Anonymous wrote:Or did that fade in the early 00s? Even an hour or two distance felt like you fell off the face of the Earth pre cell phones and FaceTime and before social media. But now it doesn’t seem like a big deal. And traveling to other colleges is such a breeze with apps for flights, public transportation and Uber. I wouldn’t be surprised if kids like having a significant other at a different college for an excuse to travel and go see them.

Often first semester. Or during Winter Break.

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Anonymous wrote:My DD and her BF planned to stay together, but that fell apart very quickly once she got to college (she broke up with him).

From what I've seen, the female initiates the breakup 60-70% of the time. Usually some frat god turns her head.

NP. Right on brand for a woke left wing SJW to impugn the intellectual chops of anyone to the right of Bernie Sanders.

Anonymous wrote:My DD and her BF planned to stay together, but that fell apart very quickly once she got to college (she broke up with him).

From what I've seen, the female initiates the breakup 60-70% of the time. Usually some frat god turns her head.

Back in my college days, before social media eroded privacy, you could keep your girlfriend from back home and still be "single" and available to smash at college.

My DD and her BF planned to stay together, but that fell apart very quickly once she got to college (she broke up with him).

Freshman DS and his GF are still together. They started dating the fall of senior year. He has 2 other friends still with their high school GFs. They seem to hate having to look for another girl. They already have someone they like/love. DS is super busy at school. He spends his free time with his guy friends at school.

My son and his gf started going together last year (their senior year in HS). She went off to Cali for college, and he's home doing an apprenticeship program. They spent most of Thanksgiving break together and celebrated their first anniversary. They've been together a lot over winter break too. I assume they will break up at some point, but so far the distance does not seem to be a deterrent.

Anonymous wrote:They break up by Thanksgiving --- which is unfortunate, b/c at that point, they have missed the initial meet and mix in the first few months of college when everyone is looking to find their group of people.

why don’t they go to those anyway? Weird to not attend just because you have a girlfriend from home. You still need friends!

Those that go away together have lasted at my dd’s high school/college and the ones that went within an hour of each other.

Interesting thread. The trend in our DS' class has been a mash up - they are now college sophomores so have been at for 18 months. Some broke up before start of school, soon after it started, or definitely by TG. The others kinda date other people at college but no one has become serious with someone at college. One mom has confided to me that she wishes it would end as her daughter seems to want it to end, but the BF always circles back. The kid has had some hard family challenges starting HS senior summer, so the girl is understanding.

But not like when we were in college in so many ways. My BF and I communicated by letters and occasional LD phone calls as we were both on a budget.

Anonymous wrote:lol no need to break up just date girls at college and keep your high school girlfriend as your holiday / summer girl.

This guy scumbags.

From what I saw with my kids and their friends, they mainly broke up over Fall or Winter break.

They break up by Thanksgiving --- which is unfortunate, b/c at that point, they have missed the initial meet and mix in the first few months of college when everyone is looking to find their group of people.

It remains very very common. Across the vast USA there must be some exceptions somewhere…

Anonymous wrote:Absolutely. A few broke up in April after they realized they weren’t going to the same colleges and wouldn’t stay together. That seemed extreme to me. Why not enjoy Prom and All Night Grad and all the other fun stuff together? Most of the couples I knew from my DD’s class of 23 broke up over the summer.

My DC did the April breakup which did make prom a challenge. The GF was a year younger so it wasn’t going to last although they did end up at the same college a year later.