Anonymous
Post 01/23/2024 07:58     Subject: Re:Suddenly seems like not enough HHI despite great relationship
Anonymous wrote:If you are motivated by money, I strongly suggest finding a partner that is also motivated by money. Otherwise, you will grow to resent the man you are with and his motivation level (or lack thereof) to provide for his family. All of your money concerns will only go up after having kids, not down. Kids are terribly expensive and the cost of college tuition is becoming unconscionable. There are some people who are fine living very modestly and do not feel the need to pay for their kids' college. I am not one of them so I work hard in a high-paying job to provide for my family and chose a partner who also does the same. You need to find someone who is aligned with your financial goals and values.


OP. I am very motivated by money and have told my boyfriend this. He’s still around. I’m just wondering how much is enough for what I listed. Things are really expensive and wealth and its advantages are very concentrated among a relatively small percentage of people in this country. I want to make smart decisions.
Anonymous
Post 01/23/2024 07:55     Subject: Suddenly seems like not enough HHI despite great relationship
Anonymous wrote:It seems to me that women on this forum are often the ones who are so obsessed about money. Be thankful our clueless politicians are overpaying lawyers, consultants etc in DC


Women earn less working and risk more in marriage and family. They have to be careful/obsessed.
Anonymous
Post 01/23/2024 07:54     Subject: Suddenly seems like not enough HHI despite great relationship
Anonymous wrote:Do you have the looks and personality to level up? Water usually finds its own level so there's something to be said about being happy where you are


Yes and no. I have typically dated higher earning guys in the $250-600K range but they eventually became very demanding and critical, either bc they really were not nice people or bc I’m actually not good enough; also one despite earning about $350K was cheap. I do actually require a good relationship and the overlap between high earning and kind person is going to be relatively small it seems.
Anonymous
Post 01/23/2024 07:50     Subject: Suddenly seems like not enough HHI despite great relationship
It seems to me that women on this forum are often the ones who are so obsessed about money. Be thankful our clueless politicians are overpaying lawyers, consultants etc in DC
Anonymous
Post 01/23/2024 07:49     Subject: Re:Suddenly seems like not enough HHI despite great relationship
Anonymous wrote:If you are motivated by money, I strongly suggest finding a partner that is also motivated by money. Otherwise, you will grow to resent the man you are with and his motivation level (or lack thereof) to provide for his family. All of your money concerns will only go up after having kids, not down. Kids are terribly expensive and the cost of college tuition is becoming unconscionable. There are some people who are fine living very modestly and do not feel the need to pay for their kids' college. I am not one of them so I work hard in a high-paying job to provide for my family and chose a partner who also does the same. You need to find someone who is aligned with your financial goals and values.


"I want to be rich" is not a value. Quite the opposite. But I agree if this is the way you think you should find someone aligned with your lack of values.
Anonymous
Post 01/23/2024 07:45     Subject: Re:Suddenly seems like not enough HHI despite great relationship
If you are motivated by money, I strongly suggest finding a partner that is also motivated by money. Otherwise, you will grow to resent the man you are with and his motivation level (or lack thereof) to provide for his family. All of your money concerns will only go up after having kids, not down. Kids are terribly expensive and the cost of college tuition is becoming unconscionable. There are some people who are fine living very modestly and do not feel the need to pay for their kids' college. I am not one of them so I work hard in a high-paying job to provide for my family and chose a partner who also does the same. You need to find someone who is aligned with your financial goals and values.
Anonymous
Post 01/23/2024 07:42     Subject: Suddenly seems like not enough HHI despite great relationship
Do you have the looks and personality to level up? Water usually finds its own level so there's something to be said about being happy where you are
Anonymous
Post 01/23/2024 07:41     Subject: Suddenly seems like not enough HHI despite great relationship
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If you can't make it on $250k, you are doing it wrong. Check your entitlement level


Speaking of entitlement level, not sure why OP thinks she doesn’t have to be the breadwinner or actually carry her financial weight.


A woman working FT making $250K is carrying her weight and then some. Be real.


OP says she doesn’t want to be the breadwinner or struggle. It’s in her OP.
Anonymous
Post 01/23/2024 07:38     Subject: Suddenly seems like not enough HHI despite great relationship
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If you can't make it on $250k, you are doing it wrong. Check your entitlement level

+1. With no kids, you are rich AF. Check your lifestyle.


But I want to have kids. Ideally two.


So bank some of that $250k now so you have a down payment for a house and will have some savings for a maternity leave. You make a huge income for a single person. Does your bf work retail or something? What is your concern?
Anonymous
Post 01/23/2024 07:37     Subject: Suddenly seems like not enough HHI despite great relationship
You can have kids and a house on $250k. Especially if your SAH boyfriend becomes a SAHD.
Anonymous
Post 01/23/2024 07:34     Subject: Suddenly seems like not enough HHI despite great relationship
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If you can't make it on $250k, you are doing it wrong. Check your entitlement level

+1. With no kids, you are rich AF. Check your lifestyle.


But I want to have kids. Ideally two.
Anonymous
Post 01/23/2024 07:33     Subject: Suddenly seems like not enough HHI despite great relationship
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If you can't make it on $250k, you are doing it wrong. Check your entitlement level


Speaking of entitlement level, not sure why OP thinks she doesn’t have to be the breadwinner or actually carry her financial weight.


A woman working FT making $250K is carrying her weight and then some. Be real.
Anonymous
Post 01/23/2024 07:31     Subject: Suddenly seems like not enough HHI despite great relationship
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why would you own a home if you're not married?

PP, Plenty of single people own homes. Don’t be an idiot.

OP, plenty of people making less than $500,000 or whatever ridiculous random arbitrary figure you think have happy lives and own homes. Don’t be an idiot.


OP. I don’t own a home yet. I rent, as does my boyfriend.
Anonymous
Post 01/23/2024 07:28     Subject: Suddenly seems like not enough HHI despite great relationship
Find some rich older man to sclerotically pant away on top of you. While he does his filthy business you can close your eyes and think of all the Twixes you can buy.

You are so right. With groceries costing a little more than they did a few years ago, no one should be expected to survive on a $250 k salary. Far better to dump your partner and skank yourself out to a richer man.
Anonymous
Post 01/23/2024 07:12     Subject: Suddenly seems like not enough HHI despite great relationship
Eating all those Twix you are pre-diabetic with terrible bloodwork. Don’t worry about saving retirement.