Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unusual and not welcome by dcum solution: adopt a 5 yo child at 50yo. A girl, preferably, who has a good attention span and is kind. Ignore her cuteness and race. Girls are great companions in aye 50s -60s for their moms while growing up and even through college. Then you’ll have grand children to visit. A real family.

I’m dating but have myself a deadline : if not partnered by 50 I’ll adopt

What a selfish motive but anyway they don’t let 50 yo single women adopt

Disagree. I’ve known 3 different single women in their 50s adopt baby girls. This was overseas and these girls were taken from poverty and given wonderful lives.

Anonymous wrote:Co-housing.

My friends live in a co-housing building in Canada and it is amazing. They have their own condo, but the building has amazing shared living spaces including a massive kitchen and there are always people around if you want company. They have communal dinners 3x a week, trade dog walking or babysitting, share their cars if needed, etc. It was really lovely. It reminded me of living in a college dorm (with less drunk people.)

They have the same thing in Europe (I think Belgium or Switzerland, can’t remember but it was a French-speaking area-saw a documentary on it). Each person has their own small condo but meals are communal where everyone sits at big tables to eat dinner together (the cooking is done on a rotating basis). Everyone looks out for each other and they all seem very happy.

My friends and I talking about having micro houses on the same property.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unusual and not welcome by dcum solution: adopt a 5 yo child at 50yo. A girl, preferably, who has a good attention span and is kind. Ignore her cuteness and race. Girls are great companions in aye 50s -60s for their moms while growing up and even through college. Then you’ll have grand children to visit. A real family.

I’m dating but have myself a deadline : if not partnered by 50 I’ll adopt

What a selfish motive but anyway they don’t let 50 yo single women adopt

My grandmother adopted some kids when she was older. I think she thought she was helping these orphaned girls. Guess the motive matters.

I don’t think fostering or adopting to have a family or companionship is necessarily wrong. I’m still busy with my own 3 kids but I have mentioned adoption to DH and he said no. If I was a widow one day, I absolutely would foster or adopt.

Anonymous wrote:Co-housing.

My friends live in a co-housing building in Canada and it is amazing. They have their own condo, but the building has amazing shared living spaces including a massive kitchen and there are always people around if you want company. They have communal dinners 3x a week, trade dog walking or babysitting, share their cars if needed, etc. It was really lovely. It reminded me of living in a college dorm (with less drunk people.)

This should be much more popular than it is. It’s actually a great way to live at various ages.

Anonymous wrote:Unusual and not welcome by dcum solution: adopt a 5 yo child at 50yo. A girl, preferably, who has a good attention span and is kind. Ignore her cuteness and race. Girls are great companions in aye 50s -60s for their moms while growing up and even through college. Then you’ll have grand children to visit. A real family.

I’m dating but have myself a deadline : if not partnered by 50 I’ll adopt

What a selfish motive but anyway they don’t let 50 yo single women adopt

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unusual and not welcome by dcum solution: adopt a 5 yo child at 50yo. A girl, preferably, who has a good attention span and is kind. Ignore her cuteness and race. Girls are great companions in aye 50s -60s for their moms while growing up and even through college. Then you’ll have grand children to visit. A real family.

I’m dating but have myself a deadline : if not partnered by 50 I’ll adopt

Wow this is a terrible reason to adopt.

+1 absolutely horrific

Co-housing.

My friends live in a co-housing building in Canada and it is amazing. They have their own condo, but the building has amazing shared living spaces including a massive kitchen and there are always people around if you want company. They have communal dinners 3x a week, trade dog walking or babysitting, share their cars if needed, etc. It was really lovely. It reminded me of living in a college dorm (with less drunk people.)

Anonymous wrote:Unusual and not welcome by dcum solution: adopt a 5 yo child at 50yo. A girl, preferably, who has a good attention span and is kind. Ignore her cuteness and race. Girls are great companions in aye 50s -60s for their moms while growing up and even through college. Then you’ll have grand children to visit. A real family.

I’m dating but have myself a deadline : if not partnered by 50 I’ll adopt

Unusual and awful. Because you are just using a child for companionship in old age. Motivated by selfishness and would show in the parenting.

My friend’s mom lives with her divorced sister. They are kind of like a married couple.

My ILs are divorced. My MIL has a male companion. DH hates if I ask if they are romantic. He says they are friends and companions and he doesn’t want to know if they are intimate. I am not sure how they met. I have never met the guy and the kids have never met him either. mil lives out of town and visits alone when she comes. The one year we went to her house for the holidays, he wasn’t there. I can’t remember if he was with his own family or if he was in the picture then.

I would say airport parties but TBH those are a vehicle to dating, so I won't. TIA

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unusual and not welcome by dcum solution: adopt a 5 yo child at 50yo. A girl, preferably, who has a good attention span and is kind. Ignore her cuteness and race. Girls are great companions in aye 50s -60s for their moms while growing up and even through college. Then you’ll have grand children to visit. A real family.

I’m dating but have myself a deadline : if not partnered by 50 I’ll adopt

Wow this is a terrible reason to adopt.

Why? Plenty of women take on foster kids or adopt. They have the time, money, and availability.

It’s one thing to adopt because you want to be a mother, but for female companionship? And to have grandchildren in your 80s? Nutty!

Meant to say ability as the 3rd reason. I think an older women who is still healthy is a very good person to take on a foster child or adopt and older child. Most of these kids just stay in a foster care system if no one will take on their care.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unusual and not welcome by dcum solution: adopt a 5 yo child at 50yo. A girl, preferably, who has a good attention span and is kind. Ignore her cuteness and race. Girls are great companions in aye 50s -60s for their moms while growing up and even through college. Then you’ll have grand children to visit. A real family.

I’m dating but have myself a deadline : if not partnered by 50 I’ll adopt

Wow this is a terrible reason to adopt.

Why? Plenty of women take on foster kids or adopt. They have the time, money, and availability.

Anonymous wrote:Unusual and not welcome by dcum solution: adopt a 5 yo child at 50yo. A girl, preferably, who has a good attention span and is kind. Ignore her cuteness and race. Girls are great companions in aye 50s -60s for their moms while growing up and even through college. Then you’ll have grand children to visit. A real family.

I’m dating but have myself a deadline : if not partnered by 50 I’ll adopt

Wow this is a terrible reason to adopt.