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Anonymous wrote:At 40-45 most women still look great (and many haven't changed in appearance at all since their early 30s!)

It's really 46+ when looks go off a cliff for women. I've seen this in 50 or more friends and fellow parents at school, etc. Perimenopause hits, estrogren begins to drop and women age almost overnight.

Signed,
49 year old woman

This. This. This. The wall is ckming, but you have more time. Perimenopause is nature saying you're done keeping the species going so no need to attract mates or be a strong vessel for carrying young. Things start to dry up, dry out, thin where you don't want it (hair, skin) and thicken where you don't want it (fat distribution).

The good news, is you can maintain what you have by being more thoughtful about self-care and couple that with the realization that only youthfulness=attractiveness.

This is scaring me. Im 44

NP here. I looked fantastic at age 40. I think that is when I looked my best. Everyone was surprised I was in my forties when I was 40-42. Then Covid happened. I still looked youthful at 44-45. I’m turning 46 and I swear I aged overnight. I went from looking 30 at age 40, looking 35 at age 42, looking 40 at age 45.

I feel like I’m 45 turning 50 all of a sudden. I aged overnight.

It wasn’t covid, it just hit right at the time you went from early to mid 40s. That change would’ve happened either way.

I don’t blame Covid at all. I still looked fine after Covid. I did gain a few pounds but lost them all. I ran a few races last year at 44 and was fit.

I suddenly feel and look old. Sigh.

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Anonymous wrote:At 40-45 most women still look great (and many haven't changed in appearance at all since their early 30s!)

It's really 46+ when looks go off a cliff for women. I've seen this in 50 or more friends and fellow parents at school, etc. Perimenopause hits, estrogren begins to drop and women age almost overnight.

Signed,
49 year old woman

This. This. This. The wall is ckming, but you have more time. Perimenopause is nature saying you're done keeping the species going so no need to attract mates or be a strong vessel for carrying young. Things start to dry up, dry out, thin where you don't want it (hair, skin) and thicken where you don't want it (fat distribution).

The good news, is you can maintain what you have by being more thoughtful about self-care and couple that with the realization that only youthfulness=attractiveness.

Even more so true for men. Their genitalia is sluggish at this age.

Anonymous wrote:Those celebrities listed above are beautiful, but notice they are still replicating youthful appearances. Rita and Lynda with their wigs and Isabella (a personal idol of mine) and her hair dye.

So is there genuinely an attractiveness to older age in women or are we just applauding those who can mimic and stay youth-adjacent for the longest time? Genuine question.

Isabella might dye her hair, but she also wears it short in a way that embraces the changes of age. She has the body of a healthy person in their 70s, and wears caftans and loose, comfortable clothes that don't try to conceal this. She has jowls and wrinkles, yet regularly is photographed without makeup, or in minimal makeup, and doesn't appear to be getting procedures to "fix" these markers of age.

Rita might wear a wig but she's embraced gray hair. She looks like a grandmother. An energetic, delightful, lovely, grandmother, but a grandmother.

Lynda is the only one of these women who I think might have had some substantive work done, but I also think she embraces her age in her own way.

A lot of us do things to our appearance that make us feel more like ourselves as we age. I'm mid-40s and debating embracing my grays and going for a shorter cut, and one factor for me is that if I do both, I won't recognize myself. So I might just do one and see how it goes, then maybe try the other in a few years. I don't think that means I'm trying to look younger than I am. I am just servicing the psychological aspect of aging, wanting to stay recognizably myself even as I embrace the changes.

Anyway, the most "youth adjacent" thing about these women is their energy and enthusiasm for life.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:At 40-45 most women still look great (and many haven't changed in appearance at all since their early 30s!)

It's really 46+ when looks go off a cliff for women. I've seen this in 50 or more friends and fellow parents at school, etc. Perimenopause hits, estrogren begins to drop and women age almost overnight.

Signed,
49 year old woman

This. This. This. The wall is ckming, but you have more time. Perimenopause is nature saying you're done keeping the species going so no need to attract mates or be a strong vessel for carrying young. Things start to dry up, dry out, thin where you don't want it (hair, skin) and thicken where you don't want it (fat distribution).

The good news, is you can maintain what you have by being more thoughtful about self-care and couple that with the realization that only youthfulness=attractiveness.

This is scaring me. Im 44

NP here. I looked fantastic at age 40. I think that is when I looked my best. Everyone was surprised I was in my forties when I was 40-42. Then Covid happened. I still looked youthful at 44-45. I’m turning 46 and I swear I aged overnight. I went from looking 30 at age 40, looking 35 at age 42, looking 40 at age 45.

I feel like I’m 45 turning 50 all of a sudden. I aged overnight.

It wasn’t covid, it just hit right at the time you went from early to mid 40s. That change would’ve happened either way.

Naming celebrities is pointless. You don’t have access to their support network that helps them look that way, nor the time they have to devote to it, and realistically you weren’t as attractive as they were at their baseline, ever. Find women in your real life you think are beautiful.

