Anonymous
Post 01/21/2024 19:54     Subject: Is mother of the groom insulting the wife by wearing black to their wedding?
Anonymous wrote:If the attire is formal I think it would be fine.

+1. Evening wedding in the city in the winter, totally fine. Afternoon beach wedding in the south might raise eyebrows.
Anonymous
Post 01/21/2024 19:47     Subject: Re:Is mother of the groom insulting the wife by wearing black to their wedding?
Anonymous wrote:MIL wore black to wedding reception. I wore red to her funeral.
Love it! I need a new piece for my wardrobe now, just to have.
Anonymous
Post 01/21/2024 19:41     Subject: Re:Is mother of the groom insulting the wife by wearing black to their wedding?
MIL wore black to wedding reception. I wore red to her funeral.
Anonymous
Post 01/21/2024 18:18     Subject: Is mother of the groom insulting the wife by wearing black to their wedding?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:In American culture. Any season. I know it’s old fashioned but I think it is a dig at the bride when significant attendees wear black, like they’re mourning. Fortunately, did not happen to me.


The mother of the groom or anyone else is not insulting the couple by wearing black. Knee length is called The Little Black Dress and it might have sparkles, trim, pattern, or be a more glossy fabric than day or funeral. Or it can go from day to evening via accessories/jewelery etc. Long is fine but one should make sure it doesn't resemble a bridesmaid dress which can be black or almost black.

If the bride and her family are from a culture that wouuld never wear black to a wedding then explain The Little Black Dress. I guarentee that there will be guests in black or black in a pattern. One groom mother looked spectacular in black velvet slacks, patterned evening jacket, and exquisite evening bag.

In the USA it's no white or ivory or champagne that could photograph as a shade of white.


+1 Any color can be worn as long as it wouldn't look like a shade of white in a photo.
Anonymous
Post 01/21/2024 11:40     Subject: Re:Is mother of the groom insulting the wife by wearing black to their wedding?
My MIL wore back to our wedding as did her daughters. What a message! I get along great with my SILs but meh with my MIL. She didn’t like that we got married while her son was still in grad school.
Anonymous
Post 01/21/2024 11:37     Subject: Is mother of the groom insulting the wife by wearing black to their wedding?
Anonymous wrote:My SIL wore black to my wedding, and some people remarked on it. I couldn't care less. She had four young children at the time, a busy career, and probably found the only slimming outfit that was also elegant and seasonal in her wardrobe. I was just happy she came!!!


You sound like the perfect SIL - your SIL is very fortunate!
Anonymous
Post 01/21/2024 11:28     Subject: Is mother of the groom insulting the wife by wearing black to their wedding?
Anonymous wrote:In American culture. Any season. I know it’s old fashioned but I think it is a dig at the bride when significant attendees wear black, like they’re mourning. Fortunately, did not happen to me.


The mother of the groom or anyone else is not insulting the couple by wearing black. Knee length is called The Little Black Dress and it might have sparkles, trim, pattern, or be a more glossy fabric than day or funeral. Or it can go from day to evening via accessories/jewelery etc. Long is fine but one should make sure it doesn't resemble a bridesmaid dress which can be black or almost black.

If the bride and her family are from a culture that wouuld never wear black to a wedding then explain The Little Black Dress. I guarentee that there will be guests in black or black in a pattern. One groom mother looked spectacular in black velvet slacks, patterned evening jacket, and exquisite evening bag.

In the USA it's no white or ivory or champagne that could photograph as a shade of white.
Anonymous
Post 01/21/2024 08:22     Subject: Re:Is mother of the groom insulting the wife by wearing black to their wedding?
Anonymous wrote:I would have preferred my mil wear black. When asked what to wear, I specifically said any color but must be a solid for pictures. You know she showed up to the wedding in the most awful floral patterned dress. It was hideous and people remarked how she looked like she was wearing her bath robe from the sixties. Let just say he didn’t make it to any of the pictures in our wedding album.


How long have u been married? Are you still this insecure and shallow?
Anonymous
Post 01/21/2024 08:11     Subject: Is mother of the groom insulting the wife by wearing black to their wedding?
I don’t care
Anonymous
Post 01/21/2024 08:10     Subject: Re:Is mother of the groom insulting the wife by wearing black to their wedding?
I would have preferred my mil wear black. When asked what to wear, I specifically said any color but must be a solid for pictures. You know she showed up to the wedding in the most awful floral patterned dress. It was hideous and people remarked how she looked like she was wearing her bath robe from the sixties. Let just say he didn’t make it to any of the pictures in our wedding album.
Anonymous
Post 01/21/2024 07:51     Subject: Is mother of the groom insulting the wife by wearing black to their wedding?
Black is only meaningful if the bride is wearing white and you think the bride still a virgin.
Anonymous
Post 01/21/2024 07:49     Subject: Is mother of the groom insulting the wife by wearing black to their wedding?
Both my mom and MIL wore black to mine.
Anonymous
Post 01/21/2024 07:49     Subject: Is mother of the groom insulting the wife by wearing black to their wedding?
My one attendant and my mother both wore black at my wedding. It was fine.

Really the most important factor is whether the bride will take it as an affront. If yes, don’t do it. If they don’t care, it doesn’t matter.
Anonymous
Post 01/20/2024 23:52     Subject: Re:Is mother of the groom insulting the wife by wearing black to their wedding?
I prefer people wear colorful clothes to a funeral. Celebrate life.

Wear whatever you look good in.
Anonymous
Post 01/20/2024 23:31     Subject: Is mother of the groom insulting the wife by wearing black to their wedding?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:No. The outfit color rules for weddings have nearly completely broken down. Even ivory and white can be okay - see Pippa Middleton.

Bad form is when the MIL looks too bridal.

The cult of black clothes being sophisticated has staying power. I watch enviously because I look terrible in that color.


absolutely false. grow up and learn etiquette


Ok...so all false. Pippa did not wear ivory. It's cool if the MIL and the bride are twinsies. And black clothes are "out". And I have bad manners. Thanks, PP! /s