I would do testing now on both of you but give it 6 more months. It usually takes 3 months to get an IVF consultation so identify some clinics and set up consultations while continuing TTC.

I’m in MA. IVF was covered by our insurance, but required we do 3 medicated IUI cycles first. After those cycles were unsuccessful, we moved onto IVF. Though, it took us a while because right after our last IUI, COVID happened! So, I didn’t start the IVF medications until March 2022, egg retrieval in April, failed FET in May, successfully FET in June. We finally had our baby girl in March 2023.

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Anonymous wrote:How did you decide it was time to move to IVF?

We haven’t had success with low-tech treatments. It hasn’t been that long though (<6 cycles), and we don’t have fertility coverage, so we’re hesitant to spend so much money when maybe this might still work. But, I also don’t want to waste more time and we’re both emotionally exhausted by month after month of negative tests. Would love to hear if you’ve BTDT.

OP, can you share your issues? That makes a difference in the answer I would give.

OP here: I’ve never seen DCUM so united on something before. So, thank you to everyone who replied we should just do it already. We’re doing it - it feels big to have made that decision and like we’re really moving forward.

You better hurry up. If the GOP has its way, IVF will be illegal.

From WaPo: The Alabama Supreme Court ruled Friday that frozen embryos are people and someone can be held liable for destroying them, a decision that reproductive rights advocates say could imperil in vitro fertilization (IVF) and affect the hundreds of thousands of patients who depend on treatments like it each year.

Decision relies on the judges’ personal religious beliefs. Good times!

Anonymous wrote:How did you decide it was time to move to IVF?

We haven’t had success with low-tech treatments. It hasn’t been that long though (<6 cycles), and we don’t have fertility coverage, so we’re hesitant to spend so much money when maybe this might still work. But, I also don’t want to waste more time and we’re both emotionally exhausted by month after month of negative tests. Would love to hear if you’ve BTDT.

OP, can you share your issues? That makes a difference in the answer I would give.

I really didn't want to do IVF but now can say I was wrong and put myself through years of stress and grief that weren't necessary by delaying. It's an intense process, but you can do it, and when you are doing it you know that you are trying everything you can instead of wondering "will I or won't I?" anymore.

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Anonymous wrote:How old are you, OP?

OP here. I’m 32. Thank you all for your answers!

Get a job at Starbucks. They have fertility coverage. >_>

If you're approaching or past 35 it is time to step up your game especially if you want more than 1.

Anonymous wrote:Right away. You'll end up there anyway.

+ 1

We did clomid and iui, injections and iui for 3 years, then ivf (7 tries), then natural ivf. Nothing worked and we wasted 6 years total. Finally used donor eggs.

Like everyone else has said, as soon as possible. I've been that person that gets pregnant easily and often. Until then I wouod lose every pregnancy. IVF hasn't helped me. So go into it understanding 1) it will likely cost 60K for one child (more than one round) and 2) it absolutely doesn't work for everyone. But once you get there that's the end of the road. Nothing anyone can do to help you.