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Anonymous wrote:Op here. I am 5’5 and 130 currently. My usual is 115-120. I have tiny bones so I’m really noticing the extra weight. I am at a calorie deficit. I am also walking 14000 steps a day to see if I can get things moving. I’ve never had trouble maintaining my weight. Welcome to my 50s haha.

You are at a healthy weight. I really think some of you have eating disorders that need to be treated by a mental health professional.

Eat healthy, keep exercising and forget about the rest. I have serious doubts that 10-15 extra lbs is making you feel that much worse.

It is not an eating disorder to want to be at a weight which is in the "normal" range, which also makes people feel good. The difference between needing to lose 5-15 pounds and needing to lose 30+ is the discomfort many of us feel with those extra 5, 10, 15. I need to reign in my eating at 10 pounds up, you may not feel unconfortable until 20 pounds up. If I get used to being 15 pounds over fighting weight, next thing you know, I'll get comfortable at 30, 50+ pounds over. No thank you, maam.

Like I said, eating disorder.

NP. How is PP’s comment indicative of an eating disorder

I really do wish we'd change our mindset on weight loss.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. I am 5’5 and 130 currently. My usual is 115-120. I have tiny bones so I’m really noticing the extra weight. I am at a calorie deficit. I am also walking 14000 steps a day to see if I can get things moving. I’ve never had trouble maintaining my weight. Welcome to my 50s haha.

You are at a healthy weight. I really think some of you have eating disorders that need to be treated by a mental health professional.

Eat healthy, keep exercising and forget about the rest. I have serious doubts that 10-15 extra lbs is making you feel that much worse.

It is not an eating disorder to want to be at a weight which is in the "normal" range, which also makes people feel good. The difference between needing to lose 5-15 pounds and needing to lose 30+ is the discomfort many of us feel with those extra 5, 10, 15. I need to reign in my eating at 10 pounds up, you may not feel unconfortable until 20 pounds up. If I get used to being 15 pounds over fighting weight, next thing you know, I'll get comfortable at 30, 50+ pounds over. No thank you, maam.

Like I said, eating disorder.

I'm sure you realize this is a hormonal and metabolic change that really isn't easy to combat with diet or working out alone.

Eat all your food in 1 meal so you can track the amount of calories you consume.

I used to eat a few harmless handfuls of honey roasted nuts after a workout thinking its just a few hundred calories. Nope, was close to 1000. Add a few chips throughout the day, yup now Im eating at maintenance.

Anonymous wrote:After seeing my ex-wife — who drank a bottle of wine per day — lose all her stubborn menopausal thickening of the midsection when she cut out all alcohol, I am convinced that if you’re not removing alcohol from your diet then you’re not going to succeed.

This. My 3 sisters all drink alcohol. I do not and haven't for decades. Guess who has a waist? We're all late 40's- mid 50's.

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Anonymous wrote:I instantly gained 15 lbs when I hit menopause. I’m watching what I eat and I exercise, but I’m not willing to starve myself or increase my workouts. As long as my lab work is OK during my annual physicals and I feel well, I think 50-something women just have to accept their new normal.

You can, but I certainly won't. We call that circling the drain. It's how the end starts.

I agree!
-53 nearing menopause who will not accept a 15 lb gain. I put on 5 after a surgery (comfort eating, no exercise). Once I was cleared, I cleaned up my diet, resume activities and exercise and dropped those 5 in 2 months.

The key thing is that you said you’re NEARING menopause. Just wait a few months until you’re post menopause. It’s a whole new ballgame. Unless I starve myself or take up marathon running, this weight won’t budge. I’m not willing to do either, so I’ll be pudgy - which is better for me and those around me than being hungry and crabby.

My MIL is also one of those borderline anorexic ladies with osteoporosis who is obsessed with food yet refuses to eat. Food is one of life’s greatest pleasures and I’m going to eat healthy food in moderation but never diet.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. I am 5’5 and 130 currently. My usual is 115-120. I have tiny bones so I’m really noticing the extra weight. I am at a calorie deficit. I am also walking 14000 steps a day to see if I can get things moving. I’ve never had trouble maintaining my weight. Welcome to my 50s haha.

