Your response is fine. And if your friend continues to harp on inviting Jill then consider whether you really want her there.

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Anonymous wrote:You absolutely didn't have to invite the person, and it was tacky of her to ask, but the way you responded wasn't mature either. JA mature response would be "we've invited the group of close friends that we would like to have at our wedding, and aren't planning to broaden that group at this time. Hope you can make it." Don't disinvite the invited friend at this point, just make it clear that the other person will not be invited, and that you decide who is invited to your wedding.

I don't understand why people write these bizzare scripts in here like this. This isn't a normal conversational tone.

OP your response was perfect. Keep your bf but no need to invite the "friend".

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These scripts are ridiculous. OP had the absolute perfect response. Only a Stepford wife would say that other sh¡t.

Anonymous wrote:So we're trolling about marriage invites now ?

No one else except you seems to be trolling, no

Anonymous wrote:You absolutely didn't have to invite the person, and it was tacky of her to ask, but the way you responded wasn't mature either. JA mature response would be "we've invited the group of close friends that we would like to have at our wedding, and aren't planning to broaden that group at this time. Hope you can make it." Don't disinvite the invited friend at this point, just make it clear that the other person will not be invited, and that you decide who is invited to your wedding.

I don't understand why people write these bizzare scripts in here like this. This isn't a normal conversational tone.

OP your response was perfect. Keep your bf but no need to invite the "friend".

So we're trolling about marriage invites now ?

Damn it, above should have been:
"While it would have been more calm and less dramatic NOT to come out with..."

While it would have been more calm and less dramatic to come out with "Did you lobby for an invitation for me to her wedding" -- Your "best" friend was utterly out of line to make the ask of you. I would not disinvite best friend, though from the post, her behavior and the fact you're contemplating disinviting her to such an important event, I do question how close you really feel to her. I would drop this entirely and act as if it never happened, since your response clearly shut her down and she's likely embarrassed enough not to ask again. Forget quasi-friend entirely.

Also, was this unusual for your friend to do? Unexpected, out of character? Or does she already have a history of barging in and asking or expecting you to do things she wants, the way she wants them?

If this is typical for her, rethink the closness of this friendship (but again, don't disinvite--that frankly would be a bit extreme and would probably create talk and drama among all your friends).

If this is NOT typical for her at all, show her some grace and forgive her. Maybe this other woman has been pressuring your friend to the point friend just wanted to get her off her back. If you and friend actually are close, you should be able to ask her that--"Was Sally bugging you to do this for her? I'm sorry she did that, and let's forget it all and just focus on the wedding."

If friend is usually trying to fix other people's relationships, again, you can talk with her about that when you've cooled down. "I know you want people always to get along and want all your friends to be friends with each other. That's a kind and sweet trait about you. In this case, I'm not friends with Quasi and a wedding day is about having real, close friends to celebrate with, like you. Please don't try to 'fix' my relationship with Quasi because there isn't a relationship there to fix."