This sounds more like delaying because of Covid than excessive redshirting, you need to calm down OP

My local school has a September cut off. My kid had a late birthday after the testing cut offf. It's not redshirting it's following the rules. I would have loved to not pay that extra year of daycare. I think December 31st should be the cut off so all the kids are born on the same year are in the same grade i general. But what do I know.

The mom is braggy and insecure, she would be that way regardless. Just ignore her. If it bothers you it's because you are insecure also.

Anonymous wrote:There’s a kid in DD class whose birthday is just days before the cutoff. They didn’t start K until she was 6, almost 7. They are now in 2nd grade and I’m honestly so tired of this mom and her bragging about her “advanced” 9yo second grader.

She’s so great at sports, she’s reading above third-grade level (probably because she should BE a third grader, or older!)

I’m not so sure she’s advanced as much as she’s just older. Thoughts? Do I just ignore this woman or should something politely be said?

I know someone like this. Child was redshirted with an early June (like June 2) birthday. For K she was like “I just hope it’s advanced enough.” It took everything in me not to say “maybe if you hadn’t redshirted how advanced K is wouldn’t be a concern.” But I held it in. Soon enough these kids will realize it’s awkward to be a year older than everyone in their class, and it’s not their fault. It’s the parents, but it’s annoying.

I have a second grader. This was the first kindergarten class in school in person after Covid. There are a LOT of parents who didn’t want their children in virtual kindergarten who, instead of starting them in first grade like they should have, delayed kindergarten another year. Most kids turn 8 in second grade but these kids are turning 9. My daughter has two male friends who are already 9.

Hm. My child turned 9 at the very end of third grade.

My brother who has a birthdate just passed the cut off was held back in second grade. It bothered him his whole life. We’re both late 40s professionals and he still talks about it sometimes. Be kind to the kid

I have a 2nd grader. Covid messed these kids up, a lot of people delayed kindergarten to avoid virtual preschool and started late. More than other years.

She was probably more socially immature. I would say nothing.

Anonymous wrote:She's insecure and compensating. Reassure her that her kid is great and then change the subject.

Given the age, it's totally possible that her daughter was caught in Covid nonsense. I'd try not to take it personally. It's been a weird few years.

+1 this is the perfect answer. You are wise, PP

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Anonymous wrote:I'm confused. This person did something close to a double red-shirt?

My DS is early October, and is one of the older 3rd graders at 9.

But you're saying this kid missed the cutoff by a few days and is already 9, but that would basically mean they were a full year older than even the oldest kids?

Anyway, I feel you OP. I'm SO TIRED of my best friend complaining that her son isn't challenged in school. If you wanted to your kid to be challenged, put him in the GD grade he's supposed to be in!

NP but I think it goes like this:

Young Five the 5yo just before the cutoff, immediately turns 6

Kindergarten at 6, immediately turns 7

1st at 7, immediately 8

2nd at 8, immediately 9

That only makes sense if someone is redshirting a full year.

So my son is in 1st, and he's a late May birthday, and will turn 7 towards the end of the school year. There are a couple kids that will turn 8 in early June.

This OP is saying that this kid turned 8 going into first grade, and would be in class with my 6 year old.

There is ONE child like this at my kid's school who is very clearly delayed / special needs, which doesn't seem like the person OP is talking about at all.

Anyway, of course there's nothing the OP can say. Just roll your eyes internally and let her spout.

in what world would "saying something" be polite?

Eh, I’m more impressed with the kids who are a year younger than everyone else and still rocking it. Just smile and change the subject. It’s not about your or your kids.

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Anonymous wrote:Thoughts? Do I just ignore this woman or should something politely be said?

I wouldn't be tired of the mom's bragging. Her child is actually behind. I would assume there are some special needs at play. If there aren't SN, the mother has chosen the easy path for her daughter, which could backfire long term. I would not say anything. It would be rude to insert yourself.

Plus, it might not be as "easy" as you think.

For example, if this girl plays an independent sport that's organized by DOB or Birth Year, she would always be a 'year behind' her teammates.

Anonymous wrote:Thoughts? Do I just ignore this woman or should something politely be said?

I wouldn't be tired of the mom's bragging. Her child is actually behind. I would assume there are some special needs at play. If there aren't SN, the mother has chosen the easy path for her daughter, which could backfire long term. I would not say anything. It would be rude to insert yourself.

Anonymous wrote:What would you do besides ignore? Why do you even care?

Agree. I have no idea what the test scores or reading levels are of any child in my children’s classes. Why are you even talking about this?