You are at a healthy weight. I really think some of you have eating disorders that need to be treated by a mental health professional.

Eat healthy, keep exercising and forget about the rest. I have serious doubts that 10-15 extra lbs is making you feel that much worse.

It is not an eating disorder to want to be at a weight which is in the "normal" range, which also makes people feel good. The difference between needing to lose 5-15 pounds and needing to lose 30+ is the discomfort many of us feel with those extra 5, 10, 15. I need to reign in my eating at 10 pounds up, you may not feel unconfortable until 20 pounds up. If I get used to being 15 pounds over fighting weight, next thing you know, I'll get comfortable at 30, 50+ pounds over. No thank you, maam.

Anonymous wrote:How fast are you walking these 14k steps?
No tiny bones on adult people.

Some fast. Most normal. My wrist is 4.75 inches. I have tiny bones.

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I am 5’5 and 130 currently. My usual is 115-120. I have tiny bones so I’m really noticing the extra weight. I am at a calorie deficit. I am also walking 14000 steps a day to see if I can get things moving. I’ve never had trouble maintaining my weight. Welcome to my 50s haha.

If you aren't losing weight then you are either not in a calorie deficit or have not given it enough time to actually see results.

It can take time for fat loss to show up on the scale. often times the scale wont' move for weeks, then suddenly you drop 2 lbs. You really need a solid 4 weeks of hitting your calorie goal at least 90% of the time to see results.

Anonymous wrote:You need to be in a caloric deficit. You absolutely will lose weight then.

This. People act like this is not a fact of life. But it is. And I'm not saying this in a mean way. I'm saying there is some source of calories that you are accidentally not accounting for. But you will be helped more by stepping up the weight training than by diet alone. Join a gym and watch the magic happen!

After seeing my ex-wife — who drank a bottle of wine per day — lose all her stubborn menopausal thickening of the midsection when she cut out all alcohol, I am convinced that if you’re not removing alcohol from your diet then you’re not going to succeed.

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I am 5’5 and 130 currently. My usual is 115-120. I have tiny bones so I’m really noticing the extra weight. I am at a calorie deficit. I am also walking 14000 steps a day to see if I can get things moving. I’ve never had trouble maintaining my weight. Welcome to my 50s haha.

You are at a healthy weight. I really think some of you have eating disorders that need to be treated by a mental health professional.

Eat healthy, keep exercising and forget about the rest. I have serious doubts that 10-15 extra lbs is making you feel that much worse.

How fast are you walking these 14k steps?
No tiny bones on adult people.

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Anonymous wrote:I instantly gained 15 lbs when I hit menopause. I’m watching what I eat and I exercise, but I’m not willing to starve myself or increase my workouts. As long as my lab work is OK during my annual physicals and I feel well, I think 50-something women just have to accept their new normal.

You can, but I certainly won't. We call that circling the drain. It's how the end starts.

I agree!
-53 nearing menopause who will not accept a 15 lb gain. I put on 5 after a surgery (comfort eating, no exercise). Once I was cleared, I cleaned up my diet, resume activities and exercise and dropped those 5 in 2 months.

+1. It's not the new normal for me. 51 and have not gained a pound despite not counting calories and eating whatever I want. Yeah, my midsection is a bit thicker and I have to make it a point to lift heavier weights but I'm not willing to give into the weight gain is inevitable if I can do something about it.

Move more. Lift weights. Heavy weights. 10 lbs are not heavy. Yes, it takes dedication but it's worth it.

My MIL just doesn't eat in order to control her weight. She has also never lifted a weight in her lifetime. At 80 she can no longer lift her suitcase. That's not the way I'm going out. I'm going to continue to lift heavy things until I cant. And also enjoy my cake and cookies afterwards.