Anonymous wrote:Yes. When mine was a toddler I vowed we would be city people and just take the bus to nearby activities.
Now I drive 35-45 minutes one-way 3-4x/week to a distant suburb…while passing other locations for less-competitive versions of my child’s main activity. It’s ridiculous but she’s happy, healthy and has great friends. Worst-case scenario: she falls in love with the sport and you do this drive for 10 years, best-case scenario: she crosses it off the list after one season and you move on feeling relieved to have one less what-if. And maybe she’ll be a decent skater and can have fun at birthday parties one day?!
I make the drive tolerable by batching it with other errands that can only be done by car. I don’t buy non-perishables, household supplies, go to UPS, etc. unless it’s an activity day. And then I do it all at the fancy suburban locations of the places I used to go to in the city. If I’m waiting at pickup, I always have a book or paperwork- no phone scrolling! It is good to have set times to get stuff done. In the summer I go to nearby parks or walking paths and exercise during DD’s workout.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My parents did it for me. I won't do it for my kids. Too much time in the car - little ROI.
Pick something else.
That is precious time. My tweens are trapped with us for hours. We tell jokes, hear about their lives, listen to audiobooks. And you are there for them. You have it all wrong.
Nah, I don't have it wrong. I value my time with them actually doing things WITH them, not sitting idle in a car. It's an opportunity trade off. By your answer I don't expect you to understand.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My parents did it for me. I won't do it for my kids. Too much time in the car - little ROI.
Pick something else.
That is precious time. My tweens are trapped with us for hours. We tell jokes, hear about their lives, listen to audiobooks. And you are there for them. You have it all wrong.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If she wants to play hockey, you will be doing a lot of driving, and there will be a lot of practices at miserable times. If the idea sounds miserable now, the squash it before it starts
+1. If driving is not that appealing to you, you are not going to like hockey. You are going to have to drive everywhere, and it is going to be way further than soccer.
Anonymous wrote:If she wants to play hockey, you will be doing a lot of driving, and there will be a lot of practices at miserable times. If the idea sounds miserable now, the squash it before it starts
Anonymous wrote:Yes. When mine was a toddler I vowed we would be city people and just take the bus to nearby activities.
Now I drive 35-45 minutes one-way 3-4x/week to a distant suburb…while passing other locations for less-competitive versions of my child’s main activity. It’s ridiculous but she’s happy, healthy and has great friends. Worst-case scenario: she falls in love with the sport and you do this drive for 10 years, best-case scenario: she crosses it off the list after one season and you move on feeling relieved to have one less what-if. And maybe she’ll be a decent skater and can have fun at birthday parties one day?!
I make the drive tolerable by batching it with other errands that can only be done by car. I don’t buy non-perishables, household supplies, go to UPS, etc. unless it’s an activity day. And then I do it all at the fancy suburban locations of the places I used to go to in the city. If I’m waiting at pickup, I always have a book or paperwork- no phone scrolling! It is good to have set times to get stuff done. In the summer I go to nearby parks or walking paths and exercise during DD’s workout.
Anonymous wrote:My parents did it for me. I won't do it for my kids. Too much time in the car - little ROI.
Pick something else.