Anonymous
02/03/2024 23:37
Subject: I’m really surprised at the number of people who bring siblings to parties
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If the families are hispanic, you should expect they'll bring their entire family, some random cousins, their neighbor and a friend they picked up on the way.
Yes, this is accurate
But to other people, that is seen as taking advantage of their hospitality. There are capacity limits and headcount involved, it's not a free for all unless specifically mentioned in the invitation.
Just take it into account with certain cultures
I think the memo is to be culturally aware
Except of course for the representatives of said cultures
Fwiw I am not American and it bugs me
Anonymous
02/03/2024 23:33
Subject: I’m really surprised at the number of people who bring siblings to parties
Anonymous wrote:Because we dont have babysitters!
One parent stays home with sibs, the other parent takes kid to party. Anything else is super rude and presumptuous.
Anonymous
02/03/2024 23:29
Subject: Re:I’m really surprised at the number of people who bring siblings to parties
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I’ve brought siblings to Chuck E Cheese style parties a couple of times BUT I would never dream of asking the host family to have siblings join the party, let alone pay for them! I always pay for their entry and food and goodies and entertain them away from the actual party (and yes, it’s in cases where I do not have alternate childcare).
What does this have to do w you deciding to take your other (non invited) kids to a bday party venue? Why not just drop the invited kid off and go home w your other kids? Why do you need childcare at all? Wouldn’t you be taking care of your kids regardless of whether one is attending a party or not?
Because in this area quite often these parties are not in the neighborhood, and with the length of most kids parties plus driving time to/from/to we’d be spending most of the time in the car. No thanks. (Not sure why it would bother anyone in the least to bring a sibling as long as it’s not actually infringing on the actual party. I agree that it’s rude to have a sibling tag along to the party itself unless the host has specifically okay’d it.)
Anonymous
02/03/2024 22:24
Subject: Re:I’m really surprised at the number of people who bring siblings to parties
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I’ve brought siblings to Chuck E Cheese style parties a couple of times BUT I would never dream of asking the host family to have siblings join the party, let alone pay for them! I always pay for their entry and food and goodies and entertain them away from the actual party (and yes, it’s in cases where I do not have alternate childcare).
What does this have to do w you deciding to take your other (non invited) kids to a bday party venue? Why not just drop the invited kid off and go home w your other kids? Why do you need childcare at all? Wouldn’t you be taking care of your kids regardless of whether one is attending a party or not?
DP. Doesn’t sound like she’s talking about drop off parties. It also sounds like she’s being super polite.
Ok but if it’s not a drop off party and she is in another area supervising her other kids, what is the point of her even being there? Usually if it’s not a drop off party that’s bc the kids are young enough that the hosts want parents to stay and help out w their kids but this pp comes to a party and goes to a totally different area w her other kids so she wouldn’t be helping watch the invited kid so it basically IS like she’s just dropping her kid off anyway…
Because this isn’t actually about childcare. It’s about making sure that one kid doesn’t get to do a fun activity that their sibling doesn’t. Gotta make sure both do the same activity.
Anonymous
02/03/2024 22:16
Subject: Re:I’m really surprised at the number of people who bring siblings to parties
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I’ve brought siblings to Chuck E Cheese style parties a couple of times BUT I would never dream of asking the host family to have siblings join the party, let alone pay for them! I always pay for their entry and food and goodies and entertain them away from the actual party (and yes, it’s in cases where I do not have alternate childcare).
What does this have to do w you deciding to take your other (non invited) kids to a bday party venue? Why not just drop the invited kid off and go home w your other kids? Why do you need childcare at all? Wouldn’t you be taking care of your kids regardless of whether one is attending a party or not?
DP. Doesn’t sound like she’s talking about drop off parties. It also sounds like she’s being super polite.
Ok but if it’s not a drop off party and she is in another area supervising her other kids, what is the point of her even being there? Usually if it’s not a drop off party that’s bc the kids are young enough that the hosts want parents to stay and help out w their kids but this pp comes to a party and goes to a totally different area w her other kids so she wouldn’t be helping watch the invited kid so it basically IS like she’s just dropping her kid off anyway…
Anonymous
02/03/2024 22:05
Subject: Re:I’m really surprised at the number of people who bring siblings to parties
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I’ve brought siblings to Chuck E Cheese style parties a couple of times BUT I would never dream of asking the host family to have siblings join the party, let alone pay for them! I always pay for their entry and food and goodies and entertain them away from the actual party (and yes, it’s in cases where I do not have alternate childcare).
