Op, sure I think it does. It goes both ways

Anonymous wrote:My husband feels like he would have had a more aggressive climb if he had met me years earlier, I’m not sure why.

Aggressive climb as in faster? To look like a stable married family man would have been beneficial?

Or aggressive pikemen would have had to have been more aggressive with you and at work to handle that all while being married and spending time outside the office on perps al or family matters?

My husband became much more successful and serious after we got married. He wasn't sure what he "wanted to be when he grew up" when we got married, but after that got straight As and is now a law firm partner. But I think that was primarily because he stopped spending a lot of time dating and socializing. He may also have started taking his life more seriously because he wanted kids and knew that I wanted to be a SAHM. I don't think it had anything to do with me, really, just his stage in life. And we have gone through rough patches in our marriage where he probably didn't feel emotionally supported, and he was still every bit a ambitious.

NEVER make a commitment to someone with the assumption that they will change. Imagine them at their worst, and then imagine them worser, and then see if you can still love that person.

Anonymous wrote:Duh.

Everyone needs a wife at home taking care of everything so they bc na be a myopic one trick pony and focus on getting ahead at work 24/7.

Free childcare, free cooking, free cleaning, free planning, free social activities sign up, free $ex, free reminder system, free party planning, free kid tutoring, free healthcare mgmt, and I look like a mature, responsible, likeable Family Guy. After all, someone married me and had kids with me!

A MILLION PERCENT. Clearly you know, as do I. This is always the case.

Anonymous wrote:Duh.

Everyone needs a wife at home taking care of everything so they bc na be a myopic one trick pony and focus on getting ahead at work 24/7.

Free childcare, free cooking, free cleaning, free planning, free social activities sign up, free $ex, free reminder system, free party planning, free kid tutoring, free healthcare mgmt, and I look like a mature, responsible, likeable Family Guy. After all, someone married me and had kids with me!

Lol

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Anonymous wrote:I don't really think it does for most men. It's mostly an excuse to romanticize a selfishness. Nothing wrong with a certain level of selfishness as it's necessary to achieve certain things in life. I'm like this as well, but I don't tell my husband that my ambition is the result of my love for him.

Does love make you want to be a better provider? I am a woman and having children made me put my career in higher gear, because I felt an overwhelming sense of responsibility, including financial responsibility, for them. I felt like since I had the potential to be the higher earner, I was making their lives a precarious with the lax attitude I had until that point.

Spouses are different than children, of course.

For career minded women having children made them more efficient and better managers, of everything.

I have much less to give to my career while also being a parent.

My husband feels like he would have had a more aggressive climb if he had met me years earlier, I’m not sure why.

I've never had a loving and supportive relationship so I can't tell you.

It depends on the career, and depends on what you mean by "boost." Travis Kelce will most likely make a LOT of money with endorsements, or at least have the opportunity to do so, because of his association with Taylor Swift.

But that is an extreme example. My DH's career was very successful before I met him, and still is, and I think that is zero percent because of me.

In my case it helped. Before I met my wife I was working long hours at a consulting firm. My social life was mostly getting drunk with my coworkers. Meeting her gave me the motivation I needed to find a job that was healthier for me.

I believe that a household with adults making "shared-decisions" (or at least a meaningful contribution) as to any one adult's career/professional decisions will have an increased likelihood of making both fewer bad choices (e.g., quiting a job before finding new employment) and overall safer choices.

No. Not at all.

If your spouse is your best friend, it's very convenient for both spouses to also have a "career mentor" in each other. So yeah, I think successful men who are in relationships in successful women get useful feedback from each other when it comes to career and family life.

Anonymous wrote:I’m not talking about social advantage, networking, or practical support at home. I’m asking whether having a loving relationship translates into increased ambition, drive, follow through, goal setting or achievement for a man. Or does water reach its level irrespective of emotional support.

Yuck.

Who cares. Never know, but sure, having a loving relationship that allows you to be all-in on work could be some women’s goals for their married life.

Only in the sense that a DH might feel the need to provide for his spouse and kids. But, that being said, most of the highly successful men that I know are married to highly successful women, with few exceptions. The women who SAH after the kids are out of elementary school tend to suffer from anxiety, ADHD, depression, etc.