Anonymous
Post 02/11/2024 11:41     Subject: Valentine’s Day
Anonymous wrote:After our first kid was 2, valentines became a kids’ holiday to us. I think that if you’re dating or newlyweds you should do something nice on Valentine’s Day, but after that, it’s about your kids decorating heart-shaped sugar cookies and picking out valentines cards for classmates.


That last sentence made it sound like I don’t think married couples should celebrate Valentine’s Day. Thats not how I feel. I think there are many, many valid opinions about Valentine’s Day. The primary invalid opinion about Valentine’s Day is “even though my wife would love something thoughtful for Valentine’s Day, I refuse because it’s a stupid made-up holiday.” The men who think that way are pretty awful.
Anonymous
Post 02/11/2024 11:38     Subject: Valentine’s Day
After our first kid was 2, valentines became a kids’ holiday to us. I think that if you’re dating or newlyweds you should do something nice on Valentine’s Day, but after that, it’s about your kids decorating heart-shaped sugar cookies and picking out valentines cards for classmates.
Anonymous
Post 02/11/2024 11:29     Subject: Valentine’s Day
Oh the annual " I'm above it all thread!"
Anonymous
Post 02/11/2024 00:48     Subject: Valentine’s Day
Anonymous wrote:Truly, I think that people who feel really loved in real life don't care about it. But those who don't feel loved, care even if they won't admit it.


Says the person who knows they will be getting nothing and is bitter about it.
Anonymous
Post 02/11/2024 00:43     Subject: Valentine’s Day
Anonymous wrote:I hope generation Z kills this stupid day. I really do.


+1
Anonymous
Post 02/10/2024 21:28     Subject: Valentine’s Day
Anonymous wrote:Truly, I think that people who feel really loved in real life don't care about it. But those who don't feel loved, care even if they won't admit it.


Probably. I’m the wife and just tonight I told my husband I’d rather just skip it this year, because I can’t seem to muster up giving a crap. It’s not because I feel loved. I just don’t care. Apathy is not a good thing.
Anonymous
Post 02/10/2024 20:40     Subject: Valentine’s Day
I don’t expect a big to-do because it’s near my birthday but a small gesture (flowers or chocolate that I like ) plus something romantic like a massage at night is nice . In turn I get him something small and thoughtful and wear nice lingerie
Anonymous
Post 02/10/2024 20:35     Subject: Valentine’s Day
Not a big deal but we both do little things to acknowledge it and show appreciation of each other.
Anonymous
Post 02/10/2024 19:48     Subject: Valentine’s Day
Anonymous wrote:I love celebrating my relationship with my husband every chance we can. I get jewelry and dinner out with him. We go to the same romantic restaurant in our NW neighborhood every year. I get him a present also. It’s so fun to celebrate, so why not get into it?


+1 I just find it fun! I liked it as a kid, liked it as a single lady. We make it an excuse go to a fun dinner ata new restaurant. No presents, except for the kids and teachers (candy)
Anonymous
Post 02/10/2024 19:43     Subject: Valentine’s Day
Truly, I think that people who feel really loved in real life don't care about it. But those who don't feel loved, care even if they won't admit it.
Anonymous
Post 02/10/2024 19:42     Subject: Valentine’s Day
When we were dating, I didn't care and would much rather have random tokens of affection at other times.

Now that we've been married for 15 years and have two kids and he mostly ignores me, yes, I want him to spend 2 minutes of his life thinking about buying me some decent chocolate and not he worst flowers from the store one day a year because he doesn't do anything at all the rest of the time.
Anonymous
Post 02/10/2024 19:39     Subject: Valentine’s Day
It was our first date when we were kids. Now it's a day for fun for all the grandkids as well as a day for everyone to see that we are still in love. Don't stress. Have fun!
Anonymous
Post 02/10/2024 17:25     Subject: Re:Valentine’s Day
I'm a dw and Valentines day was never really important to me. My husband would buy me flowers or chocolate and then the rest of the day was like every other day.

Since our oldest grandson was born on Valentines day were all about celebrating him. Dh will still surprise me with something and I still appreciate it but If he didn't I'd be fine.
Anonymous
Post 02/10/2024 16:47     Subject: Valentine’s Day
Anonymous wrote:Having kids has changed my perspective on Valentines Day. It is dumb when you conceive of it as a day in which dating/married couples "prove" their love to each other. Just pointlessly stressful for all involved.

Kids do Valentines Day right. It's just a day to show people you love that you love them, however feels organic to you. You do not need to spend money. Give someone you love a big hug. Get up early and make their coffee for them. Make plans to take of work 30 minutes early to go for a walk before making dinner togehter. Whatever.

I bought my spouse a book of logic puzzles and will be getting up a little early to make cream scones. Just because I know both of these things will bring him joy.

We will not and have never done the whole dinner out, expensive gifts, flowers and chocolate thing. I love flowers and chocolate but have told my DH I would prefer he not buy them on V Day because they will be overpriced and stressful to purchase on that day.


Whole Foods and other grocery stores usually run really reasonable sales on roses. Like a dozen for $20. Really affordable and thoughtful gesture.
Anonymous
Post 02/10/2024 16:45     Subject: Valentine’s Day
I love celebrating my relationship with my husband every chance we can. I get jewelry and dinner out with him. We go to the same romantic restaurant in our NW neighborhood every year. I get him a present also. It’s so fun to celebrate, so why not get into it?