Anonymous wrote:A lot of these kids are on ADHD meds and other meds at school urging in kindergarten+. By the time they are in high school or middle school they have already developed substance dependencies and tolerances. Parents might be buying or just looking the other way or the kid might be good at getting it and hiding it.

Kids can get their hands on dangerous drugs with access to a relatively small amount of money and unless you run your home like a prison it’s easy to miss in the business of daily life.

There will always be those parents who think addiction is normal and they will enable, but they are the minority.

Actually kids with ADHD that don’t get medication are more likely to self-medicate with alcohol and drugs.

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Anonymous wrote:No. There’s no justification. It is a red herring.
I am trying to understand why parents allow kids to throw parties and either turn a blind eye to alcohol use and abuse and/or supply it.

Why isn’t there massive parental community backlash against this?

The backlash is not letting your child go to the party or hang out with the kids whose parents do this. You hear about someone’s mom or dad storming into a party and grabbing their kid or confronting a reckless parent but it’s not super common.

It’s power for those parents and their kid because they get to make up the list of invitees. Some parents want their kids to be popular and it helps to throw the parties. It has been eye awakening.

Cringe

I really wish more parents would understand the risks of giving kids alcohol. This is upsetting and unacceptable.

Parents who think addiction is normal? Never met any of those.

A lot of these kids are on ADHD meds and other meds at school urging in kindergarten+. By the time they are in high school or middle school they have already developed substance dependencies and tolerances. Parents might be buying or just looking the other way or the kid might be good at getting it and hiding it.

Kids can get their hands on dangerous drugs with access to a relatively small amount of money and unless you run your home like a prison it’s easy to miss in the business of daily life.

There will always be those parents who think addiction is normal and they will enable, but they are the minority.

what are the legal penalties in dc/md/va for parents who allow minors to consume alcohol in their homes?

those legal problems would be on top of any civil liability if something bad happened to a kid who drank at your house

there is a crazy story about one holton family suing another--former friends- because their daughter went back to their friend's house after getting wasted at a party and then the family where the girls was staying waited a few hours before getting her to the er. not sure what the resolution was, but i guess you will sue anyone you possibly can if your kids goes out and gets hurt while drinking

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Anonymous wrote:This generation of "parents" is more interested in being liked by their kids. Hence, more interested to provide alcohol, and in some cases, get bombed w/them.

You really need to study up on boomer parents.

My boomer mom supplied alcohol/ looked the other way for my eldest sister and her friends. My mom was a depressed alcoholic. The fockery that occurred in my childhood home influenced my decision to never drink or use drugs. My children, now teens, have been raised with education about the effects and impacts of alcohol, drug use and vaping and smoking. They are well aware of our family history of addiction. Fortunately, their friend groups and their families have a similar approach to ours. There are laws surrounding alcohol use which are in place for a reason. I can't guarantee my kids won't partake or even develop dependence or addiction, but they will know 100% the risks involved in their choices.

Anonymous wrote:This generation of "parents" is more interested in being liked by their kids. Hence, more interested to provide alcohol, and in some cases, get bombed w/them.

You really need to study up on boomer parents.

Another Gen X here. We were allowed to have wine/ beer on rate occasions as teens, no
More than a glass. We allow the same - it is a 2x a year event. We have European family and younger drink age is the norm there.
Never would allow other DC to drink in my home.

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Anonymous wrote:No. There’s no justification. It is a red herring.
I am trying to understand why parents allow kids to throw parties and either turn a blind eye to alcohol use and abuse and/or supply it.

Why isn’t there massive parental community backlash against this?

The backlash is not letting your child go to the party or hang out with the kids whose parents do this. You hear about someone’s mom or dad storming into a party and grabbing their kid or confronting a reckless parent but it’s not super common.

It’s power for those parents and their kid because they get to make up the list of invitees. Some parents want their kids to be popular and it helps to throw the parties. It has been eye awakening.

Anonymous wrote:No. There’s no justification. It is a red herring.
I am trying to understand why parents allow kids to throw parties and either turn a blind eye to alcohol use and abuse and/or supply it.

Why isn’t there massive parental community backlash against this?

The backlash is not letting your child go to the party or hang out with the kids whose parents do this. You hear about someone’s mom or dad storming into a party and grabbing their kid or confronting a reckless parent but it’s not super common.

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Anonymous wrote:Kids are gonna drink and find alcohol either way. It’s a fact of life. I’m a boomer /gen X and we were able to access it freely in those days. Fake ID and lower drinking age etc. parents turned a blind eye. Every generation experiences it differently but it’s never gonna go away.

SOME Kids are gonna drink and find alcohol either way. It’s a fact of life. I’m a boomer /gen X and we were able to access it freely in those days. Fake ID and lower drinking age etc. parents turned a blind eye. Every generation experiences it differently but it’s never gonna go away.

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oh brother

Anonymous wrote:Kids are gonna drink and find alcohol either way. It’s a fact of life. I’m a boomer /gen X and we were able to access it freely in those days. Fake ID and lower drinking age etc. parents turned a blind eye. Every generation experiences it differently but it’s never gonna go away.

SOME Kids are gonna drink and find alcohol either way. It’s a fact of life. I’m a boomer /gen X and we were able to access it freely in those days. Fake ID and lower drinking age etc. parents turned a blind eye. Every generation experiences it differently but it’s never gonna go away.

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It’s just so interesting to see this and sad. New Parents are so hyper focused about every little thing when their kids are little: learning their numbers, letters, when they learned how to read, walk, Age of toilet training etc etc and fast forward 12 years when these kids become teenagers and they are starting to develop habits that they will carry on towards their adult years and it actually REALLY REALLY matters because they are almost adults … and these parents are letting them drink/ weed so permissively at home is MIND BOGGLING !

I am 37 and had a classmate at one of the Big 3 private high schools who had super permissive parents regarding alcohol in highschool and ended up dying ( at 36) due to liver failure from alcohol addiction… tragic

I don’t get where the shift happens in parenting

Anonymous wrote:This generation of "parents" is more interested in being liked by their kids. Hence, more interested to provide alcohol, and in some cases, get bombed w/them.

I'm Gen X and this is nothing new. There were definitely parents who were allowing teens to have parties with alcohol in their home.