Yes. We have an awesome sex life. I’d encourage it to anyone who finds yourself in a flailing relationship. Divorce is more embarrassing than if somehow anyone found out you were being sexual with your spouse.

No, with my luck it wouldn’t go to my spouse

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This sounds like the start of a great Penthouse Forum post: I meant to send some spicy pics to my husband, but they went to his handsome best friend instead. You will not believe what happened next....

Anonymous wrote:NO

Never EVER do anything that can be used against you in a divorce. Keep that nastiness private !

How would sending nude pics to your husband be used against you in a divorce?

NO

Never EVER do anything that can be used against you in a divorce. Keep that nastiness private !

Two points:

1) News Flash! News Flash! - Not everyone on DCUM is unhappy married and worried about divorce. Many of us are living the dating life.

2) What nastiness are you referring to in your post? Most married people are having sex, so I am not sure how any sexting between a DH and DW could be used in divorce proceedings. Now, sexting between
a married person and their AP is a different story.

No, with my luck it wouldn’t go to my spouse.

NO

Never EVER do anything that can be used against you in a divorce. Keep that nastiness private !

Yes! videos, audio clips, pictures and FaceTime
Its fun and keeps us connected when we're apart (which usually means we're at work).

No that seems really immature to me.

Generally no.

I have had a couple of female friends who really love it though.

I even have a female friend who like to send me nude photos once in a while when she's lonely, or made at her boyfriend. It's very strange.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What’s the general nature of it? Age and relationship status?

Occasionally. 50s, situationship.

Just call it what it is: an affair. FFS

The language is to make them feel that what they are doing isn't that bad. It's an affair, adultery--not a 'situation'.

Is it really an affair if you never touch the person?

Yep

48 yo male, married since 29.

And my wife is a very Googleable person in DC.

FWB. 50's yes.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What’s the general nature of it? Age and relationship status?

Occasionally. 50s, situationship.

Just call it what it is: an affair. FFS

The language is to make them feel that what they are doing isn't that bad. It's an affair, adultery--not a 'situation'.

I don't judge those who do, but I don't. 46 and married.

Yes, I do, and it can be wonderful. I am a divorced man in my mid-50s dating a woman in her late 50s. She lives out of town, and we have fun via cyberspace until we see each other live.

There are many ways to be safe. First, get apps that protect sensitive data you store on a mobile device. Since this is DCUM, I am sure there will be replies like "No apps, IT security system, etc., can completely protect your data." My reply: Blow me. The trouble it would take to defeat them is way more significant than any benefit someone could obtain by doing so. I am a corporate tax attorney, not Taylor Swift. My GF is the only one who cares about this content.

Second, do not email photos that would identify you, including faces, birthmarks, tattoos, etc. Share full-body photos (including faces) when you can transfer (or create) them in person and save them straight to a secure device (like a backup hard drive).

Finally, if you are writing spicy emails, stories, etc., create a Gmail account to save this information in the draft folder. Do not use your real first names, and go wild.

Again, because this is DCUM, posters will respond, "I do not need to do this. I am getting all I need in IRL." My reply: Sure you are. If this activity is not fun for you, then do not do it (like anything else you and your partner are not into that others may be).