Anonymous
Post 02/20/2024 21:08     Subject: So far I love being divorced
Me too! Congrats, don’t talk about it too much with parent friends……..they are jealous trust me. Ask me how I know.
Anonymous
Post 02/20/2024 19:25     Subject: So far I love being divorced
Anonymous wrote:Other than the lower income, but then again I was spending a lot to make up for my unhappiness with XH. We had been in couples therapy on and off for years. I feel like I got a second chance at life.

I'm better looking now that I'm not depressed by his toxic energy, have a career, a boyfriend to have amazing sex with, and my kids are well adjusted because XH and I keep drama to ourselves. No by most UMC standards my life doesn't look good - but the revolution is inside. I don't need as much because I feel joyful. Taking walk and spending time in my yard is peace.

It has been tough trying to reinvent myself but I am so happy sometimes I have to pinch myself.


It is really great on the other side, isn't it?
Anonymous
Post 02/20/2024 19:24     Subject: So far I love being divorced
Unhappy would have been fine. I was abused.
Anonymous
Post 02/20/2024 18:59     Subject: So far I love being divorced
Anonymous wrote:Other than the lower income, but then again I was spending a lot to make up for my unhappiness with XH. We had been in couples therapy on and off for years. I feel like I got a second chance at life.

I'm better looking now that I'm not depressed by his toxic energy, have a career, a boyfriend to have amazing sex with, and my kids are well adjusted because XH and I keep drama to ourselves. No by most UMC standards my life doesn't look good - but the revolution is inside. I don't need as much because I feel joyful. Taking walk and spending time in my yard is peace.

It has been tough trying to reinvent myself but I am so happy sometimes I have to pinch myself.


Thank you for sharing. It gives me hope. Best wishes.
Anonymous
Post 02/20/2024 18:48     Subject: So far I love being divorced
In the end, it's your life. If you feel well, all is well.
Anonymous
Post 02/20/2024 18:41     Subject: So far I love being divorced
Same here OP although I have no plans to ever even date again because I’m so happy alone. My ex and I are both low drama people and we have a calm, friendly coparenting relationship. It’s so much better than the bad, tense marriage we were trapped in.
Anonymous
Post 02/20/2024 18:26     Subject: So far I love being divorced
Anonymous wrote:Happy for you OP. One question, is the boyfriend LT material or you're just having fun? Nothing wrong with just having fun, just wondering if this gets old at some point guess it depends what you are looking for. Congrats on getting your life back


Hoping for longterm but taking my time. Been together 1 year so far and going strong. No plans to merge finances or cohabit or marry.
Anonymous
Post 02/20/2024 18:25     Subject: So far I love being divorced
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Go read Lyz Lenz's book that comes out today. This American Ex-Wife.

Congrats on rebuilding your life. My parents split, and I think seeing them both find happiness was really empowering for me. I choose my husband more carefully than they did, but I also know that if my relationship isn't serving me, I can move on and be ok.



I saw the wapo article with her. Maggie Smith also wrote a divorce memoir. There is a shift.


A shift lol. This is the five millionth version of Eat Pray Love.


I don't think so. Eat Pray Love woman left her husband and was paid to travel and write and immediately got remarried. Maggie Smith was left by her cheating husband. The new shift is that marriage isn't all that.
Anonymous
Post 02/20/2024 18:19     Subject: So far I love being divorced
Happy for you OP. One question, is the boyfriend LT material or you're just having fun? Nothing wrong with just having fun, just wondering if this gets old at some point guess it depends what you are looking for. Congrats on getting your life back
Anonymous
Post 02/20/2024 17:08     Subject: So far I love being divorced
That's nice. Hopefully you pick a mate with more care in the future.
Anonymous
Post 02/20/2024 16:51     Subject: So far I love being divorced
Anonymous wrote:"Kids are well adjusted"

Well, if adults can't adjust, kids have to try to adjust their reality. What choice do they have?


She adjusted very well
Anonymous
Post 02/20/2024 16:48     Subject: So far I love being divorced
Good for you! I am happy for you. This is empowering for a lot of women in unhealthy marriages.

As far as children goes, I think overall they would be better off having happy parents, whether the parents are legally bound or not. The divorce itself does not change the fact that each parent still loves their children and will take care of them. The naysayers and guilt trippers seem to want to spread their own misery.
Anonymous
Post 02/20/2024 16:47     Subject: So far I love being divorced
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Other than the lower income, but then again I was spending a lot to make up for my unhappiness with XH. We had been in couples therapy on and off for years. I feel like I got a second chance at life.

I'm better looking now that I'm not depressed by his toxic energy, have a career, a boyfriend to have amazing sex with, and my kids are well adjusted because XH and I keep drama to ourselves. No by most UMC standards my life doesn't look good - but the revolution is inside. I don't need as much because I feel joyful. Taking walk and spending time in my yard is peace.

It has been tough trying to reinvent myself but I am so happy sometimes I have to pinch myself.


Good for you, enjoy freedom and new partner. Marriage is a two way toll road, if one or both are unhappy then divorce is an exit.

That bring said, with a broken home and parents with new love interests, kids probably aren't the winners but they'll have to cope.

If your X tried therapy, was a good provider and a good post divorce co parent than probably wasn't bad person? I hope your happiness lasts long.


For the record, you can have a broken home without having a divorce. A home is broken when there’s abuse, contempt, and ridicule.
Anonymous
Post 02/20/2024 16:33     Subject: So far I love being divorced
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Go read Lyz Lenz's book that comes out today. This American Ex-Wife.

Congrats on rebuilding your life. My parents split, and I think seeing them both find happiness was really empowering for me. I choose my husband more carefully than they did, but I also know that if my relationship isn't serving me, I can move on and be ok.



I saw the wapo article with her. Maggie Smith also wrote a divorce memoir. There is a shift.


A shift lol. This is the five millionth version of Eat Pray Love.
Anonymous
Post 02/20/2024 16:23     Subject: So far I love being divorced
Anonymous wrote:Go read Lyz Lenz's book that comes out today. This American Ex-Wife.

Congrats on rebuilding your life. My parents split, and I think seeing them both find happiness was really empowering for me. I choose my husband more carefully than they did, but I also know that if my relationship isn't serving me, I can move on and be ok.



I saw the wapo article with her. Maggie Smith also wrote a divorce memoir. There is a shift.