Anonymous
02/07/2024 12:16
Subject: "N-word" passes? (apologies in advance)
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Wildly inappropriate. Nobody should be saying the n-word at all, except Black separatists. N-word is a consolation prize for being outside mainstream society.
Anyone who wants to be a part of mainstream society, Black or non-Black, shouldn't use it.
White parents are telling their kids not to use the n-word. What about black parents?
My kid said a friend gave him an “n-card” and it was so confusing for him because he felt like his friend had more say in it than we did because he was black.
Teach your child American history and about the black experience in America. If your child sees his peers as having more authority than you, then, added with him courting use of the n word, you have a serious problem on your hands.
We say “don’t use the n-word because it’s derogatory”.
Black friend says “you’re cool, it’s ok to use it”.
It’s confusing for young kids.
You need to impress upon him the seriousness of that word when uttered through a white person's mouth. I cannot believe that you have no way of conveying the seriousness of the situation. If your kid uses that word and someone (other than his stupid friend) hear it and takes offense, your kid could face a range of outcomes including, but not limited to, being labelled a racist, being the kids version of cancelled or even getting the beat down of a lifetime. Show him images of Emmit Till, victims of lynchings, KKK marches, crosses burning and help him connect the dots of why the n word is not acceptable for him to use.
No shit. It is still confusing for kids.
You are an adult who is, presumeably, not confused. Explain it to the kid.
Anonymous
02/07/2024 12:07
Subject: "N-word" passes? (apologies in advance)
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Wildly inappropriate. Nobody should be saying the n-word at all, except Black separatists. N-word is a consolation prize for being outside mainstream society.
Anyone who wants to be a part of mainstream society, Black or non-Black, shouldn't use it.
You are saying this as a black parent, I presume?
DP. I have no idea why you would "presume" that? Aside from the fact that it is thoughtful. and white people aren't great at being thoughtful about racism?
White people shouldn’t speak for all black people.
Who in this thread is speaking for all Black people?
Anonymous
02/07/2024 12:01
Subject: "N-word" passes? (apologies in advance)
Nobody should use that word. It’s ugly, hurtful and well beyond the point of being rehabilitated and owned. It’s inexcusable to ever use it, no matter what race you are. No passes for anyone. Tell the teachers, tell the administrators. Do your best to make it stop.
Anonymous
02/07/2024 12:01
Subject: "N-word" passes? (apologies in advance)
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Wildly inappropriate. Nobody should be saying the n-word at all, except Black separatists. N-word is a consolation prize for being outside mainstream society.
Anyone who wants to be a part of mainstream society, Black or non-Black, shouldn't use it.
White parents are telling their kids not to use the n-word. What about black parents?
My kid said a friend gave him an “n-card” and it was so confusing for him because he felt like his friend had more say in it than we did because he was black.
Teach your child American history and about the black experience in America. If your child sees his peers as having more authority than you, then, added with him courting use of the n word, you have a serious problem on your hands.
We say “don’t use the n-word because it’s derogatory”.
Black friend says “you’re cool, it’s ok to use it”.
It’s confusing for young kids.
You need to impress upon him the seriousness of that word when uttered through a white person's mouth. I cannot believe that you have no way of conveying the seriousness of the situation. If your kid uses that word and someone (other than his stupid friend) hear it and takes offense, your kid could face a range of outcomes including, but not limited to, being labelled a racist, being the kids version of cancelled or even getting the beat down of a lifetime. Show him images of Emmit Till, victims of lynchings, KKK marches, crosses burning and help him connect the dots of why the n word is not acceptable for him to use.
No shit. It is still confusing for kids.
Right, that's why we, as parents, need to have a deeper understanding and patience to explain it to our kids.
It may not be popular in some circles now, but there are plenty of DEI type resources that explain it well. There's a book called "The N Word" that gives a decent history and analysis of it.
Anonymous
02/07/2024 12:01
Subject: "N-word" passes? (apologies in advance)
This is a thing with my MS kid. “Passes” for a range of identity groups- LGBT, Black, Asian,
Jewish etc. My child knows that the n word should never escape his lips, that’s a red line and it doesn’t matter if you have a “pass.” And, that no person speaks for their race or ethnicity or religion, so they can’t give out “passes.”
Maybe in ES, I might inform a guidance counselor about it but in MS I let the kids sort it out themselves.
It also depends on how good the school is at handling these dynamics. Is it going to be a clueless white teacher telling a Black kid he can’t use the N word?
