Anonymous
Post 02/19/2024 13:32     Subject: Re:Nanny needs surgery
It's happened to us twice. Once we were able to fly my MIL out to stay with us and take care of our then toddler. The second time we had two kids in preschool and kindergarten with busy social lives and extracurriculars and MIL wouldn't have been able to do it. DH and I were able to hire a HS girl to help with stuff at home from 3-7pm each weekday (kids laundry, cleaning out book bags, lunch boxes, reading to the kids, etc) and we took turns getting them where they needed to be after school.

We paid our nanny in full both times.
Anonymous
Post 02/19/2024 13:27     Subject: Nanny needs surgery
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks for the input, especially about DC leave! We’ll look into it. We do pay her on the books. She gets 3 weeks vacation and 10 days sick leave, none of which she has used this year. I imagine this is stressful for her and we want to be supportive while also maintaining appropriate boundaries.


She doesn't have a contagious disease so, pray tell, what are the "appropriate" boundaries for someone undergoing necessary surgery?


Do you really not understand that not all boundaries are physical?[/quote

What other boundaries? The nanny has already told her why she needs the surgery so the only thing to ask is how she is getting along and NOT asking when she will be back to work.
Anonymous
Post 02/19/2024 12:37     Subject: Nanny needs surgery
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks for the input, especially about DC leave! We’ll look into it. We do pay her on the books. She gets 3 weeks vacation and 10 days sick leave, none of which she has used this year. I imagine this is stressful for her and we want to be supportive while also maintaining appropriate boundaries.


She doesn't have a contagious disease so, pray tell, what are the "appropriate" boundaries for someone undergoing necessary surgery?


Do you really not understand that not all boundaries are physical?
Anonymous
Post 02/19/2024 12:34     Subject: Nanny needs surgery
Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks for the input, especially about DC leave! We’ll look into it. We do pay her on the books. She gets 3 weeks vacation and 10 days sick leave, none of which she has used this year. I imagine this is stressful for her and we want to be supportive while also maintaining appropriate boundaries.


She doesn't have a contagious disease so, pray tell, what are the "appropriate" boundaries for someone undergoing necessary surgery?
Anonymous
Post 02/19/2024 12:30     Subject: Nanny needs surgery
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Yes happened to me but it was emergency surgery and unplanned. Our nanny was out for 7 weeks. We let her exhaust her annual sick and vacation pay (advanced it to her) and she took the rest unpaid. My spouse’s company provided backup care free of charge for one week through their employee assistance program and then we cobbled together childcare from grandparents, neighborhood babysitters, etc. You might be able to find a nanny in between jobs to fill in! Another idea is to ask your nanny to suggest a replacement. She probably knows other nannies looking for work.


I think what op is concerned about is dues she have to pay the nanny while she’s out.


OP doesn't even allude to this in her post.