Anonymous
01/24/2024 12:41
Subject: Can I find this person and how much should I pay her/him?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'd be looking for a 16-18 year old and I'd assume I'd pay her $20/hour.
That's silly. The parent is HOME. I'd look for a 12-14 yr old and pay $10 an hour.
Other children also have homework to do when they get home. They are also tired. I would never allow a child to get home from school and then immediately go to your house to amuse a 5 year old for two hours.
OP needs to take care of her own child .
+1
Plus that 4-year old doesn’t want to do these things every day with a random 14-year old.
He wants his mom or siblings ti play with him.
Obviously this will be an unpopular opinion but you need to reevaluate treating your four-year-old as though he’s a bother who needs to be entertained. You said you have other kids and all of you will be home. Do you think having an outsider come into the home will make him less interested in spending time with the other people in your home? When you are all right there—he’s still going to want to be with mom and siblings, even if you hire a minder for him.
Anonymous
01/24/2024 12:40
Subject: Can I find this person and how much should I pay her/him?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I paid one of my neighbor's nannies for this afterschool care in their home. It's a win-win because I'm paying the full hourly rate saving my neighbor money and our kids get a playmate.
Does the nanny no longer need to take care of your neighbor's children when your child is there? You and your neighbor are cheating the nanny and she is a fool for accepting such a decision. You should be paying the same extra hourly rate as your neighbor.
LOL. I’m sure the nanny absolutely hates that her charge has some other kid to play candyland with instead of her…
Anonymous
01/24/2024 12:37
Subject: Can I find this person and how much should I pay her/him?
Anonymous wrote:I'd be looking for a 16-18 year old and I'd assume I'd pay her $20/hour.
FYI you can internally aim for this, and you can even ultimately hire in this age range…but you can’t legally specify that 16-18 is your criteria bc that’s age descrimination.
Anonymous
01/24/2024 12:33
Subject: Can I find this person and how much should I pay her/him?
Anonymous wrote:I paid one of my neighbor's nannies for this afterschool care in their home. It's a win-win because I'm paying the full hourly rate saving my neighbor money and our kids get a playmate.
Does the nanny no longer need to take care of your neighbor's children when your child is there? You and your neighbor are cheating the nanny and she is a fool for accepting such a decision. You should be paying the same extra hourly rate as your neighbor.
Anonymous
01/24/2024 12:29
Subject: Can I find this person and how much should I pay her/him?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'd be looking for a 16-18 year old and I'd assume I'd pay her $20/hour.
That's silly. The parent is HOME. I'd look for a 12-14 yr old and pay $10 an hour.
Other children also have homework to do when they get home. They are also tired. I would never allow a child to get home from school and then immediately go to your house to amuse a 5 year old for two hours.
OP needs to take care of her own child .
Anonymous
01/23/2024 16:26
Subject: Can I find this person and how much should I pay her/him?
I posted on a few mom's groups and found a HS and a middle schooler. Even 1-2x a week was tough with schedules. I found that the mom's really wanted the kids to babysit more then the kids wanted (though both were great with my kid). My DD loved the extra attention and I did it more so she could have someone to play with since she is an only child. I wouldn't rely on it for total care though. I currently have a HS babysitter now that does 3 days a week for 1 hour in her home and she is fairly regular but does cancel due to illness and events that come up.
Anonymous
01/23/2024 16:20
Subject: Can I find this person and how much should I pay her/him?
Having looked for something like this myself once, I don’t think you’re going to find someone to do this REGULARLY. you may find a MS or HS or college age person, or an underemployed neighbor…… for a while. Or for two days a week, except when they go on vacation. Or have finals. You know? It’s a hard one to staff but I feel you about absolutely needing it! Aftercare would solve it, but my kids never wanted to go to that so I struggled along until they got old enough I didn’t worry so much. Good luck and report back if/when you find something!
Anonymous
01/23/2024 16:12
Subject: Can I find this person and how much should I pay her/him?
Anonymous wrote:I paid one of my neighbor's nannies for this afterschool care in their home. It's a win-win because I'm paying the full hourly rate saving my neighbor money and our kids get a playmate.
And a lose for the nanny. Unless you pay extra.
Anonymous
01/23/2024 16:09
Subject: Can I find this person and how much should I pay her/him?
I paid one of my neighbor's nannies for this afterschool care in their home. It's a win-win because I'm paying the full hourly rate saving my neighbor money and our kids get a playmate.
Anonymous
01/23/2024 16:07
Subject: Can I find this person and how much should I pay her/him?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'd be looking for a 16-18-year-old, and I'd assume I'd pay her $20/hour.
That's silly. The parent is HOME. I'd look for a 12-14 yr old and pay $10 an hour.
