Anonymous wrote:I think this is just that you and she don't click in any way. I would just see if your DH can just go out with his friend solo, or they can go as a threesome. Or is there another couple you can invite along- not that you want to ignore this woman, but it would give you other people to talk to during the dinner.

No surer way to give her DH ideas.

I honestly just can’t with Op; I would be so exited for my DH to be maintaining a friendship in this age of epidemic loneliness, and she can’t even smile and nod and ask polite questions for a couple hours. She must have lived a blessed life and never worked retail.

Anonymous wrote:I would ask her questions that encourage her to talk about herself, and then listen. It wouldn't take much out of you, and will make her feel at home. That's what I try to do when I don't have much, or anything, in common with someone else.

This. What are you trying to talk about that is just so difficult?

A true mark of sophistication is the ability to have a conversation with anyone.

Anonymous wrote:You're totally butthurt, lmao.

Console yourself with the thought that it probably won't last.

How old are you? My 20 year old would say something like this. WTF do we have prepubescents trying to do adulting on this board now?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you have a niece, a coworker, or a neighbor in that age range? How do you interact with them?

I do, but they are each more socially mature? It’s hard to put my finger on it, but she’s like an adult who still acts like a teenager cosplaying an adult. It’s really bizarre.

Is she blazing hot? I bet she’s blazing hot. Is he rich? I bet he’s rich. Bonus points for a boat. Does he have a boat?

Anonymous wrote:You're totally butthurt, lmao.

Console yourself with the thought that it probably won't last.

And that your husband’s friend is having the time of his life. Someone should have some joy in this quad.

Anonymous wrote:We’ve gone out with DH’s best friend and his new GF a few times now and I’m having a really hard time. She’s very young, mid-20’s to our (all of us but her) early-40s. The friend thinks she’s cute and endearing, DH has no opinion, and I feel like I’m babysitting a teenager. She can’t relate to anything I talk about, and I can’t find a sweet spot to connect with her at her level, and at this point, I just don’t wish to anymore. She’s just so young and inexperienced, but in a weird way I can’t put my finger on. I have an easier time talking to my teenager.

If you’ve ever had to socialize with someone like this, how did you find common ground?

Attaboy. Keep your head down.

Anonymous wrote:I would go and have something to keep busy with, like making a photo book or being in call for your job

Sure, Jan.

Anonymous wrote:OP, on a scale of 1-10, in your own humble opinion, how hot is she and how hot are you. be honest. that info is needed to put your feelings in context and have a real discussion.

Chicky is probably a DC 7
OP is a handsome and practical woman with amazing cheekbones.

The young woman is just with the guy for whatever money he's providing to her. She doesn't actually want to hang out with his middle-aged friends.

It is rude in any social situation to not politely carry on a conversation.

I didn't say that ~ once again DCUM exaggerates 1000%. Read again. Op is not reasonable to *carry* the conversation.

My assumption is that she’s intimidated by you, and that’s she’s awkward around you because (whether warranted or not) she fears being judged by you. I’d give up on trying to have any sort of genuine, mutually satisfying friendship-type connection for now, and just talk to her the way you’d talk to your teenager’s most awkward friend. Just be polite and ask her questions and act interested. It’s unlikely it will last

I remember being in my early 20s having dinner out with a family friend of DH's family. The wife was definitely in her 40s. We had nothing in common. But I was nice and polite and I remember her asking me questions about my life. She asked me about my running, my diet (runner, at the time eating a macro diet) my family.... In hindsight, I realize it must have been a long night for her. But I remember thinking she was so incredibly nice! And it was all about her showing interest in me. I didn't ask her a single question. Just too young and naive to realize. I am grateful to her now knowing that she worked hard to make me feel comfortable.

One my GF’s who is 52 is dating a guy who is only 30. My 15 years old is honestly more mature than him. So I see OP’s point of view. People are free to date whoever they want, but sometimes when the gap is too big things to talk about are not that many.

OP, on a scale of 1-10, in your own humble opinion, how hot is she and how hot are you. be honest. that info is needed to put your feelings in context and have a real discussion.

I would ask her questions that encourage her to talk about herself, and then listen. It wouldn't take much out of you, and will make her feel at home. That's what I try to do when I don't have much, or anything, in common with someone else.