Anonymous
Post 01/17/2024 12:21     Subject: Ladies, when do you hold the door for a man you’re not with?
Anonymous wrote:I go through the door and hold it for anybody right behind me.
I stand aside and hold it for anybody carrying a box, using crutches, etc.


Yes, I have literally never heard that women don't traditionally open doors for men.
Anonymous
Post 01/17/2024 12:19     Subject: Ladies, when do you hold the door for a man you’re not with?
Anonymous wrote:In public, do you hold the door for men? Growing up in New England women didn’t do this so much. I think society has come a long way in expecting males and females to treat each other as equals.


I hold the door for anyone coming in or out but have noticed as I've gotten older that a lot of people will discern who to open the door for.

I've had the door slammed on my face by a "presenting poorer women" for example but usually most men will open the door for me. I think in general men will open doors for more feminine presenting women or women with children, while some lower class women will slam the door in your face if you are " doing better" than them. lol Just my observation.
Anonymous
Post 01/17/2024 12:18     Subject: Re:Ladies, when do you hold the door for a man you’re not with?
What a weird question.

I hold the door for anyone behind me.
Anonymous
Post 01/17/2024 12:17     Subject: Ladies, when do you hold the door for a man you’re not with?
Anonymous wrote:In public, do you hold the door for men? Growing up in New England women didn’t do this so much. I think society has come a long way in expecting males and females to treat each other as equals.


I hold the door for anyone who is behind me. This is basic good manners and civility!
Anonymous
Post 01/17/2024 11:58     Subject: Ladies, when do you hold the door for a man you’re not with?
Any time there is a man close enough behind me? Weird question. I also grew up in New England and can’t understand the connection here.
Anonymous
Post 01/17/2024 11:51     Subject: Re:Ladies, when do you hold the door for a man you’re not with?
I don't really distinguish between men and women when it comes to holding the door from someone close behind me.
But I will go out of my way to open the door for a woman with a stroller. I remember how hard that was.
Anonymous
Post 01/17/2024 11:50     Subject: Ladies, when do you hold the door for a man you’re not with?
I don’t let doors shut behind me on anyone. I hold doors before I enter for anyone who looks like they need it or if it’s someone I know or if it just feels like the right thing in the moment.
Anonymous
Post 01/17/2024 11:49     Subject: Ladies, when do you hold the door for a man you’re not with?
Anonymous wrote:I’ll hold the door for anyone who is around, especially if it’ll keep it from swinging back in their face.


This. And find your NE comment weird, op. I also grew up there, then lived in various places in the UD for 17 years and Boston was the best about holding doors for who ever was behind you. Chicago was hands down the worst.
Anonymous
Post 01/17/2024 11:17     Subject: Ladies, when do you hold the door for a man you’re not with?
I'm 38 and grew up in New England. I absolutely hold the door for anyone that's behind me. I may enter first and hold it or I may let them enter first depending on the set up and situation. I've never been a fan of a man rushing to hold the door for me or trying to reach/go in front of me to get the door for me. I'm fully capable of opening a door.
Anonymous
Post 01/17/2024 11:13     Subject: Ladies, when do you hold the door for a man you’re not with?
I love when a man opens a door for me into a business where there's a second set of doors just inside -- like a bank. Then I get to open the second door for him. Always a nice exchange.
Anonymous
Post 01/17/2024 10:23     Subject: Ladies, when do you hold the door for a man you’re not with?
Anonymous wrote:I go through the door and hold it for anybody right behind me.
I stand aside and hold it for anybody carrying a box, using crutches, etc.


This. Who care about gender in that situation?
Anonymous
Post 01/17/2024 10:21     Subject: Re:Ladies, when do you hold the door for a man you’re not with?
Anonymous wrote: Hi I would hold the door for anyone right behind me but you have to be careful these days because sometimes you're stuck while 10 more people will try to take advantage of your kindness and slide right on through. I have really had to raise my voice a couple of times.[/quote
What did you have to raise your voice about?

I've always held the door, regardless of whats in their pants. I'm surprised to hear people complain about this.
Anonymous
Post 01/17/2024 10:19     Subject: Ladies, when do you hold the door for a man you’re not with?
Anonymous wrote:I’ll hold the door for anyone who is around, especially if it’ll keep it from swinging back in their face.


This. Or if they're holding something, pushing a stroller, have little kids, etc. I don't care what sex or gender you are, I'm happy to do a small kind gesture. I've done this my entire life.

The women that don't do this, are the same princesses that don't say "thanks" when someone holds the door open for them, as if people are there to serve her entitled princessyness.

- woman

Anonymous
Post 01/17/2024 10:19     Subject: Ladies, when do you hold the door for a man you’re not with?
I do this sometimes when walking through door and there are people behind. Some men freeze up and don’t or reluctantly walk through. Weird.
Anonymous
Post 01/17/2024 10:16     Subject: Ladies, when do you hold the door for a man you’re not with?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I go through the door and hold it for anybody right behind me.
I stand aside and hold it for anybody carrying a box, using crutches, etc.


This is what I expect and do and what I see for the most part.


+1, and I'm from New England (although a small town where everyone knew everyone)