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Anonymous wrote:Bad friend

+1

I hate people who cancel the day off

Really??? I would rather a friend take care of themselves however then felt they needed to than be a body at my gathering. I’m in the stage where everyone has little kids so I assume anyone can bail at any time due to a number of factors.

DP here, sure, of course. But to cancel because "I don't feel like it" is lame and I'd only do that to someone who was an acquaintance. For a friend, I'm going to show up unless there is something serious going on with me.

I"m the pp, I forgot to add that my friends are not just bodies to me. I care about my friends and enjoy their company.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Bad friend

+1

I hate people who cancel the day off

Really??? I would rather a friend take care of themselves however then felt they needed to than be a body at my gathering. I’m in the stage where everyone has little kids so I assume anyone can bail at any time due to a number of factors.

DP here, sure, of course. But to cancel because "I don't feel like it" is lame and I'd only do that to someone who was an acquaintance. For a friend, I'm going to show up unless there is something serious going on with me.

What kind of friend is this? Are you close? Is this a friendship you care about? If so, I say suck it up and go. I'm an introvert and I have been in this position many times. I know it's not easy to push through and go when you really don't want to. But for my close friendships that are important to me, I always do. And the next day I'm always glad I did.

Anonymous wrote:Really crappy to not just rally and go. As a frequent host, I do notice who bags out at the last minute and try to avoid inviting them in the future. A friend of mine had 13 last minute cancellations to her Christmas party leaving her with an ocean of extra catered food. It’s just rude and selfish to not show at the last minute.

+1 OP just go early, stay for 45 minutes, then leave.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Bad friend

+1

I hate people who cancel the day off

Really??? I would rather a friend take care of themselves however then felt they needed to than be a body at my gathering. I’m in the stage where everyone has little kids so I assume anyone can bail at any time due to a number of factors.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Really crappy to not just rally and go. As a frequent host, I do notice who bags out at the last minute and try to avoid inviting them in the future. A friend of mine had 13 last minute cancellations to her Christmas party leaving her with an ocean of extra catered food. It’s just rude and selfish to not show at the last minute.

Good hosts know that a couple people will always have something come up the day of.

While this might be true, a good host has to provide food and drink for everyone in case their “friends” actually live up to their commitments.

How far is it for you? Is it 25 minutes? Or 2 hours? Definitely makes a difference to me on how much you can beg out of this.

I’m also the type who may not want to go but ends up having a good time. I bet you will too.

Anonymous wrote:Suck it up and go. Wow. “Waaahh I won’t even be in the same neighborhood anymore”. You sound pathetic.

I think not being in the area anymore is a legitimate excuse. Not going because you have to go without your husband is more odd to me. Send regrets and stay home, OP.

Just go!

You just suck it up and show up for your friend. How far could it possibly be? It sounds like you’re more annoyed/resentful that your husband won’t be joining and this is just a reluctance to go without him. Force yourself out of your comfort zone.

How far is this from you? You and DH were just going to drop in for apps, on the way to somewhere else. Can you still just drop in for apps? Or even now go for the full evening?

Take some weight off yourself, OP! You only planned a quick cameo in the first place. Furthermore it’s a “casual drop-in house party” not a wedding. Send your regrets and enjoy your quiet time!

If it was a good friend, I would still attempt to make the effort to attend just because I know if I were on her end I would be disappointed if my own friend(s) didn’t show up to my party after confirming they would.

However if you think there will already be a lot of people there already - perhaps you can bow out gracefully by stating that you won’t even be in her area.

Of course, all of this would be dependent on the level of friendship you share.

The pain of going is will be less unpleasant than the stress you’re experiencing now or the guilt you’ll feel if you no-show. Just go.

Suck it up and go. Wow. “Waaahh I won’t even be in the same neighborhood anymore”. You sound pathetic.