Jewish etc. My child knows that the n word should never escape his lips, that’s a red line and it doesn’t matter if you have a “pass.” And, that no person speaks for their race or ethnicity or religion, so they can’t give out “passes.”
Maybe in ES, I might inform a guidance counselor about it but in MS I let the kids sort it out themselves.
It also depends on how good the school is at handling these dynamics. Is it going to be a clueless white teacher telling a Black kid he can’t use the N word?
Anonymous
02/07/2024 11:59
Subject: "N-word" passes? (apologies in advance)
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Wildly inappropriate. Nobody should be saying the n-word at all, except Black separatists. N-word is a consolation prize for being outside mainstream society.
Anyone who wants to be a part of mainstream society, Black or non-Black, shouldn't use it.
You are saying this as a black parent, I presume?
DP. I have no idea why you would "presume" that? Aside from the fact that it is thoughtful. and white people aren't great at being thoughtful about racism?
White people shouldn’t speak for all black people.
Anonymous
02/07/2024 11:58
Subject: "N-word" passes? (apologies in advance)
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Wildly inappropriate. Nobody should be saying the n-word at all, except Black separatists. N-word is a consolation prize for being outside mainstream society.
Anyone who wants to be a part of mainstream society, Black or non-Black, shouldn't use it.
White parents are telling their kids not to use the n-word. What about black parents?
My kid said a friend gave him an “n-card” and it was so confusing for him because he felt like his friend had more say in it than we did because he was black.
Teach your child American history and about the black experience in America. If your child sees his peers as having more authority than you, then, added with him courting use of the n word, you have a serious problem on your hands.
We say “don’t use the n-word because it’s derogatory”.
Black friend says “you’re cool, it’s ok to use it”.
It’s confusing for young kids.
Troll score: 2 out of 5
Not OP and not a troll. And my kid doesn’t use the n-word. But it was very confusing for him to understand when he was younger.
Anonymous
02/07/2024 11:57
Subject: "N-word" passes? (apologies in advance)
Anonymous wrote:There are certain words which shouldn't be uttered by certain people. A white boy, of all people, should never use the n bomb under any circumstance ever. One black friend is not the spokesperson for black people.
No one should be using it, period.
Anonymous
02/07/2024 11:56
Subject: "N-word" passes? (apologies in advance)
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Wildly inappropriate. Nobody should be saying the n-word at all, except Black separatists. N-word is a consolation prize for being outside mainstream society.
Anyone who wants to be a part of mainstream society, Black or non-Black, shouldn't use it.
White parents are telling their kids not to use the n-word. What about black parents?
My kid said a friend gave him an “n-card” and it was so confusing for him because he felt like his friend had more say in it than we did because he was black.
Teach your child American history and about the black experience in America. If your child sees his peers as having more authority than you, then, added with him courting use of the n word, you have a serious problem on your hands.
We say “don’t use the n-word because it’s derogatory”.
Black friend says “you’re cool, it’s ok to use it”.
It’s confusing for young kids.
You need to impress upon him the seriousness of that word when uttered through a white person's mouth. I cannot believe that you have no way of conveying the seriousness of the situation. If your kid uses that word and someone (other than his stupid friend) hear it and takes offense, your kid could face a range of outcomes including, but not limited to, being labelled a racist, being the kids version of cancelled or even getting the beat down of a lifetime. Show him images of Emmit Till, victims of lynchings, KKK marches, crosses burning and help him connect the dots of why the n word is not acceptable for him to use.
No shit. It is still confusing for kids.
Anonymous
02/07/2024 11:53
Subject: "N-word" passes? (apologies in advance)
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Wildly inappropriate. Nobody should be saying the n-word at all, except Black separatists. N-word is a consolation prize for being outside mainstream society.
Anyone who wants to be a part of mainstream society, Black or non-Black, shouldn't use it.
White parents are telling their kids not to use the n-word. What about black parents?
My kid said a friend gave him an “n-card” and it was so confusing for him because he felt like his friend had more say in it than we did because he was black.
Teach your child American history and about the black experience in America. If your child sees his peers as having more authority than you, then, added with him courting use of the n word, you have a serious problem on your hands.
We say “don’t use the n-word because it’s derogatory”.
Black friend says “you’re cool, it’s ok to use it”.
It’s confusing for young kids.
Troll score: 2 out of 5
Sadly, this actually is happening. And parents who don’t think their kids friends have more influence than parents by 6th grade are gravely mistaken.
Do your job and parent. Convince him not to use the word, by any means necessary.