What does this have to do w you deciding to take your other (non invited) kids to a bday party venue? Why not just drop the invited kid off and go home w your other kids? Why do you need childcare at all? Wouldn’t you be taking care of your kids regardless of whether one is attending a party or not?
DP. Doesn’t sound like she’s talking about drop off parties. It also sounds like she’s being super polite.
Anonymous
02/03/2024 22:00
Subject: Re:I’m really surprised at the number of people who bring siblings to parties
Anonymous wrote:I’ve brought siblings to Chuck E Cheese style parties a couple of times BUT I would never dream of asking the host family to have siblings join the party, let alone pay for them! I always pay for their entry and food and goodies and entertain them away from the actual party (and yes, it’s in cases where I do not have alternate childcare).
What does this have to do w you deciding to take your other (non invited) kids to a bday party venue? Why not just drop the invited kid off and go home w your other kids? Why do you need childcare at all? Wouldn’t you be taking care of your kids regardless of whether one is attending a party or not?
Anonymous
02/03/2024 21:55
Subject: I’m really surprised at the number of people who bring siblings to parties
Anonymous wrote:If the hosting family was Indian, they would probably be inclusive, call entire families, provide a hot meal with options as well as pizza and cake, have goody bags for all the kids, provide beer and wine for the adults, pack leftovers for the guests to take home and also have a clown or magician to entertain the guests.
I live in an area with lots of Indians. My kids have yet to be invited to one of their parties. My dd is close to one girl too. They say they only have family parties and don’t invite friends.
Anonymous
02/03/2024 21:54
Subject: Re:I’m really surprised at the number of people who bring siblings to parties
I’ve brought siblings to Chuck E Cheese style parties a couple of times BUT I would never dream of asking the host family to have siblings join the party, let alone pay for them! I always pay for their entry and food and goodies and entertain them away from the actual party (and yes, it’s in cases where I do not have alternate childcare).
Anonymous
02/03/2024 21:52
Subject: I’m really surprised at the number of people who bring siblings to parties
Anonymous wrote:If you aren’t the host, you really don’t know the whole story. We often specifically include entire families, because we want to get to know other parents! We live near our elementary school and my daughter had a summer birthday party in the back yard. We had beer for the adults and hired the middle schooler across the street to play with some toddler siblings. But some families dropped their kid off, which was also totally fine!
This. I’ve seen people make rude assumptions about siblings before, of course, but especially since it was a bunch of people, I think it’s likely OP missed something.
Anonymous
02/03/2024 21:50
Subject: I’m really surprised at the number of people who bring siblings to parties
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If the families are hispanic, you should expect they'll bring their entire family, some random cousins, their neighbor and a friend they picked up on the way.
Yes, this is accurate
But to other people, that is seen as taking advantage of their hospitality. There are capacity limits and headcount involved, it's not a free for all unless specifically mentioned in the invitation.
Anonymous
02/03/2024 21:47
Subject: I’m really surprised at the number of people who bring siblings to parties
Anonymous wrote:If the families are hispanic, you should expect they'll bring their entire family, some random cousins, their neighbor and a friend they picked up on the way.
Yes, this is accurate
Anonymous
02/03/2024 21:46
Subject: I’m really surprised at the number of people who bring siblings to parties
If you aren’t the host, you really don’t know the whole story. We often specifically include entire families, because we want to get to know other parents! We live near our elementary school and my daughter had a summer birthday party in the back yard. We had beer for the adults and hired the middle schooler across the street to play with some toddler siblings. But some families dropped their kid off, which was also totally fine!
Anonymous
02/03/2024 21:45
Subject: I’m really surprised at the number of people who bring siblings to parties
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Because we dont have babysitters!
Why do you need a babysitter to DROP YOUR F’N KID OFF AT A PARTY?!
1 kid. The one who the invitation is for. That is who is invited. Not you, not your spouse, not your other children. You drive your invited kid to the party, drop them off, leave, go back later and pick them up. No babysitter needed. If this doesn’t work for you, decline the invitation.
Anonymous
02/03/2024 21:43
Subject: I’m really surprised at the number of people who bring siblings to parties
Anonymous wrote:Because we dont have babysitters!
Why do you need a babysitter to DROP YOUR F’N KID OFF AT A PARTY?!