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Anonymous wrote:At 40-45 most women still look great (and many haven't changed in appearance at all since their early 30s!)

It's really 46+ when looks go off a cliff for women. I've seen this in 50 or more friends and fellow parents at school, etc. Perimenopause hits, estrogren begins to drop and women age almost overnight.

Signed,
49 year old woman

This. This. This. The wall is ckming, but you have more time. Perimenopause is nature saying you're done keeping the species going so no need to attract mates or be a strong vessel for carrying young. Things start to dry up, dry out, thin where you don't want it (hair, skin) and thicken where you don't want it (fat distribution).

The good news, is you can maintain what you have by being more thoughtful about self-care and couple that with the realization that only youthfulness=attractiveness.

This is scaring me. Im 44

NP here. I looked fantastic at age 40. I think that is when I looked my best. Everyone was surprised I was in my forties when I was 40-42. Then Covid happened. I still looked youthful at 44-45. I’m turning 46 and I swear I aged overnight. I went from looking 30 at age 40, looking 35 at age 42, looking 40 at age 45.

I feel like I’m 45 turning 50 all of a sudden. I aged overnight.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:At 40-45 most women still look great (and many haven't changed in appearance at all since their early 30s!)

It's really 46+ when looks go off a cliff for women. I've seen this in 50 or more friends and fellow parents at school, etc. Perimenopause hits, estrogren begins to drop and women age almost overnight.

Signed,
49 year old woman

This. This. This. The wall is ckming, but you have more time. Perimenopause is nature saying you're done keeping the species going so no need to attract mates or be a strong vessel for carrying young. Things start to dry up, dry out, thin where you don't want it (hair, skin) and thicken where you don't want it (fat distribution).

The good news, is you can maintain what you have by being more thoughtful about self-care and couple that with the realization that only youthfulness=attractiveness.

This is scaring me. Im 44

Those celebrities listed above are beautiful, but notice they are still replicating youthful appearances. Rita and Lynda with their wigs and Isabella (a personal idol of mine) and her hair dye.

So is there genuinely an attractiveness to older age in women or are we just applauding those who can mimic and stay youth-adjacent for the longest time? Genuine question.

Isabella Rossellini is the most beautiful woman I have ever seen. I have been following her since White Nights.

Ironically, a boyfriend from years ago told me the most beautiful woman he had ever seen is Ingrid Bergman.

Anonymous wrote:Isn't it normal for beautiful women to still be beautiful at this age?

Yes.

I mean do you really want celebrity role models who are so aspirational that it’s impossible to keep up? Maybe try looking at people around you in your real life. Pick role models that you have a chance of keeping up with.plus if you know them in real life, maybe they will truthfully share their routine with you (unlike celebrities who claim their youth serum is olive oil rather than expensive plastic surgeons, nutritionists, private chefs, personal trainers, stylists, etc)

https://www.instagram.com/p/C20Orn2u4oH/?hl=en&img_index=1

72

https://www.instagram.com/theritamoreno/?hl=en

92!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:At 40-45 most women still look great (and many haven't changed in appearance at all since their early 30s!)

It's really 46+ when looks go off a cliff for women. I've seen this in 50 or more friends and fellow parents at school, etc. Perimenopause hits, estrogren begins to drop and women age almost overnight.

Signed,
49 year old woman

This. This. This. The wall is ckming, but you have more time. Perimenopause is nature saying you're done keeping the species going so no need to attract mates or be a strong vessel for carrying young. Things start to dry up, dry out, thin where you don't want it (hair, skin) and thicken where you don't want it (fat distribution).

The good news, is you can maintain what you have by being more thoughtful about self-care and couple that with the realization that only youthfulness=attractiveness.

Yes. Show me an attractive, healthy, vibrant 70 year old and I'm all ears.

https://www.instagram.com/isabellarossellini/?utm_source=ig_embed&ig_rid=8adffd0e-bc91-43ef-b698-7938ea597f81&ig_mid=2E4A1AF2-7EE5-4428-8F40-35BCDCF58D51

She's 71.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:At 40-45 most women still look great (and many haven't changed in appearance at all since their early 30s!)

It's really 46+ when looks go off a cliff for women. I've seen this in 50 or more friends and fellow parents at school, etc. Perimenopause hits, estrogren begins to drop and women age almost overnight.

Signed,
49 year old woman

This. This. This. The wall is ckming, but you have more time. Perimenopause is nature saying you're done keeping the species going so no need to attract mates or be a strong vessel for carrying young. Things start to dry up, dry out, thin where you don't want it (hair, skin) and thicken where you don't want it (fat distribution).

The good news, is you can maintain what you have by being more thoughtful about self-care and couple that with the realization that only youthfulness=attractiveness.

Yes. Show me an attractive, healthy, vibrant 70 year old and I'm all ears.