Anonymous
02/07/2024 11:50
Subject: "N-word" passes? (apologies in advance)
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Wildly inappropriate. Nobody should be saying the n-word at all, except Black separatists. N-word is a consolation prize for being outside mainstream society.
Anyone who wants to be a part of mainstream society, Black or non-Black, shouldn't use it.
White parents are telling their kids not to use the n-word. What about black parents?
My kid said a friend gave him an “n-card” and it was so confusing for him because he felt like his friend had more say in it than we did because he was black.
Teach your child American history and about the black experience in America. If your child sees his peers as having more authority than you, then, added with him courting use of the n word, you have a serious problem on your hands.
We say “don’t use the n-word because it’s derogatory”.
Black friend says “you’re cool, it’s ok to use it”.
It’s confusing for young kids.
Troll score: 2 out of 5
Sadly, this actually is happening. And parents who don’t think their kids friends have more influence than parents by 6th grade are gravely mistaken.
Anonymous
02/07/2024 11:42
Subject: "N-word" passes? (apologies in advance)
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Wildly inappropriate. Nobody should be saying the n-word at all, except Black separatists. N-word is a consolation prize for being outside mainstream society.
Anyone who wants to be a part of mainstream society, Black or non-Black, shouldn't use it.
White parents are telling their kids not to use the n-word. What about black parents?
My kid said a friend gave him an “n-card” and it was so confusing for him because he felt like his friend had more say in it than we did because he was black.
Teach your child American history and about the black experience in America. If your child sees his peers as having more authority than you, then, added with him courting use of the n word, you have a serious problem on your hands.
We say “don’t use the n-word because it’s derogatory”.
Black friend says “you’re cool, it’s ok to use it”.
It’s confusing for young kids.
Troll score: 2 out of 5
Anonymous
02/07/2024 11:38
Subject: "N-word" passes? (apologies in advance)
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Wildly inappropriate. Nobody should be saying the n-word at all, except Black separatists. N-word is a consolation prize for being outside mainstream society.
Anyone who wants to be a part of mainstream society, Black or non-Black, shouldn't use it.
White parents are telling their kids not to use the n-word. What about black parents?
My kid said a friend gave him an “n-card” and it was so confusing for him because he felt like his friend had more say in it than we did because he was black.
Teach your child American history and about the black experience in America. If your child sees his peers as having more authority than you, then, added with him courting use of the n word, you have a serious problem on your hands.
We say “don’t use the n-word because it’s derogatory”.
Black friend says “you’re cool, it’s ok to use it”.
It’s confusing for young kids.
You need to impress upon him the seriousness of that word when uttered through a white person's mouth. I cannot believe that you have no way of conveying the seriousness of the situation. If your kid uses that word and someone (other than his stupid friend) hear it and takes offense, your kid could face a range of outcomes including, but not limited to, being labelled a racist, being the kids version of cancelled or even getting the beat down of a lifetime. Show him images of Emmit Till, victims of lynchings, KKK marches, crosses burning and help him connect the dots of why the n word is not acceptable for him to use.
Anonymous
02/07/2024 11:30
Subject: "N-word" passes? (apologies in advance)
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Wildly inappropriate. Nobody should be saying the n-word at all, except Black separatists. N-word is a consolation prize for being outside mainstream society.
Anyone who wants to be a part of mainstream society, Black or non-Black, shouldn't use it.
White parents are telling their kids not to use the n-word. What about black parents?
My kid said a friend gave him an “n-card” and it was so confusing for him because he felt like his friend had more say in it than we did because he was black.
Teach your child American history and about the black experience in America. If your child sees his peers as having more authority than you, then, added with him courting use of the n word, you have a serious problem on your hands.
We say “don’t use the n-word because it’s derogatory”.
Black friend says “you’re cool, it’s ok to use it”.
It’s confusing for young kids.
Anonymous
02/07/2024 11:27
Subject: "N-word" passes? (apologies in advance)
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Wildly inappropriate. Nobody should be saying the n-word at all, except Black separatists. N-word is a consolation prize for being outside mainstream society.
Anyone who wants to be a part of mainstream society, Black or non-Black, shouldn't use it.
White parents are telling their kids not to use the n-word. What about black parents?
My kid said a friend gave him an “n-card” and it was so confusing for him because he felt like his friend had more say in it than we did because he was black.
Teach your child American history and about the black experience in America. If your child sees his peers as having more authority than you, then, added with him courting use of the n word, you have a serious problem on your hands.