I don’t think you’re being petty, or maybe we both are because I wouldn’t go.

Hey, take pride in that you maybe #1 on the B list! Don’t go if you are resentful.

We had two wedding for our daughters and never considered having a B list. Most people knew that big families were involved and that after that it was the kids friends and then close friends of ours who were good friends with our daughters. Inviting someone a few weeks before the wedding would have been weird.

OP - it's you who is choosing to view this as "filling a seat". You could choose to view it as "so happy I can have others there that I care about."

Talking about the wedding, ahead of inviting someone, that's tacky. Instagram could go either way - people choose to follow, and look.

I would attend if I liked the person and thought it would be fun to go to. However, I think it was really tacky of her to put all her save the date/invite info on her social media. She obviously doesn't even think about the fact she may hurt some of her non invited friend's feelings.

Definitely don’t go. You’re just a second tier friend to her.

Anonymous wrote:You shouldn't go because you're a loser.

Biiiiiiiitch alert!

I'd go if I thought it would be fun.

Attend but just give a card.

You shouldn't go because you're a loser.

No. I would not go.

I would attend if it was local or fairly easy to attend.

Anonymous wrote:Yes. Go if you want to go. Or decline. You are way overthinking this.

Yeah. I personally find the social media posts you mention tacky, but that's just how I feel about social media use in general. If I wanted to go, I'd go. If I didn't, I wouldn't. I understand that space is limited and that it has to be managed and I wouldn't be offended not to be on the "short list" unless it was a super close family member or friend.

Anonymous wrote:Honestly it would depend on a lot of things, including how big the A list was and who was on it. If it was 20 people and 15 were family, I’d be incredibly honored to be on the B list. If was 300 people on the A list, I’d pass unless it was a place/time that was convenient for me.

Unfortunately I think it is 150+ people!

Yes. Go if you want to go. Or decline. You are way overthinking this.