I'd feel awkward about that arrangement because my own 12-14-year-old has homework and sports after school, and I feel that age range is too young for a child to have regular employment responsibilities. I imagine other families see this differently and would welcome the opportunity for their child to have a job and learn responsibility in a safe and controlled environment. Still, because I wouldn't want that for my own child, it would be hard for me to ask that of someone else's child.
But not every 12-14 yr old has after-school activities or five hours of homework. Some kids have only one or two hours of homework each day and their family needs money. When I was 12 and 13 I came home from middle school, dropped my stuff, and walked to the elementary school to pick up a girl who was scared to walk home herself. I'd walk her home, then hang with her for an hour until her mom got home. At 14 she went to middle school and I was in HS working from 4-7pm as a cashier, then at 9pm would go to a neighbor's house and walk her dog each evening. I always showed up on time. I lived in an upper-middle class neighborhood. Nobody knew our financial situation and that we were essentially house-poor and why my brother and I worked so much.
That was 20-30 years ago? Times have changed, especially for young girls.
Anonymous
01/22/2024 21:35
Subject: Can I find this person and how much should I pay her/him?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'd be looking for a 16-18 year old and I'd assume I'd pay her $20/hour.
No 16-18 year old would take that job. The parent is home. You *may* get a middle school kid but highly likely you can find someone every day. MS kids have activities and homework as well.
OP here. Thank you. Why would an highschool student not want to do this? I would be in my office and don’t want (mostly not able) to intervene or help with my son. Ideally, they would not even see me. What if I paid $25?
You’ll have better luck offering $25/hr but you’ll still have a hard time finding someone available every day.
Ok, thank you. I might try and be flexible. Perhaps I can either find 2 people to cover the 5 days or find one person for 3 days a week and manage on my own the other 2 days…
Anonymous
01/22/2024 19:53
Subject: Can I find this person and how much should I pay her/him?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'd be looking for a 16-18 year old and I'd assume I'd pay her $20/hour.
No 16-18 year old would take that job. The parent is home. You *may* get a middle school kid but highly likely you can find someone every day. MS kids have activities and homework as well.
OP here. Thank you. Why would an highschool student not want to do this? I would be in my office and don’t want (mostly not able) to intervene or help with my son. Ideally, they would not even see me. What if I paid $25?
You’ll have better luck offering $25/hr but you’ll still have a hard time finding someone available every day.
Anonymous
01/22/2024 19:52
Subject: Can I find this person and how much should I pay her/him?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'd be looking for a 16-18-year-old, and I'd assume I'd pay her $20/hour.
That's silly. The parent is HOME. I'd look for a 12-14 yr old and pay $10 an hour.
I'd feel awkward about that arrangement because my own 12-14-year-old has homework and sports after school, and I feel that age range is too young for a child to have regular employment responsibilities. I imagine other families see this differently and would welcome the opportunity for their child to have a job and learn responsibility in a safe and controlled environment. Still, because I wouldn't want that for my own child, it would be hard for me to ask that of someone else's child.
But not every 12-14 yr old has after-school activities or five hours of homework. Some kids have only one or two hours of homework each day and their family needs money. When I was 12 and 13 I came home from middle school, dropped my stuff, and walked to the elementary school to pick up a girl who was scared to walk home herself. I'd walk her home, then hang with her for an hour until her mom got home. At 14 she went to middle school and I was in HS working from 4-7pm as a cashier, then at 9pm would go to a neighbor's house and walk her dog each evening. I always showed up on time. I lived in an upper-middle class neighborhood. Nobody knew our financial situation and that we were essentially house-poor and why my brother and I worked so much.
Anonymous
01/22/2024 19:48
Subject: Can I find this person and how much should I pay her/him?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'd be looking for a 16-18-year-old, and I'd assume I'd pay her $20/hour.
That's silly. The parent is HOME. I'd look for a 12-14 yr old and pay $10 an hour.
I'd feel awkward about that arrangement because my own 12-14-year-old has homework and sports after school, and I feel that age range is too young for a child to have regular employment responsibilities. I imagine other families see this differently and would welcome the opportunity for their child to have a job and learn responsibility in a safe and controlled environment. Still, because I wouldn't want that for my own child, it would be hard for me to ask that of someone else's child.
You wouldn’t be ASKING that if someone else’s child. You would put the request out and the person that wanted to do It would say reply. The other 9 out of 10 they didn’t wanna do it just would not respond.
Anonymous
01/22/2024 19:45
Subject: Can I find this person and how much should I pay her/him?
My friend found a high school freshman to do this twice a week. Could you find two friends to split it and maybe scoot home a little early fridays?