave him a lecture and he sat through it, you should probably do the same for him. Use a public space like a park bench.

You both sound awful though. Like the kind of people who do exit interviews.


lol!
Anonymous
Post 02/22/2024 08:00     Subject: 2-part breakup
Anonymous wrote:If you gave him a lecture and he sat through it, you should probably do the same for him. Use a public space like a park bench.

You both sound awful though. Like the kind of people who do exit interviews.


They sound very attracted to drama.
Anonymous
Post 02/22/2024 07:58     Subject: 2-part breakup
If you gave him a lecture and he sat through it, you should probably do the same for him. Use a public space like a park bench.

You both sound awful though. Like the kind of people who do exit interviews.
Anonymous
Post 02/22/2024 07:53     Subject: 2-part breakup
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:With 36 hours to think about, I would brace yourself, he may be going through it.


Unfortunately, I think you’re right. Despite the work emergency, BF found the time to send me several messages in the middle of the night (I didn’t see them until morning). They were extremely angry and accusatory. It’s unclear if he still wishes to speak tomorrow. I’m not sure how or even if I should respond given he’s presumably still in the thick of things at work. PPs are correct that this is more drama than I anticipated.


Time to block that boy.


I don’t think it’s necessary. I wrote a gentle response and asked if he still wanted to talk Thursday but he didn’t reply. I think he’s done.


Correction - he just sent another middle of the night message (I kept my phone on this time) saying he’s looking forward to talking. Now I’m really confused - does he just want to ream me out some more?


My ex did this with his AP. It’s an excuse to bang again. They will drag it out and milk it for all its worth. He broke up in person because he figured he could hit it one last time —said this actually. They don’t care and unless you rip the band aid off—you are the booty call.
Anonymous
Post 02/22/2024 05:45     Subject: 2-part breakup
Ugh- I had a guy do this once after an 18 month relationship and yes it was to point outlet all my many physical and psychological flaws. He even had another girl at that point.
I’ll say this: at the time it was mortifying and hurtful but now decades later it helped me see that I probably didn’t want to be with them anyway as that would have been my marriage.

Anonymous
Post 02/22/2024 02:57     Subject: 2-part breakup
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:With 36 hours to think about, I would brace yourself, he may be going through it.


Unfortunately, I think you’re right. Despite the work emergency, BF found the time to send me several messages in the middle of the night (I didn’t see them until morning). They were extremely angry and accusatory. It’s unclear if he still wishes to speak tomorrow. I’m not sure how or even if I should respond given he’s presumably still in the thick of things at work. PPs are correct that this is more drama than I anticipated.


Time to block that boy.


I don’t think it’s necessary. I wrote a gentle response and asked if he still wanted to talk Thursday but he didn’t reply. I think he’s done.


Correction - he just sent another middle of the night message (I kept my phone on this time) saying he’s looking forward to talking. Now I’m really confused - does he just want to ream me out some more?
Anonymous
Post 02/22/2024 01:32     Subject: 2-part breakup
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:With 36 hours to think about, I would brace yourself, he may be going through it.


Unfortunately, I think you’re right. Despite the work emergency, BF found the time to send me several messages in the middle of the night (I didn’t see them until morning). They were extremely angry and accusatory. It’s unclear if he still wishes to speak tomorrow. I’m not sure how or even if I should respond given he’s presumably still in the thick of things at work. PPs are correct that this is more drama than I anticipated.


Time to block that boy.


I don’t think it’s necessary. I wrote a gentle response and asked if he still wanted to talk Thursday but he didn’t reply. I think he’s done.
Anonymous
Post 02/22/2024 01:29     Subject: 2-part breakup
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:Break up talk????


Is that not normal? I’ve never broken up with a significant other without having one last meaningful conversation. In this case we began talking right after work, but then BF was unexpectedly called back in.


It was normal for me. One 4 year relationship and one 2 year relationship with a significant conversation at the end of both so maybe it depends how long you've been with the person. There is something between beating a dead horse and blocking someone as a respectful means of ending a relationship.


We were together for 2 years, and it was quite serious.
Anonymous
Post 02/21/2024 15:01     Subject: 2-part breakup
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Break up talk????


Is that not normal? I’ve never broken up with a significant other without having one last meaningful conversation. In this case we began talking right after work, but then BF was unexpectedly called back in.


It was normal for me. One 4 year relationship and one 2 year relationship with a significant conversation at the end of both so maybe it depends how long you've been with the person. There is something between beating a dead horse and blocking someone as a respectful means of ending a relationship.
Anonymous
Post 02/21/2024 12:58     Subject: 2-part breakup
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:With 36 hours to think about, I would brace yourself, he may be going through it.


Unfortunately, I think you’re right. Despite the work emergency, BF found the time to send me several messages in the middle of the night (I didn’t see them until morning). They were extremely angry and accusatory. It’s unclear if he still wishes to speak tomorrow. I’m not sure how or even if I should respond given he’s presumably still in the thick of things at work. PPs are correct that this is more drama than I anticipated.


Time to block that boy.
Anonymous
Post 02/21/2024 10:41     Subject: 2-part breakup
Anonymous wrote:Wow, I don't think I know how to break up with someone! I said, I don't think this is working, and he said, OK.


lol yes, you do. I don't want to have a long drawn out conversation with someone I don't want to be with. Total waste of our time. "Ok" is a perfect response/ending.
Anonymous
Post 02/21/2024 09:53     Subject: 2-part breakup
Anonymous wrote:With 36 hours to think about, I would brace yourself, he may be going through it.


Unfortunately, I think you’re right. Despite the work emergency, BF found the time to send me several messages in the middle of the night (I didn’t see them until morning). They were extremely angry and accusatory. It’s unclear if he still wishes to speak tomorrow. I’m not sure how or even if I should respond given he’s presumably still in the thick of things at work. PPs are correct that this is more drama than I anticipated.
Anonymous
Post 02/20/2024 23:05     Subject: 2-part breakup
After being with Dh for over 20 years, this seems like child’s play.

Did you break up with him? Are you broken up?

You will probably just have make up sex.
Anonymous
Post 02/20/2024 23:02     Subject: 2-part breakup
With 36 hours to think about, I would brace yourself, he may be going through it.