Anonymous wrote:I will never remarry. I got alimony for life and it would stop if I did. Also I like living alone. My boyfriend has his own home and he knows I never want to live together.

My aunt got alimony for life but remarried a year after the divorce was finalized. Her first husband was thrilled!

Anonymous wrote:Religious folks who don’t want sinful cohabiting situations?

Women (or men) who need more financial stability?

Just curious what exactly the perks of remarrying are, especially if you have kids already from an earlier marriage.

So many women are anti-marriage (even a first) and the perks for a second seem even more minimal.

I wasn't anti-marriage at any point in time. I don't think it's necessarily important or unimportant, but in this culture, it is definitely the way that we mark romantic commitment. If you don't marry, people take your relationship less seriously. I don't really see marrying or remarrying as anything other than participating in a cultural demonstration of commitment.

Some people (myself included, both times) marry for love. Other people, as demonstrated above, have different reasons that maybe would not be replicated in a second relationship.

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Anonymous wrote:I will never remarry. I got alimony for life and it would stop if I did. Also I like living alone. My boyfriend has his own home and he knows I never want to live together.

For life? What happens to alimony when your ex-husband dies?

He has to keep a life insurance policy.

So do I. But I set it to the lowest amount income find…20k tops.

Like is aid she will not get my properties nor my assets

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Anonymous wrote:I will never remarry. I got alimony for life and it would stop if I did. Also I like living alone. My boyfriend has his own home and he knows I never want to live together.

For life? What happens to alimony when your ex-husband dies?

He has to keep a life insurance policy.

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Anonymous wrote:I will never remarry. I got alimony for life and it would stop if I did. Also I like living alone. My boyfriend has his own home and he knows I never want to live together.

For life? What happens to alimony when your ex-husband dies?

Unless she’s the beneficiary of his estate she will get nothing. I mean she can if it’s in the divorce agreement as well. I think the only thing that stops that is if he remarried and leaves it to his current wife?

If he’s smart he set it up to go to kids or another relative. Mine goes to my kid then my brother. No way I’d let my ex get it. But then again I wouldn’t allow alimony either.

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Anonymous wrote:I see this thinking a lot on DCUM. I’m remarried as are many of my divorced friends. You marry for the same reasons you married the first time - love, commitment, financial incentives and security.

The only people I know that aren’t remarried as those who are only dating casually or not at all.

My only reason for marrying the first time was I wanted the protection because I wanted kids. I wouldn’t marry again unless it was for citizenship or something.

Sheesh, that sounds so gross and selfish.

Why? Marriage is a contract with the state. I don’t need the government in my personal affairs unless it’s to my benefit. I was madly in love with my DH when we married and full of optimism. But it’s easy for men to leave when it gets hard if there’s no paper. I had already see. It

Anonymous wrote:I will never remarry. I got alimony for life and it would stop if I did. Also I like living alone. My boyfriend has his own home and he knows I never want to live together.

For life? What happens to alimony when your ex-husband dies?

Marriage is a lost cause for men anyways. I recommend not doing it if you’re a young man who is successful and have your own property and you’re well off. Plus with the way dating apps are if you’re reasonably attractive, stay in shape and you’re financially secure you can have sex as much as you want. There isn’t a need to commit to one woman when you have options. Most keep a roster now anyways so why bother giving them a starting position when you’re probably on their bench?

Second marriages have a higher rate of divorce. If you’re a betting man you wouldn’t bet on something that has a 60-70% chance of failure. If you escaped a divorce and came out financially stable and have your kids at least half the time you did better than most. Don’t put it up to risk.

Besides, if you’re a good looking guy and you’re older you can date women in their 20s and not Have to commit.

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Anonymous wrote:Older women are desperate to remarry. You can marry someone, put up with them for 5 years or so and then inherit millions. It's a good financial plan for older women. You also can sometimes get pension and social security too.

MIL never remarried, because she has FIL's pension and benefits, and would lose them if she remarried.

The divorced women I know in their 40's remarried for money, but are not necessarily happy, because they don't know how to be happy.

Seems many people just have no idea how to be happy.

When people say they are remarrying for money, what kind of money are we talking about here?

I don’t know many women who have remarried. I’m happily divorced with no intention to ever cohabitate or marry again. One friend who recently remarried did so for financial reasons, but I don’t know how many women do that.

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Anonymous wrote:I see this thinking a lot on DCUM. I’m remarried as are many of my divorced friends. You marry for the same reasons you married the first time - love, commitment, financial incentives and security.

The only people I know that aren’t remarried as those who are only dating casually or not at all.

My only reason for marrying the first time was I wanted the protection because I wanted kids. I wouldn’t marry again unless it was for citizenship or something.

Sheesh, that sounds so gross and selfish.

I’m a widow of seven years and I’m have no intention of remarrying. My husband left me with more than enough to be very comfortable and I have no interest in supporting someone with way less. I do enjoy the company of men as long as they are my age or younger.

Anonymous wrote:I see this thinking a lot on DCUM. I’m remarried as are many of my divorced friends. You marry for the same reasons you married the first time - love, commitment, financial incentives and security.

The only people I know that aren’t remarried as those who are only dating casually or not at all.

My only reason for marrying the first time was I wanted the protection because I wanted kids. I wouldn’t marry again unless it was for citizenship or something.

Anonymous wrote:Older women are desperate to remarry. You can marry someone, put up with them for 5 years or so and then inherit millions. It's a good financial plan for older women. You also can sometimes get pension and social security too.

Old joke - what are the three most important numbers to a 50 year old divorcee? 25, 85, 105

25 - guys minimum net worth in millions
85 - guys age
105 - guys current body temperature.

Anonymous wrote:Older women are desperate to remarry. You can marry someone, put up with them for 5 years or so and then inherit millions. It's a good financial plan for older women. You also can sometimes get pension and social security too.

MIL never remarried, because she has FIL's pension and benefits, and would lose them if she remarried.

The divorced women I know in their 40's remarried for money, but are not necessarily happy, because they don't know how to be happy.

Seems many people just have no idea how to be happy.